Is there really ever a good time to break up with someone?
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months who has started to get clingy and needy. He's a very nice man and has many wonderful qualities but he is way more into this relationship then me. I'll give some examples of his needy behavior: He tex...
A. 20 July 2014: Sounds like he found someone who wanted connection as much as he did. May they both live happily ever after!
My best friend from high school married 9 months after meeting her husband, and they dated for about 6 months until they married.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become distant again. How do I handle it?
Q. I've been with my bf for 3 years. I don't live with him but stay over at his place on the weekends and we see each other during the week IF our schedules allow but it isn't often. I'm 31, and he's 35. We've been having issues over the last several ...
A. 5 December 2013: If you had been fighting every single day, of course there would be a distance happening. The residual effects of constant fighting and conflict would be to avoid it. You never mentioned what the fighting was about, but every specific fight you ... (read in full...)
I'm worried if I have a serious health problem that my fiance will be getting cheated
Q. I have a problem that I am feeling very unsure about. I am getting married soon and my life with my partner is fantastic. I love her to bits. She is beautiful inside and out, caring, loving, and I have never been happier. We have a big wedding pl...
A. 5 December 2013: Have you told her you were being tested for a bunch of stuff? You can't "trick" her if you let her make her own choice about you.
I was diagnosed with a genetic kidney disease 9 years into my marriage which essentially became a dialysis and then... (read in full...)
My guy friend acted liked a jealous boyfriend and now he won't speak to me!
Q. I had a really good guy friend who started out a perfect gentleman and he made it abundantly clear our relationship was strictly platonic, so it seemed. After a while he started to become jealous and possessive. Every time he'd hear me commenti...
A. 5 December 2013: I think there's a lot more to this story that's missing from your post here. Something was said in this conversation that you didn't write on here, because I have a hard time going from you questioning him to him just getting up, walking out, and ... (read in full...)
Does getting back into a relationship with an ex ever work out?
Q. Hey I have a question. Does getting back into a relationship with an ex ever really work out? I was with a girl for two years and we have been broken up for a year now. I took it really hard when her and I broke up. I have had 2 short term relat...
A. 4 December 2013: Whether or not getting back with an ex works out depends almost entirely upon why the breakup occurred in the first place. Things like moving away from each other, life getting in the way in regards to work or just having different goals in life ... (read in full...)
My husband and I are more like friends than a married couple. Why does this bother other people?
Q. How to deal with society ? The story is that my husband and I became more friends than a married couple. Sex is long not in a picture, which doesn't seem to bother any of us. It's not like it's gone forever, sometimes we do it when get tipsy or...
A. 3 December 2013: My husband and I do things separately and together, and ultimately it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks as long as you both are happy! How you live your life and marriage is between him and you.
That being said, it's always good to ask your... (read in full...)
Why is boyfriend so upset? I love him so much!
Q. So my boyfriend was very quiet, he didn't talk much over the weekend. That's very unlike him cause he's usually very chatty and makes me laugh so much to point where I'm always peeing hehe. I asked him why he'd been quiet he said he's not...
A. 3 December 2013: Stop crying right now. You do not pay for his insecurity. His dreams are his problem, not yours. If he punishes you for a dream he has, then he's not for you, because that's borderline abusive and controlling.
Tell him to get over it or you'l... (read in full...)
I am in love with a Western woman but I'm in doubt about introducing her to my family. What should I do?
Q. I met an American girl when I was visit Dubai like 8 months ago. We spent 15 days together and after I came back we started doing things on net and said " I love you" to each other. I'm 28 and she is 24. My problem is that she keeps asking m...
A. 1 December 2013: I'm an American, and I don't think the time is right yet to introduce her to your family. You spent 15 days together in total and spent the rest of your time as a long distance internet relationship for 8 months. Spending 8 months online isn't the ... (read in full...)
How do Atheist men date when most women are Christians or believers?
Q. Many women are believers or Christians etc. I'm not saying you can't date at all, that's absurd, all I'm trying to convey is that your dating pool is rather limited. Like at my college, most women seem to be believers. I know this because in ...
A. 1 December 2013: I agree with the other aunts, but there are also a question about how you express your beliefs as well, because atheism isn't a lack of belief, it's a belief that there is no god.
While it's true that Christianity and a belief in God follows ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend had a secret porn blog and we barely have sex anymore. Should I leave him?
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. We've been fighting a lot lately. I found out he had a porn blog on tumblr and i got upset I made him chose me or delete it. He deleted it but he's been such an ass. Hes had an attitude...
A. 1 December 2013: This question is actually about two issues here - the porn blog and the bad sex life, so I'll deal with each of these issues separately. I also know that in your case, they are linked, but I'm also writing this for other people reading this and not ... (read in full...)
