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writes:Hi I have been married for a few months and I feel like my husband is pulling away from me. He used to ask me if I wanted to go places with him and now he just gets up and goes without saying anything. I am going to admit our relationship went really fast and I am worried now that he is having second thoughts. By fast I mean after 2 months we got married. We are having some financial problems and he wont talk to me very much either. I am unsure what to do. I was previously married once before for over 7 years. It was a very bad decision but it is over now, but I am starting to feel like this relationship is going to end the same way. What should I do to stop feeling so insecure in this relationship ?
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Wow, two months is very fast. You can't learn everything you need to know about a person in two months to know if you can be life long partners. Maybe he is learning new things and/or habits about you that he doesn't necessarily like. I know when my husband and I first moved in together before we were engaged I learned things about him I didn't care for. I may jane acted distant while I thought about how much the things bothered me. This might be your husbands issue.
No matter what the issue is, you need to talk to him. He is your husband and you should be able to go to him about anything and everything. You are in the learning phase of the relationship and you have already vowed to be his partner in life so this can add extra stress. Make the first step and open up the lines of communication. If there is no communication, your marriage could end so start the work now.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2011): I feel some times men just want space
,we women are more for being In-love and want To share our time with our guy,
Ok like me. I have been married almost 3 years and I see my husband mostly on the weekends.His work keeps him away.
But he wants his space....I give him that.
what I want is some of his time.
So maybe You should try Not ask to spend time with him ,But try just Making plans .If he doesn't want to go with you then you go .after awhile he will see your always doing things ,He will either join you ,Make conversation with you. But to get out of your relationship Now ? I think that's Wrong
You made a vow,and It takes work,If hes abusive then yes.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Wow and I thought I was quick... 2 months is not a long time to know someone much less marry.
yes it can work out but it's going to take both of you to WANT to work it out.
Do you guys talk at all? Do you talk about the things that are bothering you?
have you told him you want to do things with him?
if you can't talk to him about it... are you willing to get an annulment and get out now?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 October 2011):
 You got married after two months? Wow that was very fast and no where near enough time for you to be totally sure the two of you are compatible. Off course cracks are going to start appearing now. I wouldn't blame this on you being insecure it is probably more like you are still getting to know one another and things are starting to show a strain now. I guess the only thing that can be done is talk to each other. Share your thoughts and fears with your husband and come to some sort of agreement that will suit you both, you will both need to put in the effort to communicate.
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