Wife talking to a FWB from 15 years ago. Should I worry?
Q. Should I be worried about my wife talking with here friend with benifit from about 15 years ago? My wife and I have been married 13 years and have two girls. About four month ago i notice my wife was becoming very secretive with her iPhone. ...
A. 2 September 2012: Wow. She should be apologizing to you. You didn't drive her to do anything. She made the choice to be disloyal and cheat on you online, and she did it again even after you both talked about it.
The rule with these things is NO CONTACT. Not "co... (read in full...)
Boyfriend posts about our relationship problems on Facebook.
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I discussed a problem we've been having and it didn't turn out so well. We ended up arguing then ended the discussion. A few weeks ago we had got into an argument and he posted a status about it on facebook. He says it'...
A. 1 September 2012: I could not handle that, nor would I put up with it. This guy venting about his problems is an immature ego thing because he's publicly looking for sympathy among his Facebook friends. If he wanted to "simply vent", he could buy a diary or keep ... (read in full...)
Your opinions on the state of virginity in teenagers today.
Q. This question is not really a screaming for help, but most likely is just for own purpose, I just want to know other opinions. Since my 'career' in dating started, I woke up and realized that girls, lost their virgins younger than ever. I mean, from ...
A. 31 August 2012: I read your response.
Are you saying that if boys want sex at 15, it's right because all guys are after it and it's just the way it is, but if a girl just wants sex at 15, it's wrong??
You know, guys have been trying to tell us this for the pas... (read in full...)
Your opinions on the state of virginity in teenagers today.
Q. This question is not really a screaming for help, but most likely is just for own purpose, I just want to know other opinions. Since my 'career' in dating started, I woke up and realized that girls, lost their virgins younger than ever. I mean, from ...
A. 31 August 2012: Heh. I was my husband's first, and it was him who insisted that we wait until marriage. He was the one who resisted temptation when we started steaming up the windows. He was the one who said no. Did that mean he had a low sex drive or was in ... (read in full...)
Your opinions on the state of virginity in teenagers today.
Q. This question is not really a screaming for help, but most likely is just for own purpose, I just want to know other opinions. Since my 'career' in dating started, I woke up and realized that girls, lost their virgins younger than ever. I mean, from ...
A. 30 August 2012: See, you just lost me. You learned something about yourself when you lost your virginity, and now you know that you value sex more than simply an animalistic stick vs. hole.
But you, by saying "boys are born to be assholes and stick their ..... (read in full...)
Your opinions on the state of virginity in teenagers today.
Q. This question is not really a screaming for help, but most likely is just for own purpose, I just want to know other opinions. Since my 'career' in dating started, I woke up and realized that girls, lost their virgins younger than ever. I mean, from ...
A. 29 August 2012: Let me ask you this:
Are you a virgin?
I have no problem with a guy who prefers to date a virgin woman, PROVIDED that it's not to take "trophies" and gain an ego boost to deflower her.
I also think that a guy who insists on dating a virg... (read in full...)
I'm staring at the dissolution of my marriage...
Q. Hey guys its been a while since I last posted. I thought everything would come along well with my wife and I but I'm sadly mistaken. She has really turned against me. It all started just after she left for her 9 week holiday. She started saying...
A. 29 August 2012: I agree with Cally on this one.
You have written proof that she married you for deceptive purposes. You have her proof that she married you for money. You have proof that she was simply using you, and that she was using you from the moment y... (read in full...)
I am a bisexual man who is ready to settle down, but with which gender?
Q. I'm a 35 years old bisexual Asian man. I've dated a number of guys and girls in the past, but only had one relationship with a girl (she's my ex now) for a year. I don't know whether it's the way I look or act. I seem to have good luck asking ...
A. 29 August 2012: You've thought well about it when looking for a particular gender, but you've missed the true issue:
Connecting with a person.
So you're bisexual. So what? Straight or gay people have attractions to people when they're in relationships. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is a cheapskate with me but can spend the money on himself. I'm sick of it.
Q. My boyfriend is so, so cheap with me. Scenario: We don't usually ever go out to eat anymore. If we do, I'm the one who pays (he insists that I do) because he buys food for his apartment and shares it with me when I come over (even though he's rea...
