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writes:My girlfriend has been on wheelchair since birth but she's well educated and doing teaching . I think she's so pretty that one can easily compare her with Fairy. She's 5 years younger than me and I am her first boyfriend . We are in a relationship since June 2008. When recently, I disclosed this on my parents telling them that I wana marry her, they started yelling at me, calling me an idiot and refused her for two reasons - being disable and belong from poor family background. They made it crystal clear on me that If chose her as my life partner, they would dump me and wouldn't get a thing from their property. I never thought such loving parents would do this to their elder son and my head is still swinging in the air wondering how come blood relationship be so cruel to you? Now I have decided to marry her without their assent and just not interested in their so-called big business empire and stuffs because I have traveled to far ahead with her and can't imagine my life without her being around me. Don't you think my decision is correct one? I would be more than obliged if you people could put some light on my current situation . Thanks in advance!
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reader, ShiShisAdvice  +, writes (14 October 2011):
 Please marry this lovely girl for a lifetime of happiness. Do the right thing. So good shallow parents produced Angel of a son.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (14 October 2011):
I really commend you for doing this, but even so, read "The Old Man"s post carefully. My mom has been wheelchair bound (electric) for quite some time and requires 24/7 care. My dad and hired nurses take on that task. I pop in often to lend a hand as well. My mom and dad have been married for 25 years now. Their relationship is strong, but it takes a special kind of person (both sides, I must mention) that can make it work. Really make sure for yourself if you are that kind of person. My dad didn't have that luxury so I guess I'm just really happy he turned out the way he did.
Your family will come around. If they love you, they will. It'll just take time, maybe a lot of time, so make sure you're able to stand on your own feet without them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 October 2011):
 I agree that you made the right choice. Do you work outside of the family business? Is your job secure? That would be my only concern that if you work with the family they will include your job as part of the cut off.
Hopefully your parents will change their minds later on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2011): You are a very good person! You love her for herself and see passed her disability! Who cares if her family is poor and she's in a wheelchair? You see the amazing woman that she is and that is highly respectable and wonderful!
Your parents are prejudice and cruel. They are fools to believe she is worthless due to her family history and disability. They are wrong for their behavior, very, very wrong. Money is not everything. Love and respect, the joy of being with the correct person for you,- those are the true treasures in life!
Go and marry her! Have a rich life in love! Your parents are the ones missing out by their foolish cruel behavior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2011): This sounds so lovely and you clearly do adore her. I would say just go ahead with your plans. Your parents will probably change their minds with time, but just be mature enough to "leave the door open" because sometimes when people realise that they have behaved like jerks they still won't change because their pride won't let them.
Try to set an example to them of how they should be behaving - I think after time they will accept everything and you need to be strong and 'lead' the way. Please forgive their immaturity, you sound strong enough to be able to do this.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 October 2011):
Yes you are. You love this woman, you know it and she knows it. That's all that matters in the end.
As for your parents? Well, anyone who wants you to dump someone because they're in a wheelchair isn't worth your time. Never be blackmailed by anyone, especially those who are supposed to love you..
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Ill say this as respectfully as possible. F*** your parents. Shes goal oriented has a stable job and her job deals with kids a strong indicator shell be a good mother. Her idignant background is irrelevant. Doesnt mayter where u come from it matters where it brings u. i dont say this often on here however follow ur heart on this one guy.
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reader, natasia +, writes (13 October 2011):
 No doubt. You are doing the right thing. I am sure you will be very happy with your girl. She for sure will be with you. Your parents should be proud of you, rather than angry with you.
They don't like it because you are being independent and doing something they wouldn't chose for you. But you are in control, not them. It is your life.
And anyhow, I'm pretty sure that at one point or another they will come round, even if it is only in 10 years time.
Be happy. Well done. Hearing your story, I am proud of you!
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reader, KittieS +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Sweetheart you love this girl, you sound like you adore her, she I am guessing makes you happy and she is your princess. In turn I am sure she feels the sane way about you, you wouldn't have been together for do long otherwise.So what if she is from a poor background! She's making a life for herself as a teacher and sounds to me like she wants that life to be with you! Money means nothing in comparison too love and happiness.As for being "disabled" well there are many people in this world and were all different.I admire you for loving your lady, and being strong - your parents will come round in time, but you must follow your heart and I for one am very very happy that you found love. I know it must be very hard with your parents, but follow that heart of yours.
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