I wish I could get over the love of of my life.
Q. Hi there. I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 4 and a half years and broke up almost 10 years ago. I feel foolish and dumb to say that to this day I cannot seem to get over her. She was my first kiss, my first love, and my ...
A. 9 May 2017: Your welcome, I just hope you find the strength to look after yourself and put your own feelings first. ... (read in full...)
I can't be what my LDR boyfriend wants me to be!
Q. My ldr watches porn stars mistress who dominate men . When we talk sexy I am extremely self conscious. It's simply not in my nature to be anything like that . That's not how I am as a person but I know that's what really floats his boat . I have...
A. 9 May 2017: You and he should not be together. Simple as that. You should never change for anyone and he shouldn't either. Although it sounds to me like he just wants a online partner who will strip down for him and give him phone sex for free. Honestly how ... (read in full...)
Should I move back home? I'm feeling pathetic with no close friends, boyfriend and stalled career
Q. I'm feeling so lonely. I live with a roommate who is also very alone. I satisfy myself by watching porn. I recently found out the I was the side girl with a guy who was cheatimg on his main gf and basically wasted 8 months. My family is not near ...
A. 9 May 2017: Yes family is needed but remember they are only ever a phone call away. Have a think about career wise what you really want to do with your life? Is it what you are doing now? If so then why are you not progressing? Is the job not enough for you? As ... (read in full...)
I wish I could get over the love of of my life.
Q. Hi there. I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 4 and a half years and broke up almost 10 years ago. I feel foolish and dumb to say that to this day I cannot seem to get over her. She was my first kiss, my first love, and my ...
A. 9 May 2017: If she was a true friend she would understand why you need to let go. This is not your fault and she has nothing to forgive you for. Deep down she must understand how difficult this is for you when you still have feelings for her. Be honest with ... (read in full...)
Will it bother this man that I'm dating that I have personal problems?
Q. So I guess I'll start from the beginning in September my dad became very unwell I was originally born in London but live in Ireland in Dublin as my parents split up when I was younger. Since I found out my dad was sick I've been travelling to Londo...
A. 9 May 2017: I am sorry to hear that your Dad is so unwell. These things are never easy to deal with. It sounds like you are very clued on for your age and have everything under control. However at the moment you should focus on your Dad and being their for him. ... (read in full...)
Why is my General Manager so hung up on whether or not I like him?
Q. He is already liked by the entire staff. Especially the female staff. I am not sure if he is looking for "all" of us female to like him to boost his ego, but all he keeps mentiong is how he doesn't understand why I don't like him. I never gav...
A. 9 May 2017: Gosh he sounds like a child in the playground. Honestly don't allow this to get to you. You don't need to prove anything to him, if he wants to avoid you then let him. You get paid to do your work, so go and do your work and leave it at that. Ignore ... (read in full...)
Is something going on behind my back? Should I trust him?
Q. Is it strange for your partner of 17 years not to add you on Facebook when he says it's for workmates ..which is a lie I've never met one person he works with in 8 years has been in the same job . By accident I came across a 3 year old Twitter ...
A. 9 May 2017: Please do yourself and your daughter a favor and kick this waste off space out. He is using you for a car and a roof over his head and whatever else you do to support him. ... (read in full...)
His behaviour becomes embarrassing when he drinks
Q. I love my 44-year-old boyfriend very much but when we socialise he drinks too much. It has happened three times in the last five months. Once we were on a train and a random couple started chatting and before long the woman and he were being over ...
A. 9 May 2017: Sit down and talk to him. Tell him that you are not comfortable with him drinking and tell him why. If he refuses to cut down or give it up then walk. Because honestly it won't be worth all the heartache this will cause. ... (read in full...)
We've been dating for almost 2 years. Should I move out?
Q. Been going through a really tough time emotionally, physically and financially. I've been fighting down depression through so much guilt I'm carrying. Met a nice guy and though my heart told me I wasn't ready, he became my boyfriend and we moved in...