My mom never lets my husband in the house, big deal or not?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been married for about 6 months now, and my husband has never been to my parents home...ever. We all live in the same city, I've been to his mum's a ton, same with his other family. He's been around my family plenty, but my m...
A. 29 November 2013: Is your mom OCD? Is she a hoarder or something where she doesn't want him to see the mess? It does sound like it's a bit of an anxiety thing with her. Either way, you and this guy are married now, so your mom should do something about the anxiety ... (read in full...)
He believes what people told him about me and wants a divorce
Q. So my husband was in Afghanistan for 9 months. He just recently got back. Some ppl I know told him I had been cheating on him, which I didn't. He is so cold now, and just wants a divorce. We don't talk, he has changed so much. Should I just get a ...
A. 29 November 2013: If he won't go to counseling with you and is believing other people over you, then what can you do except get a good lawyer and make sure your rights are upheld?
I wonder if he's lying, and it's him who has cheated, or if something happened... (read in full...)
A guy told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend and while I know it's a lie, it's still bothering me!
Q. A bloke came up to me in my local the other night and told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend for the past 4 months. He explained that she was waiting for the right time to tell me it's over.I just burst out laughing at the thought of my ...
A. 29 November 2013: A mole on her shoulder isn't an intimate detail. If this guy has been pestering her for a date, and she was open with you about that, I'm actually inclined to believe her. This creep may very well be trying to break you up in the hopes that you'll ... (read in full...)
Why am I meeting so many black men who freeload off women?
Q. I am a recently divorced white woman who has been dating black men for about a year and a half. Why am I meeting so many black men who freeload off women? Now mind you, not all of them are. But the ones that do.... Not only do they have no shame in ...
A. 29 November 2013: It would be easy to get all politically correct and go after your race stereotypes, but I see something even more obvious which would do you much better than the race lecture. Let's pretend I gave you a stern race lecture anyways and get it out of ... (read in full...)
Trying to end the affair but he won't take no for an answer
Q. It's been 4 yrs since I have been friends with a married man. We are not sexually active but we like each other a lot. What keeps me from having sex is the fact he is married and 36 yrs older than me. It bothers me that I care about him. It even ...
A. 28 November 2013: Things can never go back to "normal". You have to cut him out of your life if you want to end the affair, and that's on YOU, not him.
You do know that there's one way to make it end, and that's to tell his wife. This guy you're with is a nasty ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend of 7 months still has feelings for his ex girlfriend even though he says he doesn't.
Q. Hi everyone I think my boyfriend of 7 months still has feelings for his ex girlfriend even though he says he doesn't. They broke up about a year and a half ago. I feel this way because he is still friends with her even though she treated him ...
A. 28 November 2013: You just answered you own question here:
"He said he will always love her as a person because of the fact that he was in love with her, but that he doesn't trust her at all anymore and that everything she tells him is a lie. He also said he is st... (read in full...)
Are my dating rules really too strict?
Q. Here it goes again:(. My mother just had a conversation with me that I have too many rules when it comes to guys, and that's why I don't have anyone in my life. Some of my friends agree,I am looking for some opinions here. Though I do ha...
A. 28 November 2013: If there's one thing that's absolutely certain beyond anything, that's you can't make rules for other people, including guys you date. In fact, you are disqualified from making rules about other people in general.
You can only make rules about YO... (read in full...)
What is your partner like when angry?
Q. I've been in a relationship for over a year and a half now and I'm curious about everyones experience with how your partner or ex partners reacted when angry. for whatever reason. deserved or not. Here are a few situations I often find myself in. ...
A. 27 November 2013: Everyone fights. We very rarely fight, but once in awhile, it's unavoidable. My husband has a temper, that is for sure. He can let ego get in the way of arguments, and will continue to argue even if he knows he's in the wrong. He'll resist ... (read in full...)
Problems with neighbour - how would you handle this?
Q. Hello. I would like to know how you would handle this situation. I live above a young male who is intolerant of his neighbours making any sounds. Whenever we do make sounds, he bangs the walls. I get the most of it though, since I live right above...
A. 26 November 2013: Banging is a noise ordinance. You have a right to reasonable enjoyment between 8am and 10pm. Calling the police and reporting him for making excessive noises is your right. You do not have to lose the use of your place because he's banging. It ... (read in full...)
I consider her a friend, yet she says I'm using her. Any advice on how to deal with this?
Q. I met this girl at an AA meeting and she was really cute and flirty at first. We started talking, went to a midnight meeting and I took her back to my apartment and we made snacks. She ended up spending the night and we made out and when we got t...
