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writes:Okay so short story.... My sister had tons of ummm "sexy" pictures on her computer.... Nude, and she has fake boobs..... Well my boyfriend of over a year decides to be a dick and goes on her computer and emails himself some of the nude photos!!! I found out a few months after.... and we are still together and maybe shouldn't be?.... But it hurts me still and I can't stand him being around my sister bc I feel like he is ALWAYS staring at her boobs and just staring at her. It makes me so uncomfortable!! . Well my question is, I want fake boobs and can get them but when I mentioned getting them to him he freaked out and threatened to leave and break up with me! I mean it was badddd, he got so mad and said if I do that it'd be over!! (and I'm very conservative and down to earth and just a good girl...) but Why is that?? I really want them and obviously he likes fake tatas since he wanted those pics of MY SISTER, but gets mad when I try to talk about me getting them!! Why! (and I don't want huge boobs like my sister, I want them bigger but not like when people see me they go "ohhhhh fake!!")
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (23 August 2012):
 I say get the big boobs just to get rid him.
What a creep, emailing himself naked pictures of your SISTER? Talk about NO Respect for YOU or YOUR sister.
That is just gross low behavior.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 August 2012):
 This guy is disgusting! You have *got* to get rid of him, because if he's acting like this now, this is only the start of the heartache you'll be dealing with. Don't get fake boobs. Be yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2012): Perhaps because he doesn't want other men drooling over you the way he drools over your sister. Its ok for him to do it to her, but not ok for others to do it to you.
Who knows.
To be fair, you should do as you please and if you want implants, then get them.
If anyone has a right to finish the relationship over anything, its you. He was the one caught downloading your sisters pics for his own needs and also catching an eyeful of your sister every time she's around.
If he ends the relationship over a decision you want to make for yourself, then he isn't worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2012): Thank you all for answering so quickly!! And I know I should have dumped him when it happened, but he sucked me right back in.... I appreciate all of your answers because you are all right and all 5star answers!!! I do think about what he did, every single day so I think y'all are right.... It really isn't worth the agony and pain to put up with someone who could actually do that to their girlfriend of well over a year!!! No respect whatsoever! Thanks to you all so far :)) -- question writer
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (23 August 2012):
 It's possible he doesn't want you to get them because he's afraid men will then look at you the way he looks at your sister. And he's too jealous to have you be a sex object to other men. To be honest it doesn't matter because you shouldn't be with him anyway. He stole pictures of your sister... Your SISTER. That's beyond disgusting and wrong. That feels like cheating actually. And he openly looks at her when around her? How are you still with him...?? I don't feel like much could hurt worse than that short of him actually having sex with her. Clearly I reccomend leaving him. And on the other note, if you are unhappy with your boobs and want to do fake ones then do what you want, its your body. A good boyfriend would talk with you about it. The ultimatums he has- threatening to dump you if you had fake boobs- further proves what a dick he is.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (23 August 2012):
 Putting the fact that he emailed the pictures to himself aside for a minute - I will address the 'why doesnt he want me to get fake boobs' issue first.
He obviously likes looking at big boobs, hence why he stares at your sister - but looking and touching are two very different things! He will probably look at your sister like he looks at porn, it is nice to look at but you wouldnt want to take a pornstar to meet your mom!
So that is why he flipped when you mentioned getting fake boobs, he doesnt want that kind of girl to be his girlfriend. He doesnt mind staring at it and enjoying it visually, but he definitely does not want to have a girlfriend with fake boobs. They feel different to real boobs, they look fake (no matter what size you get they always look fake unless you spend an absolute fortune on a top surgeon) and they attract the wrong kind of attention. He knows he looks at your sister like a sex object, and doesnt want other men doing the same to you basically.
Going back to the emailing himself the pictures and staring at your sister all the time - yes you probably should have dumped him over this, it is simply not acceptable. If he loved you and respected you then he wouldnt do something so stupid and immature, he would know it would hurt you and he wouldnt want to do that to you.
So what does he do? Ignore your feelings and think with his d**k. Not really the kind of guy you want as your boyfriend now is it?!
He has shown you his true colours, you know what he is like as a person and you know that he doesnt respect you - so I guess it is up to you what you do now. Maybe you could talk to him, explain how much this who thing has hurt you and that you want him to delete those pictures otherwise it is over, and he can never do something so disrespectful ever again as you are not putting up with it anymore.
But then again you have already shown him he can get away with anything as you didnt dump him over this, you have been a bit of a doormat so perhaps it is best to call it a day before he can hurt you again.
Either way it is your choice, but I hope this has helped a little!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 August 2012):
 Yeah your boyfriend is a "dick." No question about it. In fact what he did was completely illegal. I think that's a completely unforgivable offense. He snooped on your sister, stole her private property, and wanks off to her. That's revolting. He's total slime. I think you should call the police on him for that incredible invasion of privacy (it's illegal) and then dump him.
If I was your sister and I found out that had happened I would press charges. That's revolting.
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