A. 9 May 2017: Okay lets be realistic we all do snap at times. OP was this a once off or is he constantly putting you down? If he is always making comments, have you spoke to him and told him how he is making you feel? It sounds to me like you are ready to run ... (read in full...)
I waited 3 years to tell my LDR boyfriend that I have 2 children and now he's unsure of how he feels
Q. I've been in a 3 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I'll admit I've been wrong in never disclosing to him that I've been married, divorced, and have two teenage children. I'm also 42 yrs old while he's only 33 yrs old. I've trav...
A. 9 May 2017: So did he forgive you?... (read in full...)
How do I show my emotions, open up to my boyfriend and confide in him?
Q. I have a hard time with showing my emotions to people. It 's only hard for me because I think it's embarrassing and I was honestly raised to not show any emotions like sadness or even love at times. But my boyfriend wants me to share my feelings ...
A. 9 May 2017: You feel he has some sort off mental issue? Are you happy with this man? 10 months in so surely you should know at this stage if the relationship is working or not.
We all show emotions different, don't worry about that, it doesn't make you abno... (read in full...)
Why is he denying things about his past that I believe are true?
Q. Hey all..need a little advice.. This guy I had been in a relationship has recently come on the scene, He basically moved away with work then met another girl, become engaged had a baby with her etc.. He doesn't know I know all this. I found out vi...
A. 9 May 2017: Lying about a child is never a good sign. If you are completely sure he was engaged and the child was his then end things. I wouldn't trust someone like this. Stop fooling yourself in to thinking their must be some reason. Don't fall for him then ... (read in full...)
How can we successfully transition to, and survive as a LDR couple, after 3 years of dating each other at our college?
Q. Hi! My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, and we're now graduating college, and for the next year, will be in different countries... we know it's going to be hard, but we think we can get through it. I'm honestly really stressed beca...
A. 9 May 2017: It can work. You have had three years together so am sure you both know at this stage that the relationship is for keeps. Off course it is scary and you are worried. That is only natural. But a year will fly in. Just be prepared. Keep in contact ... (read in full...)
Do I confess to my date about his ex?
Q. What do I do? I've got a date with this guy who I've fancied for a long time, but last year, I catfished his ex. Not on purpose, I just wasn't comfortable at the time with my sexuality. We spoke every day and then I realised after a couple ...
A. 9 May 2017: Truthfully I think you should avoid going on a date with him. You cat fished his ex so I doubt nothing serious can ever happen between you two or else he will find out and it will be a lot off drama. Maybe find someone else to go on a date with and ... (read in full...)
What can I do to prevent falling for other men while I'm in this relationship? And what do I do about the guy that I kissed recently?
Q. I've been in a relationship for 6 years. I love my man with every once of me. I cannot imagine my life without him. I care for him more than I care for myself. I constantly worry about his well being, whether he's happy, whether he's eaten, tired ...
A. 9 May 2017: You shouldn't be in this relationship. At the end off the day you are a cheater and a liar. If you where a guy you would be slaughtered on here by now. If you love your boyfriend as much as you say you do then you would tell him the truth. You would ... (read in full...)
Need some advice on a love-triangle situation, please?
Q. Hello everyone, I would like some insight on a particular scenario involving two women, one of which is my current girlfriend and the other a friend and also pseudo-romantic interest. Let me explain the backstory. I met two different...
A. 9 May 2017: This is not fair to yourself J or C. J is clueless that this is going on and C is pretending to be a friend to keep close to you but she secretly hopes you will see what is in front off you and end things with J. Stop playing the two off them, I ... (read in full...)
Unhappy in my relationship and I'm attracted to my friend but he's got a girlfriend.
Q. Hello dearcupid, I am a 24 year old woman, currently in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend--let's call him K. We have been together for over five years, and a lot has changed during that time. He is about to turn 39, so there is an age ...
A. 9 May 2017: You got in to a serious relationship quite young and off course you are going to change. It sounds from your post that this relationship is over. You might not want to admit it but it looks like it has ran its course. The age gap won't help matters ... (read in full...)
I miss my teacher so much!
