Is this the sort of person I should date? He lied and now says I'm making a bid deal out of things
Q. I have been going out with my bf for a year. I won't call myself psychic but let us just say I have a very strong 6th sense that is never wrong: normally they come in the form of dreams which will be recurring. (Keep an open mind here please, don't ...
A. 31 October 2012: OH! One more thing,
Can you get ahold of the printouts of his communication of his STD?? You should keep that proof. ... (read in full...)
Is this the sort of person I should date? He lied and now says I'm making a bid deal out of things
Q. I have been going out with my bf for a year. I won't call myself psychic but let us just say I have a very strong 6th sense that is never wrong: normally they come in the form of dreams which will be recurring. (Keep an open mind here please, don't ...
A. 31 October 2012: You are not overreacting at all. This is a pretty serious lie he was covering up for ages. Not only that, but am I understanding you correctly? He has an STD he hid from you? Did he tell you he had it before the two of you became physical (i.e. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me. Has anyone taken their cheating boyfriend back?
Q. FIrst my question is, is there anyone out there who took their boyfriend back after cheating and is still happy today? With trust and no more cheating? My story: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. He is my first and ...
A. 31 October 2012: You can't take him back because of what he said his reasons were. He blames you for his cheating. This is absolutely asinine that he would say that.
You don't "put out"? What are you, a Coca-Cola machine? And, he says you don't like porn, so... (read in full...)
I can't date him but don't want my friend to date him either!
Q. I've recently joined a band and have feelings for member in it. He asked me if I liked him but I didn't want to make things awkward in our band so said know even though I really like him. Over the last few days a friend of mine has been talking to ...
A. 31 October 2012: You have feelings for a guy, so you lied to him??
Sorry, but it's unreasonable for you to deny a guy both your companionship plus the companionship of anyone else. If you decline to date him when given the chance, that makes him FAIR GAME. Y... (read in full...)
After 3 dates she broke up with me because she said I acted like I didin't like her
Q. hi, this girl i have been seeing has just 'dumped' me, so i was wondering if you help me pleease cos im gutted! basicly i had 3 dates with her, they were all good, i enjoyed them, and she ses she enjoyed them too, and yesterday morning she just...
A. 31 October 2012: Yikes! This is an emotionally high maintenance woman you were dating. Extremely insecure, needing constant validation by you, and playing games with you with the whole "You didn't act like you like me" stuff. We all know that if a guy asks us out ... (read in full...)
For Girls: First Impressions when you meet a guy - is 5 foot six inches tall enough for you? Or do you prefer taller?
Q. Hello This question is mostly for girls Do you find attractive a guy who is 5.6 feet or maybe girls want a guy who is taller. Well I know some responses may be 'a guy must be loyal,caring etc' but my question is related with first impression. T...
A. 30 October 2012: Don't worry about it! I'm 5'7", my brothers are 6'4" and 6'5" (one's a bodybuilder/personal trainer and the other one is a forest ranger for the state of MI). I always thought I would marry someone a lot taller than me. My husband is also 5'7". ... (read in full...)
How to fall out of love with best friend?
Q. Long story short; two years ago, I made the classic mistake of falling for a guy who I was in a "friends-with-benefits" situation with. I was a completely innocent, naive sixteen year old, and he was eighteen and pretty experienced. I'd love to ...
A. 30 October 2012: Unless you're willing to heed your friends when it comes to stopping contact with him, it *will* be a lost cause.
All of this struggling with feelings, loving him, agony, etc that you're feeling, he is *not* feeling. He has been using you for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ABANDONED ME far from home today!
Q. THIS IS A LONG ONE BUT PLEASE READ ALL OF IT AND LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK: First of all, we have been together for 3 years. We're both 22 years old. We just moved in together a few months ago. We're both going to the same college full time. ...
A. 29 October 2012: My advice is to never ever allow yourself to cry for him again, especially in front of him. He is cruel and horrible and deserves to be alone.
You need to get out of there. Talk to your landlord about your lease options, and find somewher... (read in full...)
I like two women. Do I date the one who is single or wait for the one who is separated?
