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writes:I've been seeing this guy and we've been sleeping together. After a drunken night, I woke up and realized I had peed in his bed. I was embarrassed and didn't want to say anything so I just covered it up with the comforter and am hoping it will dry before he goes to bed again. Should I say something when I talk to him? Or not bring it up unless he does? I am worried he's gonna be freaked out and not want anything to do with me, although my friend said that if a guy gets mad over something dumb like that then he's not worth it anyways. Besides apologizing, should I joke about it or what? Thanks!
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (21 August 2012):
 He's going to notice it eventually and he'll put two and two together. You might as well come clean instead of waiting for this to come out in the laundry. I couldn't resist that. Your mess isn't just in his sheets. It's in his mattress too and last I checked, you can't just toss that in the machine. And I wouldn't be cracking any jokes about it. I agree with YouWish and one of the anonymous readers. Though some of the other advice you've received baffles me, frankly. You get disgracefully drunk, wet his bed, say nothing, let him lie in it, offer not so much as an apology and if he gets angry then HE'S the bad guy and HE'S not worth it?? And some people do this almost EVERY time they have a BIT too much to drink?? For what it's worth, this is NOT common at all, but I suppose that depends on the company you keep. I have never heard of this happening to anyone I know and I've certainly never done it. Instead of getting pie-eyed, stop as soon as you feel a slight buzz (or sooner).
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (19 August 2012):
dont bother telling him, but if it ever happens again try and get a quiet moment so you can spill some water over it then say you spilled your glass of water
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): I think its understandable if he found out and you didn't tell him, that it was due to embarrassment, so I don't see the need to tell him about it unless he finds out.
If he makes a big old drama about it then he's just being petty and like your friends said, probably not worth it.
These things happen, my girlfriend does it almost every time she has a bit too much to drink. Its really quite common and nothing to be worried about. And to be honest, its nothing the washing machine can't fix.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 August 2012):
 To answer this question, I take a "do unto others" approach. Would you want him to tell you if he peed in your bed, or would you rather he slunk away, hoping the wet spot and the smell doesn't alert him?
The whole "he's not worth it anyways" is dumb in this case, because it wouldn't be cool to have you leave a wet and unhygienic urine stain on his bed and not tell him.
The best scenario would have been to get up and throw his sheets in the washer. Then tell him you had a little "accident" due to being drunk, and then offer to put the nice clean sheets back on his bed.
But we're past that stage now. You should tell him, because it's really gross not to, and you wouldn't want to go to bed and smell a urine stain! Believe me, it does smell, especially the more uhh...crusty it gets.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): I understand you're embarrassed about this, but I think you should come clean to him about it. After all, if someone peed in your bed, wouldn't you wanna know about it so you can wash your sheets before sleeping on them again? I know I would. He's more likely to stop talking to you if he finds it later, and realizes you tried to cover it up than he is if you just tell him the truth. Your friend is right, if he stops talking to you just because of that then he isn't worth your time. However, since you didn't tell him, that might piss him off. He should understand these things happen sometimes when your drunk. If it makes you feel any better, it happened to me on my honeymoon! Anyway, yes you should apologize, and make a joke if you like. It will show him you have a sense of humor, and can laugh at yourself every now and then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): First off, you should not allow yourself to get so drunk that you actually wet the bed like a child - have some self respect.
You actually covered it up and left? That is disgusting to say the least. You should have removed the sheets (and washed them) then tried to save the mattress. It is too late now, you may have very well ruined his sheets as well as his mattress. Even after your urine dries, the mattress will still smell.
It could have been forgivable if you tried to fix your mistake instead of covering it up. I suggest you own up to it, apologise and offer to buy him a new mattress/new sheets.
Do not be surprised if he does not want to see you again. I know I wouldn't. Try not to get so drunk in the future, you are an adult now - it is time to grow up.
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