A. 28 August 2012: I concur. If he was frugal all around with himself and you, I'd say that he needed a stern talking about the word "Dutch". However, he is extremely selfish. He is cheap with you and isn't fair. Not only that, but he is controlling if he's ... (read in full...)
Taking care of my boyfriend's sick mother and he doesn't appreciate it
Q. My boyfriend's mother who lived in new jersey fell really sick,she fell of the stairs,broke her back literally couldn't move,nor eat or go to the toilet..my boyfriend who was in spain at the time could not make it to her at the earlierst so I ...
A. 27 August 2012: Your boyfriend needs to shut up and get his ass home to take care of his own mom. What a slime.... (read in full...)
He's engaged, his fiancé is pregnant, but WE have feelings for each other. What should I do?
Q. I have a friend who is engaged to be married but is very unhappy in his relationship. We have recently discovered that we have strong feelings for eachother. The issue is his fiancee is 5 months pregnant (unplanned). We would never act on those ...
A. 27 August 2012: You've gotta hear me on this:
What if it was your mom? What if it was your sister? What if it was your best friend in the entire world whose fiance cheated on her while she was pregnant?
It takes a special and horrifying trait in a man t... (read in full...)
My husband is very disrespectful
Q. I feel so low! My husband is so disrespectful to me! We had a wedding to go to today at 4 pm that was 70 miles away. I asked my husband what time he wanted to get on the road? 2:30 he said. So we got up early to get some things done before we left....
A. 26 August 2012: I could break down everything you told me and give you tips on how to re-condition his responses to you, but it sounds like you really hate him. It also sounds like you've tried pretty much anything.
I think he needs a jolt to the system, ... (read in full...)
Taking care of my boyfriend's sick mother and he doesn't appreciate it
Q. My boyfriend's mother who lived in new jersey fell really sick,she fell of the stairs,broke her back literally couldn't move,nor eat or go to the toilet..my boyfriend who was in spain at the time could not make it to her at the earlierst so I ...
A. 26 August 2012: I agree. His mom is complaining to him?!? You did a really spectacular thing for him above and beyond the call of duty, and this is how he repays you, and his mom too.
Does this guy not have brothers or sisters or other family members to help ... (read in full...)
Should I confront the man my wife had a one night stand with?
Q. My wife had a one night stand behind my back. She was in school with this guy and he knew she was married. I know where this guy lives, my question is do i go round there and hit the shit out of him?...
A. 25 August 2012: Don't hit your wife, but seriously, your issue is with her. She broke your marriage vows. She chose to cheat. She betrayed you. He's a dog for being an accomplice, but she was the one who did you wrong.
Best to focus your attention on the home... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to look at my sister's fake boobs, but when I said I wanted fake boobs he flipped out!
Q. Okay so short story.... My sister had tons of ummm "sexy" pictures on her computer.... Nude, and she has fake boobs..... Well my boyfriend of over a year decides to be a dick and goes on her computer and emails himself some of the nude photos!!! I ...
A. 23 August 2012: This guy is disgusting! You have *got* to get rid of him, because if he's acting like this now, this is only the start of the heartache you'll be dealing with. Don't get fake boobs. Be yourself. ... (read in full...)
Will having a threesome with my wife ruin our relationship? She's the one who brought it up.
Q. My wife asked me to have a 3sum with another female. I'm up for the idea but I thought about it more and I don't know how it will change our relationship, am I not pleasing her enugh, she orgasms at least three time every time we have sex. What she ...
A. 23 August 2012: Here's why you both shouldn't do this threesome:
1. Your wife isn't getting the whole threesome scenario and is treating this third woman like a blow-up doll. In reality, she's an equal third partner in all of this, and things are going to be do... (read in full...)
I'm done with dating at moment. But how do I seek or find someone willing to do FWB?
Q. What is the best approach to finding a FWB? I'm not trying to be crude, but I'm done with dating right now and I really just want some good old fashioned sex with no emotions involved. My problem is, I've never done it before. Sure I had sex, but...
A. 23 August 2012: Best approach? Safety is absolute key. When engaging in casual sex, even with a FWB, you must take every precaution to avoid pregnancy and STD. If a guy puts you on a guilt trip over condoms, he's not the one for you. Be safe at all times, ... (read in full...)