Q. Hello. I am not sure what I should do. I am in a very tough spot. :( This is the story. I like two women and have feelings for both and they both like me. One is single/available and the other is going through a separation. Do I start to date th...
A. 29 October 2012: I have a feeling that you would never ask this question unlss the separated woman is the one you are preferring here over the single woman.
Cerberus is correct. Never get involved with someone who already has someone in their life. A third pa... (read in full...)
What can I do? I'm devastated after an unanticipated breakup
Q. Hi I am new here. I was with my ex for two years I thought we were so happy he was the best thing that ever happened to me. Yes we had arguments and it got really tough then he lost his job and I was paying for everything we had a flat in the end we ...
A. 29 October 2012: Actually, you won't believe me when I tell you this, but he actually did you a really huge favor. Let me tell you why:
He isn't good for you. He lost his job, was freeloading off of you, drove your financial future into debt, strained your rel... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's told me she's not willing to be with me if I follow the career path I think I want?
Q. To give you guys a little bit of background, I'm a student at uni deciding on my career options. I'm in a long distance relationship and have been throughout my time at uni. We met at high school, fell in love and have been with each other ever ...
A. 29 October 2012: I know that we're a relationship site, but in your case, your relationship is not the most important issue, so I'll save that until after I talk about what I saw most in your post:
I get the feeling that you don't know who you are yet. You know... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend really changed?
Q. I have had a rocky 8 months to say the least, with my first ever boyfriend and now i'm just wondering has he really changed? I first met my boyfriend when i went back to school after missing a year, i was sent to learning support ...
A. 27 October 2012: Are you really 13-15?? You are too young for sex now. If you have mental issues that you need to work out, the last thing you need is a relationship with ANYONE.
Besides that, he's a liar, cheater, toxic, and he will take you and throw you into... (read in full...)
She lives in his house, wears his clothes and has him at her beck and call... am I wrong to think this is out of order?
Q. My boyfriend and I both are 17. I have recently found out that one of the girls my boyfriend introduced to me as his sister is not, in fact, his sister. She is just a really close family friend. She has no blood or legal ties with him what so ever! ...
A. 27 October 2012: I'll be honest here. My ACTUAL brother donated his kidney to me, and I'll be forever grateful to him as long as I live. We are close, and I love him very much. We've always been close growing up.
I've never worn a speck of his clothing... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend likes somebody else.
Q. I try to be the best Girlfriend i can Be To MY Girlfriend, I think she like this Dude. He was on her, and they probably would have kissed if i wasn't righ by her side. I asked her do, she like him she said no, but i feel like she do.. I just need ...
A. 27 October 2012: If she dates a guy, she *is* cheating on you!
She may like him, but then again, she might just like the feeling of his attention towards her.
You being insecure isn't enough to know whether or not she's lying to you. Tell her that you would a... (read in full...)
I have the hots for my sister's husband!
Q. I am 36 F. I know what I think is wrong. but it is difficult for me to stand this. I think it is due to I am Pisces and he is Scorpio by Sun sign. I am interested in my younger sister's husband. We flirts and he calls me to talk personally. I feel h...
A. 27 October 2012: OH MY GOD he's a SCORPIO!!!!! Totally you must betray your sister, the one related to you by blood, and sleep with him, cheating on her and devastating her!
Not only that, but when you cheat with a SCORPIO, you don't have to worry about playing ... (read in full...)
Its my first relationship but it doesn't feel normal!
Q. Me and this guy we have known each for 1 month now. We were complete strangers when we first met. Starting from the 5th day we known each he was talking about how much he loved me and how much he cares for me because of how much we have in common ...
A. 27 October 2012: It's not normal! HE IS A SCAM!!!!!
No one, but *NO ONE* starts saying "I love you" within 5 days of meeting each other. And he's freeloading off of you for sex and money. He does not love you. He is a scam and a con artist.
No "better Ch... (read in full...)
He is a player and a liar, and I had sex with him!
Q. I met this guy on a dating app. He came over in the weekend we drank some ciroc the biggest bottle between me and him we finished it, we was in my kitchen and he was trying to take my pants off and I looked at him and I said no, so he let me be. I ...