Q. I am really confused about my feelings for my former teacher. It's been just a few days less than six months since I last saw her,and I still miss her terribly. I was shocked when a sub told our grade that our teacher "won't be back this semest...
A. 9 May 2017: At the moment your hormones are probably all over the place that is why you are getting upset more easier than usual. She was a role model for you and you miss her. That is okay. But it is okay to let her go also and focus on the new teacher. It ... (read in full...)
We would love to have a child but I worry I am too old!
Q. Hello, My partner and I have been together for two years now and we have both been married before. We would like to have a child together but I am worried about my age. I have just turned 39 and I worry that is too old. My partner is 42 and he is ...
A. 9 May 2017: To female anon who said that you have lived through it and for them to think of their baby. May I say that you should be thankful you had two parents who loved you and supported you. Lots off children end up in care and orphaned. They are the ones ... (read in full...)
Should I stay, hoping for a ring and a piece of paper, or leave now?
Q. I have been with my partner for 2.5 years and our relationship journey has been one of the toughest I have ever experienced with anyone. During our time together, we have had to put up with travelling 90mins each way to see each other as we both...
A. 9 May 2017: 2.5 years of hard times? You feel distance is hard times, try living on the streets for that long and you might change your point off view. Look at the end off the day he is not willing to meet you in the middle. It seems he got angry because he is ... (read in full...)
Best friends--to choose or not to choose?
Q. ****My first question was incomplete, ignore. Please answer this one!**** I am friends with these two guys for about 9 years. They are both married. I noticed over the past 4 years the relationship with the two of them crossed over so many bou...
A. 9 May 2017: Do you have an ear for their wives as well? You say you are close friends but it sounds from your post that you are wanting more than that. Have you fallen for one or both off them? Honestly friends or not you should NEVER cross that barrier if ... (read in full...)
I wish I could get over the love of of my life.
Q. Hi there. I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 4 and a half years and broke up almost 10 years ago. I feel foolish and dumb to say that to this day I cannot seem to get over her. She was my first kiss, my first love, and my ...
A. 9 May 2017: No there is nothing wrong with you, you just need to find the inner strength in you. I know how it feels, I have been their. It took me a long time to cut someone from my life even though I knew I should have had done so a long time ago. Believe me ... (read in full...)
I cant let go of this anger!
Q. I am having trouble letting go of anger and resentment for someone that has got under my skin. The guy isn't a close friend, he was more of an acquaintance that I would see and speak to from time to time due to overlapping friendship group...
A. 3 May 2017: Move on. The only person you are letting down is yourself. Holding on to anger for this long is not healthy. He done nothing wrong. She done nothing wrong, and if you cannot control your feelings then you will never be able to hold down a serious ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your bridal party and family cannot get along while making plans for your wedding shower and bachelorette party?
Q. What do you do when your bridal party and family cannot get along while making plans for your wedding shower and bachelorette party? I have a Pinterest board setup and shared it with my bridal party and they are having opposing views on what they ...
A. 3 May 2017: Who is paying for this shower and bachelorette party? If it is yourself then organize what you want to do. If it is your parents then think off the cost on them and it does mean they have more off a say. If it is your Bridal party then let them go ... (read in full...)
I'm now taller than my former boyfriend and feel uncomfortable about it!
Q. Hi I used to date a guy in school (we were young and it wasn't really serious.) He was taller than me back then and often teased me about being shorter than him. I didn't really mind because it was always meant jokingly. After 10th grade he we...
A. 3 May 2017: Why would this be an issue? Are you still interested in him romantically? Are you insecure about your height? Or is it you are worried what he will think off how tall you are.
Don't avoid him, so you grew? Everyone does, and while yes you are tall... (read in full...)
Am I selfish for wanting some intimacy?
Q. My Fiancee and I have been together for a few years now and at first we had a fantastic sex life but now we are down to having sex maybe once every couple of months if that. And even then she doesn't seem to be interested so neither of us enjoy it. ...