How do I control my feelings? He hasn't said I love you yet
Q. I have grown to love my boyfriend a lot and I feel tempted to say it to him, but various advice tells me not to say it first. I agree with this, but restraining my feelings from the truth makes me grow apart from him because I feel that he doesn't ...
A. 22 August 2012: 5 months is pretty soon to say "I love you", though it's not unheard of. You have to understand that those three words mean different things to you than to him. To you, they're an expression of your emotions, and rightly so! To him, those words ... (read in full...)
Is this the end for me and my BF?
Q. Dear all, Your opinions would be welcome. Things have not been too good with me and my BF of late, and we had a bit of a bad evening about two and a half weeks ago, and I told him that I am not really getting anything out of the relationship etc...
A. 22 August 2012: I think that there's more to this story. As you have said, you've had worse arguments that he's stayed and helped you sort out. So what makes this different? You brought the claim that you're not getting anything out of the relationship. What ... (read in full...)
Can't tell if my virgin girlfriend actually wants sex, what should I do?
Q. Ok, well first off I am 19 and she is 18. I'm her first boyfriend, her first kiss and everything. We've been together almost 9 months now. She is also Catholic and kind of prude (lets me do things for her but has never done for me, I also haven't ...
A. 20 August 2012: First of all, I must say, you sound like a keeper to me. You're considerate of her, you're patient, and you're not pressuring her. That's really great.
Second, while it may feel like not talking about it is the natural way, nothing could be... (read in full...)
How not to be a nagging girlfriend
Q. I've realized I tend to look a lot at flaws in my boyfriend instead of looking and focusing in the good things. I remember that with my first boyfriend, everything was perfect (this was four years ago). After a very sad and painful breakup, I had ...
A. 20 August 2012: I like what Basschick says about choosing men who are "projects". Men aren't fixer-uppers. You can't update them like you can kitchen cabinets or wardrobes.
I also like what Abella said about thinking about the good in people rather than foc... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got very violent during our play fight. What does this mean?
Q. I got back with my boyfriend yesterday after we had been having some troubles. At the moment things seem better than ever but something very i don't know ? Out of the blue happened today. My boyfriend has recently been kicked o...
A. 19 August 2012: No, he's not a wife beater. If he's as young as you (13-15), he's feeling his testosterone rising, and if you both started roughouseing, it's possible that he could have gotten a bit too rough with you, mix that in with some adrenaline, residual ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but he keeps telling me I'm the one he wants. Why hasn't he done anything about it, and should I contunue to wait?
Q. Ok this is my situation: I still have love for my first love but he is in a relationship. I broke up with him due to the fact I felt as if we were to young to settle dwn right away. After six years I met back up with him but he has a girlfrie...
A. 18 August 2012: Walk away! If he has a girlfriend, his words are worthless. If you've been waiting 3 months to have him break up, then he doesn't want to. Also, what if *you* were his girlfriend? How would you feel about dating a guy who so easily goes behind ... (read in full...)
I wet his bed while I was drunk, and don't know if I should tell him about it.
Q. I've been seeing this guy and we've been sleeping together. After a drunken night, I woke up and realized I had peed in his bed. I was embarrassed and didn't want to say anything so I just covered it up with the comforter and am hoping it will dry ...
A. 18 August 2012: To answer this question, I take a "do unto others" approach. Would you want him to tell you if he peed in your bed, or would you rather he slunk away, hoping the wet spot and the smell doesn't alert him?
The whole "he's not worth it anyways"... (read in full...)
His habits drive me nuts, all day, every day!
Q. It migt sound silly for most people, but two of my husbands habits drive me nuts every single day, even every hour. He has plenty of others but they are not as annoying as these.we have fights about it almost every day. It irritates him when I p...
A. 17 August 2012: I agree. Sounds like he does, in fact, have a hearing problem. I was on the fence and thinking it could be a passive aggressive thing, but the shouting, plus the fact that he did it to your daughter too makes me think that it is a hearing ... (read in full...)
My wife passed away a year ago, and I have since fallen in love with my sister-in-law. HELP !!!
Q. Hi my question is My wife passed away over 1 year ago i have no kids and I have now become very close to my sister in law she is married and her husban is always overseas From the time I spend with my sister inlaw I have falling in love wit...