A. 27 October 2012: What is the advice you're looking for? I didn't see any questions in your post. This sounds more like a rant than a request for advice.
You know what you need to do. This guy was using you, and you knew it from the very first when he tried to... (read in full...)
Hubby won't get healthy for his own sake!
Q. My husband used to be in very great shape (he was in the military.) But for the past several years, he's pretty much doubled his size (he's now 350 lbs.) He was working full-time until a couple of months ago, but now all he does is sleep all day - ...
A. 27 October 2012: C Grant has really touched on something here.
I know personally that I am in the minority in that working out gives me a lot of pleasure in life, and my health demands that I carefully guard everything I put into my body, so I reap the natural ... (read in full...)
His Porn addiction is getting worse. It's bothering me. How do I raise my concerns so he'll listen?
Q. I've been dating the same fellow for a couple of years now and the last number of months has giving me grown concern and I'm not sure how to approach or even handle this situation. I've always known that he has had tendencies to watch porn and boot...
A. 27 October 2012: OMG. Listen to me really carefully:
THIS IS NOT A PORN ADDICTION!!
He is a violator of women. He is a cerebral rapist.
In porn, the women make the choice to take off their clothes. They are compensated for putting on a show. It is consen... (read in full...)
He makes racist inappropriate comments. Now it seems he may have been seeing a local prostitute of the same race he vilifies. What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend is nearly 40. He makes comments all the time if we are out and see an oriental woman with a man he immediately says "oh look it's bought your wife". He even said that my friend who was 27 and going out with a 42 year old was going ou...
A. 26 October 2012: Yeah, I'd say he used a prostitute/escort alright.
You're from the United Kingdom, right? You may not have heard the names I'm about to tell you, so I'll give a short summary:
1. Eliot Spitzer - Former Governor of New York state. One of h... (read in full...)
She's not just curvy anymore. I love my wife and she means a lot to me but why does she ignore my request that she please keep in shape? What should I do?
Q. I have an issue. My wife and I have been together for 9 and a half year and married for 8. When we first started dating she was always trying to stay in shape. All the way up to our 4th year of being together. Then she decided to get too relax...
A. 26 October 2012: You're getting to the point where you're starting to mess around on her??
What if your hairline receded? What if you started having erectile dysfunction? What if you started getting old? Would she have the excuse to go off and mess around o... (read in full...)
Why do I want the people I love to hate me?
Q. My first love was with a girl who hated me. She cheated on me, made me feel like shit about myself and generally crippled me emotionally, but I was so dependant on her that I didn't want to leave. The issue I'm running into now is I meet these per...
A. 25 October 2012: I read your question twice, and I can sum up what you've said in three words:
You are terrified.
That's understandable, when you have the emotional equivalent of Post Traumatic Stress. You're pushing people away now because you're terri... (read in full...)
My older brother physically abuses me and my mom is fine with it. What rights do I have in this? What power do I have to stop him from doing this?
Q. Hi. So, my older brother hits me. He doesn't do it very often but when he does, he hits me bad. He abuses me verbally constantly calling me names and insulting me in every possible way. He's always been like this to me since we were kids, he's ...
A. 24 October 2012: You have to get out of there. You're an adult (18-21) and it makes no different whether or not it's a brother or a boyfriend. You're being battered, and it's not safe for you there.
If he touches you, you call the police. Don't listen to your ... (read in full...)
I am seeking people's opinions of my actions in this failed relationship. What do you think?. I did some bad things, so did she.
Q. so i started seeing a girl as friends id heard a lot about her ( she's easy,been with this person,been with that person etc etc) but i didn't care because i make up my own mind about people and me and this girl got on great so after about a month of...
A. 24 October 2012: You were very unfair to her, and she didn't deserve the way you treated her. I would have advise against her talking right away about her sexual past, even from 2 weeks prior to you dating, but she was faithful to you.
She has emotional baggage,... (read in full...)
Am I too controlling for wanting to help?
Q. Hello all, I was curious to get a second opinion on a situation. Now my girlfriend is notoriously for procrastinating, motivating herself, forgetting to do important things, and is very lazy, to the point where if I ask about something she was supp...
