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writes:I am almost 20 and wondering if something is the matter with me. I don't really get sexually turned on, ever. "Hot" pictures or videos don't do it for me - I've heard other women talk about how pictures of attractive men make them need to go and "take care of things" and I have never ever felt that way. Erotic stories don't do it for me. Being around attractive people doesn't do it for me. I do find people aesthetically attractive, and sometimes get crushes, but they never extend to actually wanting to have sex with the person; I guess they're more "intellectual" or "emotional" crushes. The most I ever fantasize about is cuddling, or maaaaybe kissing. When I think about having sex with someone, it makes me feel weird and uncomfortable. I am generally happy with my life - I have friends, go to college, have hobbies, etc. I don't really feel like I'm missing out on anything but I'd like to understand why most people are so interested in sex. How come it isn't working for me? Is something wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2012): you may be asexual - find the AVEN network on google and see if that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2012): There is nothing wrong with you at all. You are still very young. One day, someone really special will enter your life. When that happens, slowly but surely you'll want to express your love in a physical way. It'll happen very naturally and it will be very beautiful.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (11 August 2012):
 I love the advice from YouWish! I think when you have a real relationship with someone you want to have sex with, you will know it. Otherwise, you may have a hard time getting excited over just anyone and everyone. I am kind of the same way as it takes a specific kind of man to really get me turned on. Usually it takes a lot more than a man's physical appearance to heat me up...his attitude, his confidence, etc. Nope, there is nothing wrong with you whatsoever.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 August 2012):
 There's nothing wrong with you! Many people don't just want to screw everything that moves. I think you are one of those who prefer to connect emotionally with a person first and build a relationship.
You're not missing out on anything. Some people are more sexually wired to want sex with whoever. Others feel a deep connection and then the passion grows.
It sounds to me that you haven't been in love before. Sure, you may have had relationships or crushes, but they've never developed. The mechanics of sex is gross when you think about it, but when you're with someone you're crazy about, it's an entirely different ballgame.
Bottom line, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you!
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