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writes:My wife has had a affair with a man with a large penis. Mine is small. Will i continue to sexually frustrate her?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 May 2017):
 Get yourself to a lawyer to speak about infidelity in the marriage. Surely you did not see her lovers bits so my guess is she is telling you this along with the fact that she is having an affair. It sounds like she wants to hurt you and destroy your confidence. Why would she want that? How is the marriage? How do you treat her?
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (9 May 2017):
My advice is to read Fatherly Advice's column again and again until you heed it.
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reader, Phil052  +, writes (8 May 2017):
 I think your wife's infidelity is a much bigger issue than the size of her lover's cock.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (7 May 2017):
 The correct answer to this question is No, you will not continue to frustrate her, you will not continue to have sex with her, you will not continue to live with her, you will not continue to be married to her.
This is not your fault nor the fault of your physical size this is 100% due to the lack of character in your soon to be ex wife.
Making that happen is what you should be worried about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2017): Aside from the size of your penis; how well do you treat your wife? Do you have open-communication in your marriage? Are you mutually affectionate towards each other? Do you get along famously beyond the bedroom? Are you warm, creative, attentive, and affectionate during sex?
There's more to why a woman runs to another man besides the size of his junk. Did you ask HER why she had an affair?
How on earth do you know what size penis the other man has? Why did you keep your wife after the affair, if it makes you feel inadequate as a man?
Read the comments from the aunts. Maybe your insecurity about the size of your penis has made you too self-conscious and less of a lover. Has you wife ever complained?
It's more important whether she really loves you, my friend.
It's just as important whether you will ever forgive her; or only kept her to punish her (or yourself) for eternity?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2017): Are you sure she will not cheat again with this guy or with others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2017): Personally, I don't care about the size of a man's penis.That is the least important thing to me when I think about sex. Because my goal for sex is intimacy and bonding. And penis size has nothing to do with any of that.You can have sky rocketing, mind blowing sex regardless of penis size. TBH, some men with big penises suck in the bedroom. They have no clue how to please a woman because pleasing a woman is all encompassing and goes well beyond plowing through her vagina.Personally, big dicks are a turn off to me.Size issues are often men's insecurities. Just like women think all men like women with big tits. Not the case.So, I would get over your OWN insecurities. Your wife happened to fall for a guy who may or may not have a bigger penis than you. You do not know that for sure. And even if he did, SO WHAT? There is always going to be somebody in the world with something you do not have. Just the way it is.You are her husband. You are the one she is with. And if she is staying with you and is no longer with him, then forget about him. If you don't, this issue is going to ruin whatever you salvaged of this marriage. Whatever she saw in him, I can assure you it was NOT his penis size. She had a need to escape and that need can be quite strong. She was emotionally unsatisfied with your marriage or perhaps she was feeling vulnerable. So, he was just a means for her to get away from her real life for awhile. Affairs are about escape. They are not about finding a better sexual partner. Because if you think about it, anyone could be a better sexual partner regardless because they are BRAND NEW first of all and FORBIDDEN second of all. How can any spouse stand a chance under those circumstances with a person who does not know what commitment is?So, stop beating yourself up.There is nothing wrong with you.Take the time to please your wife. Make love to her. Let the passion take you both away and you will never have any more doubts.Or... leave her and find a partner who did not cheat on you. You are still having issues from the fact your wife DID cheat on you. And although you think you have forgiven her, these issues are going to plague you unless you go to counselling with her to resolve them and move forward together.Wish you well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2017): so.. how do you know that?? did you see that man yourself?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (6 May 2017):
 Only if you keep fixating on this. THAT will frustrate her.
A man's ability to please a women in bed has little to do with the size of his wonga. Trust me on this - I have experience a variety of shapes and sizes. Most of the nerves which give women pleasure during intercourse are in the first couple of inches of the vagina entrance, so you don't need a huge appendage to stimulate that area.
What does matter is that a man takes the time and trouble to find out what pleases the woman in bed, how and where she likes to be touched and for how long. Every woman is different so never assume that what turns on one woman will turn on another one. Ask, experiment and adjust. Be a considerate lover. THAT is what matters, not the size of your tool.
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