A. 26 November 2013: You absolutely *are* using her, and I think you know that. You said this:
"And they have to be quickies because I hate the foreplay and cuddling crap. I just like my space after sex, I don't like people touching on me and cuddling me because ... (read in full...)
Is there really ever a good time to break up with someone?
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months who has started to get clingy and needy. He's a very nice man and has many wonderful qualities but he is way more into this relationship then me. I'll give some examples of his needy behavior: He tex...
A. 26 November 2013: In this guy's case, why haven't you straight up told him that he was acting needy and clingy, and that you're having a hard time staying with him because of it? Sometimes the direct approach is the best approach.
If he still is oblivious after yo... (read in full...)
How can I get someone to return my things without making a scene?
Q. I lent a friend (Nick) a DVD box set about 18 months ago. I then broke up with my boyfriend (it was awful) and I needed to go down the no contact route. This meant that I didn't see Nick nearly as much anymore because I was no longer going to the ...
A. 26 November 2013: If Nick isn't your ex, then why can't you go there? And is he at his home any time other than in the middle of the night or early morning? If so, just go over there and get them, end of story. ... (read in full...)
I can't remember all of the women I have slept with. Is this a problem?
Q. I was sitting here, alone in my basement feeling bad for myself, and decided I would write a list of all of the women I have slept with. I can't remember all of them that I have been with. Should this be concerning in my eyes? What is you all's ...
A. 26 November 2013: Why would writing down all the women that you've slept with make you feel better, and why were you feeling bad for yourself in the first place?
Personally, I think you should look to the future and not the past. Writing down a list of all the ... (read in full...)
Can phone sex keep our relationship strong?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship with someone in a different country. Gasp! Yes, I said a long distance relationship. Our relationship is still new (5 months about) but I feel it is strengthening. We are continuously making plans to visit e...
A. 26 November 2013: Actually, transmitting sexual images is one of the dumbest things anyone can possibly do, especially if this is a newish relationship (5 months and you have never met the guy is definitely new). We tell our kids never to sext, and it applies to ... (read in full...)
How do I move past this mistake?
Q. I'm a Christian lady I made a mistake and had sex with a guy that I had just met I knew it was wrong but I was totally attracted him and plus he made it seen like he really liked me now he doesn't call or text anymore I feel so ashamed and used,how ...
A. 26 November 2013: You learn from it. That's all you can do. The decision was made, the mistake was made, and if you're a Christian, you must now tap into one of the benchmarks of your religion - forgiveness, which starts with forgiving yourself.
... (read in full...)
Am I about to be used in revenge sex with a longtime friend?
Q. This is a long and complex story of infidelity and revenge sex. So here's the short version. My friend had been cheating on his wife unknown to me. I've know them both since childhood. I kept our friendship at a respectful distance because I could ...
A. 25 November 2013: If you care about your friend, you won't agree to revenge sex, or you'll blow up the friendship when they try to make things happen, and it comes out on the marriage counselor's couch that she slept with you.
Seriously -- there are many women ou... (read in full...)
Would you ever ask an ex to be your plus 1 at a wedding?
Q. Would you ever asks an ex to be your plus 1 at a wedding? I ask because my ex asked me to go to a wedding with him. He was the dumpee. It was 5 months ago we broke up, but he didn't take it so great. We've spoken on and off since, but nothing much. ...
A. 24 November 2013: If he was the dumpee and took it badly, then asking you to go to a wedding is a brilliant move, because the whole "love" vibe has softened up many women, that's for sure. Love is in the air, and it would be so easy to get caught up in the moment ... (read in full...)
I care about him, but not the way he wants. What are my options?
Q. Hi everyone, There is this guy I've been talking to and we have just been texting back and forth but we have never actually met. He has been coming on strong telling me that he is in love with me and that he wants me in his life. He wants to meet me ...
A. 24 November 2013: Yeah, this is really not good. He's a scammer for starters, and possibly a danger, like AuntyEm said.
This MoneyPak thing makes it seem like one of those Nigerian scams, which is what makes me think that this guy is a con artist. Take a look at ... (read in full...)
Will he always be lazy and mess up the house and not want me to be around his friends/
Q. My friend and have been fighting non stop for the past week! I am at the point where I can not stand him and that I am starting to hate him! We will be together a year next month. He moved in a few months ago and things was great. Until now he ...
A. 24 November 2013: I agree with Honeypie. You don't have a 2-year old watched by someone who is NOT watching her, unless you want Mr. Fork and Mrs. Electrical socket to become fast friends. Seriously, a 2-year old needs supervision, or there will be trouble.
Other... (read in full...)
