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writes:i love my girlfriend and she loves me, but we have been going out for almost two months and we've only kissed once and i cant bring myself to do it. i have veeery little dating experience(one other girl that i never even kissed even though we dated like 3 or 5 months) and i get too embarrassed to kiss her, and she hides it but she's not happy about that.. i don't want to break up but i think she might be thinking about it, how do i grow myself a pair of balls? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Only way to get good at it, it try it, practise and keep trying!
Jsut start out slowly, just lips to lips. You will figure out what to do next, trust me.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Heh. Are you in sports? Do you play a musical instrument or are a dancer? Are you an artist? Are you in school? Have you ever studied martial arts?
I ask because when people start out in a hobby (especially sports or music), they start choppy. They make mistakes. They look or sound foolish at first. But as everyone always says,
"Practice makes perfect".
Kissing isn't exactly the stuff of movies. You start awkward, but if you practice at it and become a very eager student of the art, you will soon become a virtuoso. But you must start at square one. Don't be afraid to make the mistakes. A good and loving sense of humor is a good antidote to nerves. Everyone bangs teeth once in awhile. Everyone slobbered at first a little (or kissed a slobberer :|).
Kiss her as much as you can, as often as you can, and soon you'll be so overwhelmed with heady sexual tension that you will wonder why you were ever nervous to begin with!
But PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE until you both have face-burn!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2011): If you love her, then you'd only want her to be happy, right? That would make you happy, right? Well, if she a kiss from you makes her happy, then why don't you kiss her? It's not that hard. I mean, sure you can get anxious, but it's not like she doesn't want it. She's waiting for it. Patiently. And she's losing her patience! I know this'll sound crazy, but you should try it. Imagine that she is sleeping beauty. Imagine that the only way to awaken her from her sad, never ending sleep, is to kiss her. You love her and she loves you, and right now, she's desperately calling for your help. A kiss that will open her eyes, a kiss that will make her feel warm, loved, and happy. If you are really having trouble, just print out a picture of her and try kissing that until you can get used to kissing her. If that still doesn't help, try to find the best moment to kiss her. Maybe after watching a great movie with a happy ending. Try kissing her at a time that feels most right, and romantic for the both of you. Well, that's all the advice I have to give you. Good luck, mate!
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (13 October 2011):
I used to be exactly the same as you when I was your age. The only answer is that you have to just DO IT. Try not to build it up in your head, remember that you are the one in control and she is waiting for you to make the first move. She WANTS you to make the first move.
When you have kissed a few times and you can see how much she loves it, you won't be so shy any more to kiss her.
Maybe if you don't want to spontaneously kiss her, you could say "I've spent all this time with you, it's about time I come on over there and give you a big kiss" then go for it! She'll love it and you'll feel great for it.
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