A. 23 October 2012: I respectfully disagree.
She is an adult. She's not disabled or sick. To take on the role of her manager isn't healthy for her. It is the responsibility of people to learn how to be self-sufficient. Independent.
You can't and should not t... (read in full...)
Was inviting him to a movie, as just a friend, the wrong thing to do? I have a crush on him. He does have a GF as well.
Q. Dear cupid, I really like this guy at my school, but he is a going out with a friend, of mine right. I reassured him that I don't mind being just friends and that I wouldn't dare interfere with his relationship because I care about him and I care a...
A. 23 October 2012: Did you just say that this guy was going out with a friend of yours?? If this guy's girlfriend is a friend of yours, what kind of friend are you??
It wasn't just a bad decision, it's a betrayal of your friend to invite him behind your friend's... (read in full...)
I told him I loved him and he said "thank you" What does that mean?
Q. I've been seeing this man for some time now and have strong feelings for him. We talk about moving in together even he has brought up marriage a few times, but the other day when I told him I loved him his expression was like a deer caught in head ...
A. 23 October 2012: In your case, I think the words terrify him. He can talk about both marriage and cohabitation, and usually the step of the declaration of love has happened before these subjects are talked about.
There are exceptions, as there always are, but... (read in full...)
How do you people handle loved ones with OCD?? It's driving me nuts!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a live in relationship for the past 2 years. He is a kind,loving man but I have major issues with his OCD and its driving me nuts. 1)We are not allowed to have house parties because he doesn't want the place to get...
A. 22 October 2012: Outstanding answers so far!
Coping shouldn't be done just by you. Your boyfriend must also work towards a good and happy lifestyle. OCD is a disability, but many people don't consider it that because it's unseen. It's a disability that requires... (read in full...)
My married lover is putting up barriers to me seeing her. And she wants to hide me from her children when her divorce goes through. What should I do?
Q. Hello, I'm going to give the whole story of my situation. I know it's morally wrong but no one is perfect. So please don't respond if you want to talk about morals. I just need some honest opinions with my situation. I have been in a relationshi...
A. 22 October 2012: Your finances are incidental. Money is only money. I don't care how unique your situation is because if it involves money, it's not unique.
Your mistress is now single and is no longer interested in your relationship being illicit. She wants it... (read in full...)
I'm falling for this guy, but I'm confused as I don't want to hurt him. What should I do?
Q. so i am pretty young, 18. i have a child he is 1 1/2 years old. my sons dad has been out of the picture for 1 year. i got a job at a local store and i met this guy we'll call him X. he is 26 has 2 children and works at the same store. we have ...
A. 22 October 2012: Remember this always:
Your past does *not* equal your future.
This is your moment to cast aside the baggage that has weighed you down.
This is your moment to take your own life and run with it.
This is your moment that your son's dad ... (read in full...)
My married lover is putting up barriers to me seeing her. And she wants to hide me from her children when her divorce goes through. What should I do?
Q. Hello, I'm going to give the whole story of my situation. I know it's morally wrong but no one is perfect. So please don't respond if you want to talk about morals. I just need some honest opinions with my situation. I have been in a relationshi...
A. 21 October 2012: With all due respect, you are full of excuses and you know it. Settling financial issues is as simple as filing for divorce and allowing a judge or impartial arbitrator to fairly sort out your financial road map for the future. You saying "I can't ... (read in full...)
Is this a date? Even if he also brings his brother and his cousins to go with us? My Mom says it is a date.
Q. Okay, so is it considered a date if I got to the movies with my boyfriend. And his cousins and brother? My mom says it is, but idk? ...
A. 21 October 2012: It is a date! Just consider the group the "training wheels". It's good to stay in group when you're 13-15.
As you get a little older, then you'll be dating solo, training wheels off! ... (read in full...)
I am a loner and enjoy solo activities. BUT, based on your thoughts, ... Do people date loners? Or do they retreat from dating loners and why?
Q. Would you date a loner? I don't have that many friends, but it's not because of Social Anxiety Disorder or because I do strange things. I'm just highly independent, enjoy spending time self-reflecting and doing solo activities (reading,...
