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writes:I'm a teenage boy and like most teenage boys, I masturbate. For fun, for relaxing, for stress relief. Recently I noticed that for some reason, I feel a bit lonelier than when I started. Basically, I long for that type of connection with someone else. I wish I could stop masturbating and start getting involved with someone I love. I mean, why does it make me lonely to masturbate? And what can I do to drop the habit and find love?Please don't tell me that I have plenty of time and that I should just worry about my studies; it makes me feel more depressed when people say things like that.Thank you to anyone who would give me some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'll try and see if I can talk to more girls and maybe I can take things slowly from there. I don't intend to rush, but I do feel kinda bored with my teenage life. As for letting imagination run wild, it's not easy to do so when I don't have infinite privacy. I mean, you can only enjoy yourself to a certain extent while making sure other people in the house can't hear you. Thanks for the answers; especially the first one. The last answer also made me laugh a bit (even though it was the least helpful).
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): They isnt nothing wrong with masturbateing i do it evey nite and i have been single for five years . I watch porn when i do it and i watch disney channel when i do it . I also do it when i see girls walking around in walmart
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Hello,I guess because your longing for something more intimate, and it will happen but try not to put too much emphasis on the "sex" thing right now.I think another poster suggested thinking about more intimate situations, perhaps imaging different scenarios will help. What I suggest is try to meet girls, talk to them but respect them. You sound like the kind of young man who will, but keep in mind being intimate with someone is a very special thing for both of you. Don't rush your first time, I have male friends who rushed and they do regret it. Make it with someone special, learn about each other first, in every single way because I promise you it will be a much more wonderful experience.Everyone gets lonely, and thinks there "missing something" when there on their own, that's because human beings are meant to have companions - but we need the right one! Also your hormones are flying around like nobodies business!!In the meantime, think about what you enjoy and like, think about a scenario you would like to enjoy, your find a special person - it took me years to find mine, but they are there Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2011): Unless you're addicted you don't need to stop.
But you need to open your eyes and look around you. There may be a girl right in front of you who is interested and you didn't notice. A lot of girls are not so confident that boys will notice them if they are not the perfect pretty 10. So they never speak up (we're just as scared as boys, trust me.)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Yes it is normal for you to masturbate to relief many of life's problems, and off course having a physical relationship with someone is a big part of life. You are reaching puberty and off course your hormones are all over the place so it is completely normal for you to want to experiment sexually with someone to share it with therefore that is why it is making you feel lonely. It is your own mind kicking in telling you that somebody should be there to share it with. But am afraid there is nothing you can do in life to make this happen. You are still quite young and you are under age to have sex so this can have trouble on its own.
If it is a girlfriend you are looking for well then you can always look to see if any girls catch your eye. If they do get to know them more. Be confident around them and then ask them out. Building a loving relationship takes time and effort and off course feelings on both sides. It does not just happen over night am afraid. So yes you do need to give it time and you do need to find someone who feels the same way as you. For now when you are masturbating try using your imagination. Let it run wild and in your mind pretend that you are with someone else. Play around with your imagination and create different scenes in your head.
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