A. 16 August 2012: I don't know who your counselor is, but that advice to have you admit your feelings for your married sister-in-law has got to be the most destructive advice you could possibly be given.
I'm sorry about the loss of your wife. I truly am, but have... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 15 August 2012: Wow! Thank you so much for that update. This is fantastic, and you are handling this spectacularly. I'm glad you're filling the void his absence brought by getting more work and looking at bettering yourself.
All of my good thoughts and best... (read in full...)
I want him to get a divorce so we can marry. Why does his wife keep trying to get his attention? I want her gone.
Q. im living with a man twice my age. yes he could be my daddy. but i love him. he works hard, cooks for me, cleans. and i dont have to work. the problem is is that his wife is still in the picture. she just wont get the hint, that he loves me and n...
A. 14 August 2012: You can't get her out. Right now, the primary relationship is him and his wife, not him and you. The only thing that will solve your problem is your married boyfriend filing for divorce. You should be asking him why he doesn't, because until he ... (read in full...)
His wife is lovely but he is disgusting. How can this couples friendship be maintained?
Q. Hello Having a bit of a problem which I don't know how to deal with. My partner and I are friends with a couple who live just up the road from us. Initially we were friends with the wife but through spending time with her have met the husband and ...
A. 14 August 2012: You can simply be friends with her and not with him. It's obvious that your personality clashes with his, and that's okay. He doesn't *have* to be part of the action, nor do you need to feel obligated to include him.
I would NOT bring it up wi... (read in full...)
Why can't I have a spine to leave him? Please help me!
Q. Hi Why do women even the one who are financially way independent keep on stay in an abusive relationship. My bf for one always and keeps on abuses me emotionally, never show his affection, always makes me wonder whether im imagining thin...
A. 14 August 2012: Trust me...I've seen this behavior many times. He doesn't own you...men don't own women. He just knows how to press your buttons, and you're letting him. If a guy were secure, he wouldn't have to try to break you down.
Guys who feel insecure... (read in full...)
I'm feeling uncomfortable with my boyfriend's reaction to what I wear.
Q. Hi guys So I'm feeling uncomfortable with my boyfriend's reaction to what I wear. I am a doctor and at work I wear scrubs. He came to see me at work the other day and then said he could see my bra (the strap was showing so I pulled my top back ...
A. 14 August 2012: I don't know what world he lives in, but guys who are classy don't skeeve off of women in scrubs only to go home and jack off later.
This guy sounds gross and immature.... (read in full...)
Why can't I have a spine to leave him? Please help me!
Q. Hi Why do women even the one who are financially way independent keep on stay in an abusive relationship. My bf for one always and keeps on abuses me emotionally, never show his affection, always makes me wonder whether im imagining thin...
A. 14 August 2012: Here's the thing. He *knows* you're fantastic. He *knows* that you're financially independent, beautiful, smart, and that he's lucky to have you. However, he is afraid that the only way he can keep both you and the balance of "power" in your ... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 12 August 2012: When it comes to marriage, there *is* no cutting to the chase. There are no shortcuts. You need that time to get to know someone.
A marriage vow is a lifetime affair, even if it ends in divorce. The effects reach through the entire life, be... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask my husband for this one thing to make my sexual experience better for me?
Q. i'm at a point where i don't know what to do. i'm not really enjoying sex and even though i get the urge to i never really have, it's quite literally an anti climax. it's not my husbands fault, he's very ready and willing but i can't orgasm through ...
A. 11 August 2012: Yes, I agree with the others. He doesn't understand that it's different for you. For him, it would be like you massaging his scrotum only and expecting him to achieve orgasm simply by your massaging his scrotum. A few guys receive prostate ... (read in full...)
My fiance cheated on me because he jumped to conclusions, please help!
Q. My fiance were supposed to get married april 2013. I was planning a surprise trip for his bday in october. I have a male friend who is a travel agent and since it was a surprise, went through him to buy the tickets book the hotel. I paid him cash ...
A. 11 August 2012: I think it is ruined, to be honest. You did leave yourself open to a huge misunderstanding, because quite frankly, going out to dinner behind a guy's back is crap. Buying tickets and booking a hotel doesn't require you to go out to late dinners ... (read in full...)