A. 3 May 2017: Its clear she is not happy with herself, she is down about the weight gain and therefore she doesn't want to show you her naked and has lost her libido. If it helps maybe you could get to the root off the problem by both joining a gym. Good clean ... (read in full...)
Am I being too demanding? His excuse is, ''yes, but just not yet.''
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for several years. We do not live together. He wants me to move in with him, but I won't, because his ex-wife still has a key, and he refuses to change the locks. I don't feel safe leaving my things in his house ...
A. 3 May 2017: honestly it doesn't sound like he is ready to fully let go off his ex at this stage. He knows he is not treating you as he should be hence the reason why he is getting defensive and trying to throw it back on you. Me personally if I wanted to get ... (read in full...)
Does this man care?
Q. I recently returned back from Australia to Ireland to look after a sick relative. My WHV was almost up and I have plans to go back in the near future to some touring that I didn't get to do this time round. 3 months before returning I started a "no ...
A. 3 May 2017: Talk to him and tell him how much he confuses you. It seems he doesn't know what he wants. Talking about marriage after three months off no strings attached is not great. Slow things down. Get to know each other more. ... (read in full...)
Is this something to stick with?
Q. Now just so you know my partner does not want to leave me ....however should I leave him??? I have been through a lot in life I grew up with a compulsive liar for a mother (not spoke to parents for 2yrs)..I have also lost a child when he was 11yrs ...
A. 3 May 2017: You have suffered a lot, but I won't think being with a liar is good for you, not after your mother being one. If you are thinking off leaving him then do it for yourself and not him. ... (read in full...)
Why won't he apologise?
Q. I recently posted a question a few weeks ago. My bf and I both live in the UK and we had big argument on his birthday and he refused to accept my card and gifts for him and told me is done. I saw on his Facebook he had been sexting and ...
A. 3 May 2017: I remember your other post. You are not over him because you are not letting him go. It is a terrible idea to contact him. He is more than likely not sorry for what he has done, and you getting angry at him won't change that. Even if he does send a ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep tabs on who I date? What can I do?
Q. It’s ok if he moves on and is in a relationship but its not ok for me to do it?. I’m not saying I let him get involved in my life but my question is what can i do for him to stop/protect myself. (I actually don't let him get involved. He finds out ...
A. 3 May 2017: Long and short off it go to the police and ask for a protection order. I hope everyone he hit pressed charges against him. It is the only way he will stop. I don't see why you should do anything or cut people out because he has issues. ... (read in full...)
I've been with my boyfriend 2.5 years and never had sex. I think he's in love with his ex
Q. Hi. I am 56years old and my boyfriend is 55. I have been with him for 2 1/2years. Lived with him for 14 months out of that time. He has never made love to me although he says he loves me. I also found out, reading his own words that right before ...
A. 3 May 2017: You deserve so much better, don't let your age allow you to settle for a man who doesn't care for you.... (read in full...)
I need to forgive myself.
Q. The guy I used to date for a short period of time, kind of dumped me in a very rude way. Well I wanted to dump him too, but I tried to do it in a decent way. He got angry and simply dissapeared, not before making me feel like crap. I wished I could ...
A. 3 May 2017: Honestly you have admitted yourself that this relationship was over, so it doesn't matter really who broke it off. If you have some stuff you want to get off your chest then write in all down in a letter for him, put all your emotions in to it, seal ... (read in full...)
I wish I could get over the love of of my life.
Q. Hi there. I was involved in a long distance relationship for about 4 and a half years and broke up almost 10 years ago. I feel foolish and dumb to say that to this day I cannot seem to get over her. She was my first kiss, my first love, and my ...
A. 3 May 2017: You need to be strong enough to let her go. You are just torturing yourself staying friends with her. It is stopping you moving on and finding someone else. ... (read in full...)
Best friends--to choose or not to choose?
Q. ****My first question was incomplete, ignore. Please answer this one!**** I am friends with these two guys for about 9 years. They are both married. I noticed over the past 4 years the relationship with the two of them crossed over so many bou...