A. 21 October 2012: Oh yeah. You would be low maintenance and definitely not clingy to a guy if you have your own rich and full life that isn't propped up by anyone else. Guys go for girls like you. You'd be someone worth getting to know.
I think it's a sign of ... (read in full...)
My married lover is putting up barriers to me seeing her. And she wants to hide me from her children when her divorce goes through. What should I do?
Q. Hello, I'm going to give the whole story of my situation. I know it's morally wrong but no one is perfect. So please don't respond if you want to talk about morals. I just need some honest opinions with my situation. I have been in a relationshi...
A. 21 October 2012: Very messy. And kinda offensive. I have to get my moral toothache out of the way, and then we can move on. You both are stomping a mudhole into the very fabric of love, marriage, trust, security, and honesty.
There, that's out of the way. No... (read in full...)
Since I kissed another boy I'm putting my Bf's feelings before her wishes and she does not like it. Am I losing her as a friend because I refuse to go drinking at her home?
Q. well about 4 weeks ago i told my boyfriend that i cheated on him twice, by cheating i mean i kissed them. We're not back together but we are working on things. We still see each other as much as we did before all this happened. He just wants to se...
A. 20 October 2012: You could fix this really easily, you know.
If your friend is a good one, you should tell her why you can't go over there. Most women understand these things!
Otherwise, you have to make a decision. If you love your boyfriend, you w... (read in full...)
Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 20 October 2012: You cheated.
Aunt Honesty asked a good question. How would you feel if your boyfriend were giving another woman oral sex?
How would you feel if you caught him with another woman's mouth wrapped around his penis?
Would you laugh it of... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed by my husband. Do I confront him?
Q. Hello Everyone!! This is my first time posting due to some confussing events I witness today. Well I am a 35 yr old women married w two girls 7 and 3. I've been with my husband for 12 years and married for 2.5 years.. I as a women know that he goes ...
A. 17 October 2012: I know you feel horrible, and I'm sorry that what you found caused such pain to you. It would be a shock to any wife's system to be confronted with the evidence of a spouse's consideration of cheating. You say he's not contacted anyone on there or ... (read in full...)
Can I trust my g/f not to cheat on me? She lied to me!
Q. ok so i've been with my girl friend 5 months and she is the girl of my dreams and i believe she loves me also. thing is she was with somebody for 8 years and not been happy for a long time. we started seeing each other so she was cheating on this ...
A. 17 October 2012: Huh?? How could she have never kissed anyone when she was with another guy for 8 years? What did they do, rub noses??
I've said this to everyone who gets involved in a cheating relationship, when you start a relationship where one of you or b... (read in full...)
I caught my fiance in white lies. Should I be concerned?
Q. Once my fiance had to go to a late emergency meeting at his work. He runs the place. I told him I was going to bed early since I was tired. Before I went to bed I looked out the window and I noticed he was back, outside in front of the house ...
A. 17 October 2012: You are absolutely NOT overreacting.
Those aren't white lies either.
A white lie is, let's say, there are rumors of layoffs where your fiance works, and he's scared he'll lose his job, yet he says to you "Don't worry. Everything's goi... (read in full...)
We've been fighting and he's texting someone late at night. Plus he says we're "on a break'. Should we stay together?
Q. My boyfriend and I are on a break. However we are still living together, it's awkward. We have been fighting a lot, especially in the last few months, and we have only been together for 8 months, living together for 6. Tensions were high and I ...
A. 16 October 2012: Yeah, you're NOT on a break.
You two are OVER. This relationship is in the coffin.
Either he moves out or you do. Right now, you both are roommates, free to date and see whomever you want to. You want it to be "a break" but he doesn't.
I... (read in full...)
He's not interested in providing for me if he passes away. Is he being selfish?
Q. Hi I remarried in May this year, we both have grown up kids,I have 4 he has 2, He owns our house,and is buying another house to rent out, we have no life insurance, and Im worried that if he dies before me, I will have nothing,he always said his...
A. 16 October 2012: Okay. I actually looked up UK law regarding inheritance and succession laws when it comes to surviving spouses and wills specifically applying to real estate as well as other things.
First of all, your grown children have no rights to his esta... (read in full...)
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