I never get turned on. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I am almost 20 and wondering if something is the matter with me. I don't really get sexually turned on, ever. "Hot" pictures or videos don't do it for me - I've heard other women talk about how pictures of attractive men make them need to go and ...
A. 11 August 2012: There's nothing wrong with you! Many people don't just want to screw everything that moves. I think you are one of those who prefer to connect emotionally with a person first and build a relationship.
You're not missing out on anything. Some pe... (read in full...)
I caught my g/f flirting online twice and now I'm paranoid about everything she does
Q. Hello Everybody! Really need some help here! A few weeks ago I caught my girlfriend flirting with guys online. TWICE! I basically told her it was over. Anyway we broke up and she constantly text me, emailed me, and phoned me to tell me ho...
A. 11 August 2012: How was she flirting online? What exactly was she doing?? Was she in private conversations with other guys talking about wanting sex with them, or was she saying things you considered too friendly online?? This is a big question, because I've ... (read in full...)
Feeling very embarrassed by premature ejaculation
Q. SO its been 3 years now that i discovered i had premature ejaculation..just the other day i was giving my gf some foreplay for about 10 min..and then she wanted me to put it in and when i did i took it out immediately because i was going to ...
A. 10 August 2012: First of all, take a breath. It's okay! You are with many many guys your age in this. You mentioned pulling out in time...I'm hoping you were wearing a condom. Condoms in your case can slow things down a bit in the sensation department, which is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is mas at me because my ex wants to live with me?
Q. Hello everyone. I really did it!!! I pissed off my boyfriend and now he isn't talking to me. Well, I have been staying with friends since separating from my husband. I am ready to go out on my own but I don't make much money with my minimum ...
A. 10 August 2012: Hold on a second.
You have a husband which you're separated from, right? Is your divorce final from your husband?
You also have a boyfriend now since your physical separation from your husband.
Now, your husband wants to financially sup... (read in full...)
In the five years we've been together, she's not ever given me so much as even a card, for birthday's, anniversary, or any other special occasion. Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. We've been together for 5 years now, and during those 5 years I've not recieved a thing from her - Not for birthdays, Xmas', Valentines or even Anniversaries. Now I'm a romantic and try not to be materialistic or superficial about anything, ...
A. 10 August 2012: What is her religious background and upbringing like? Some religions actually frown on the celebration of anything (Christmas, birthdays, holidays, etc.), so she might be behaving as her upbringing taught her to.
Also, does she give gifts an... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with the married man I had an affair with, and he told me that he wishes I were dead! How could he say such hateful things to me?
Q. I had an affair with a married man, he broke it off and it was not pretty. I told his wife...to make a long story short...I would send him cards every once in a while..I think I'm obsessed with him. We ride motorcycles and he is a member of a MC ...
A. 5 August 2012: You know what you do when you date a guy who pretends he is single only to find out that he's married?
You drop the asshole right then and there, spitting on his very memory and counting yourself fortunate you found out before you got pregnant... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with the married man I had an affair with, and he told me that he wishes I were dead! How could he say such hateful things to me?
Q. I had an affair with a married man, he broke it off and it was not pretty. I told his wife...to make a long story short...I would send him cards every once in a while..I think I'm obsessed with him. We ride motorcycles and he is a member of a MC ...
A. 5 August 2012: Well, it *was* a really hurtful thing to say to you, and the fact that he cheated on his wife in the first place makes him a disgusting, dirty, trash bag cheater who deserves zero sympathy for what he did to his poor wife. She's the one I feel the ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 20 July 2012: Man, I've been on here for two years, and I've never ever seen a question on here that's evoked the kind of emotional response that yours has. I literally thought about this one off and on today, and if I had met you in real life, I would have been ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 19 July 2012: You did the right thing by telling them, and I know it wasn't easy. His reaction was very telling. He doesn't care if you go take care of yourself sexually, and his opinion is all that matters here, which brings us to an even more crucial issue:
... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: I'm definitely with Anonymous123 on this one big time. I reread your initial post in the new light of your followup post, and you've been really dumped on by that family. He should be at his mom's, and his brothers and sisters should be his ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: I would feel differently about this if he were already your husband, but he's not, and you haven't made a vow to be a live-in nurse for him. The fact that you had to go behind his back to sleep with some random Craigslist ad underscores that you're ... (read in full...)
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