A. 3 May 2017: Wow what a truly nasty heartless person you are. I mean sorry but how on earth is it a good idea to play along with married men? I think you want them to chase after you. It sounds to me like they are your FRIENDS. They are married does that not ... (read in full...)
What is going on with his ex? What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, some of u may remember me from my past questions.. Ill give a little background info. Around october i was really active on this site, I'm 19 years old (now 20) and i was in a really toxic relationship with a 35 year old man.. It was...
A. 3 May 2017: Yeah he does still love her. He has an addiction to alcohol and drugs. My guess is she hurt him and he is dating you to ease the pain. But honestly you should never allow someone to treat you like this. If it was me I would have been gone a long ... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club, I went to see male dancers and an "eye for an eye" isn't feeling good right now
Q. I feel like the back story is needed (see below). But, my question is how do I let go of the fact my boyfriend went to a strip club TWO nights in a row while on business? I eneded up going to a male strip club for a girls night recently, now I'm ...
A. 2 May 2017: Honestly you are way to immature to be in a relationship. You went out off your way to try and make him jealous, which is simply spiteful and cruel. You should end things with him, because it doesn't sound like you trust him and you try and hurt him ... (read in full...)
The fiance, the step daughter, the baby mama and possible cheating!
Q. Hello, I have been engaged for over 2 years to the man of my dreams. However,we dont get along all the time. He has a daughter and I have a son. Now, his babymother is in the picture and my son father is not. But he gets his daughter every w...
A. 2 May 2017: Yeah I think you need to leave. You need to see him and his daughter as a package and you simply don't therefore you guys shouldn't even be engaged. Off course he wants you to do his daughters hair, he wants you both to bond, but if that is not what ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to move to another country. I don't
Q. My husband wants to move overseas to expand his business. He already has a team abroad but wants to be there in person. Long story short it makes sense for the business I, however, want to stay here. I'm not fond of the country he wants to move to...
A. 2 May 2017: That's the thing with marriage you have to figure out what is best for you both not just for one person. You don't mention your career. Is that important to you? Can you easily find a job in that country? I understand not knowing the language and ... (read in full...)
How would men feel if they joked about something sexual and their partner said yes?
Q. Before I start, let me just say, I am not a woman of the world. I didn't lose my virginity until my wedding night, aged 24. Me and my husband have been married 12 years now and are still very much in love. The problem is our sex life. It is very ...
A. 2 May 2017: Go for it, but small changes at a time. Don't go full steam ahead. Just try something new every time you have sex. I mean he is your husband so surely you can both talk to each other. Him joking really is his way off telling you what he wants. So ... (read in full...)
Did I do something so offensive that my b/f needs to rethink our relationship?
Q. Soooooo my bf and I have been together for a few years now. We have a mutual friend who we've been cool with for a decade. This friend chills with us every other day. My bf feels like our friend doesn't respect him and has attempted to talk with him ...
A. 28 April 2017: Could it be that your friend is around a lot and your boyfriend is beginning to feel like a third wheel in his own relationship? I think this would effect me as well. I mean yes off course you are able to have male friends, but it seems you are ... (read in full...)
My partner versus my children. Am I over-reacting about it all ?
Q. I've had a big argument with my partner and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong about it all. I have two children from a previous relationship who are 13 and 11 and I think they are well behaved. They do extremely well in school, at parents evening ...
A. 28 April 2017: Honestly why are you with this man? He has no right to judge you or your children. I would kick him out and end things, put your children first. They are at a delicate age where they pick up on things and I would hate to think they feel like they ... (read in full...)
I waited 3 years to tell my LDR boyfriend that I have 2 children and now he's unsure of how he feels
Q. I've been in a 3 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I'll admit I've been wrong in never disclosing to him that I've been married, divorced, and have two teenage children. I'm also 42 yrs old while he's only 33 yrs old. I've trav...
A. 19 April 2017: OP your children have not been the reason you have not lived your life for 16 years so please do not blame them. I know plenty off single mothers who go on dates, the difference is from date one the admit they have children and let the guy know that ... (read in full...)
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