My husband won't live by the same standards he sets for me
Q. My husband is a jealous person and I havent seen my cousin in 2 years as she drinks, has guys at her flat and is on facebook. These are not the kind of things that interest me but I did pop in and see her before I met my husband as she was always t...
A. 23 November 2013: You stand up to him is what you do! What's he going to do to you when you go to your cousin's? Tell him you're going, and if he protests, just respond that it'll give him a chance to hang out with his uncle.
Seriously. Unless he beats you for ... (read in full...)
Trying to save my marriage. Husband calls me names for having had sexual partners before we met. Help!
Q. I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have been together for 14. We have 4 children together. Recently, he has told me that he wants to leave me because I had sex with multiple people (a total of 6, including 2 one night stands) ...
A. 23 November 2013: FYI, age is 33, which would be 19 at relationship start and 26 at marriage. Not unreasonable. He may or may not be the same age she is.
Think about it this way, OP. If he leaves you, what are the chances that he'll find some virginal woman? ... (read in full...)
Trying to save my marriage. Husband calls me names for having had sexual partners before we met. Help!
Q. I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have been together for 14. We have 4 children together. Recently, he has told me that he wants to leave me because I had sex with multiple people (a total of 6, including 2 one night stands) ...
A. 22 November 2013: Yeah, something's missing here. If he was with you for 14 years, and only now he's calling you all of these bad things and saying he'll leave you, then I strongly suspect that he's using the subject as a red herring (a misleading subject intended ... (read in full...)
What can I do really quickly to improve my skin? I am attending a wedding and I have too many pimples and other issues.
Q. Hi friends. My problem may sound really silly but I really need some help please. I have a marriage ceremony to attend day after tomorrow and I have soooo many pimples on my forehead. I understand that having pimples is normal but it’s too much and...
A. 22 November 2013: I'll give you the benefit of the doubt here. Get something nice, and make it nice enough to use for more than one occasion! A sari is beautiful no matter what your body type is. I'll tell you what, the best wedding I have ever been to was, in ... (read in full...)
How do I approach the topic of sex without hurting his feelings/pride?
Q. Am I putting too much pressure on us both? Dear Cupid, After a long distressing relationship and a painful break up with a dead-beat guy about half a year ago now, I finally met someone wonderful who I adore. He's kind, funny and so sweet. He ...
A. 22 November 2013: He sounds both guilty and has performance anxiety. With this one, don't worry about hurting his feelings, but make the questions open-ended, and do not ask if you're the problem, because you're not. He also may have an issue with you not being a ... (read in full...)
Mom found out I'm no longer a virgin and all hell has broken loose! I don't regard myself as a sl*t, but she now certainly makes me feel like one.
Q. I'm a 27yr female, a doctor in her fellowship in Mexico. I was virgin till I turned 25, I decided to have sex with my then 6month boyfriend who's still withe me (three years now). We are in a steady and serious relationship, even considering ...
A. 22 November 2013: You're 27 now. There's a point in time where you forge your own way and make your own choices. To your mom, you're always going to be her "little girl". To someone who's really religiously dogmatic, sometimes the relationship gets lost in the ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating is mentoring a girl and I don't feel comfortable with it
Q. I have been talking to (and now dating) this guy since school started, and things are definitely moving forward. We hang out regularly but still engage in our own friends and interests. He shares a lot with me but there's one thing that has been ...
A. 21 November 2013: Okay, you're just starting out, and many people date more than one person until it's time to go exclusive. That's perfectly fine as long as there is no sex involved.
If you haven't gotten sexually active, delay it. Just ask him nicely if he's ... (read in full...)
Questions on sex and HIV...
Q. I've just read the stats about HIV and I'm shocked as too how many people were diagnosed in 2012. I have a few questions.. 1. How does a man get HIV off a woman? It seems there wouldn't be enough fluid exchanging. 2. How common is it to ge...
A. 21 November 2013: You think sexual fluids are the only way? What about anal fissures during anal sex, sweat, saliva, tiny rug burns from getting freaky on a 70's shag rug?
If there are fluids flying everywhere, guys are just as at risk as the ladies.... (read in full...)
I recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wife's privates on her phone!
Q. Hello everyone, i need your help...i recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wifes privates on her phone. we have been married for 9 years and she has never done anything like this. i checked the dates on the pics and they have been take...
A. 21 November 2013: Well, personally, I think face shots are so overrated, and tagging vagina shots are the new rage on Facebook and Instagram. They're best taken in groups on vacation in Honolulu. My vagina shots even have them carrying a tiny umbrella drink as ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to believe all lesbians are of the lower class and are unmotivated without ambition. Where are all the stable single lesbians?
Q. Why is my dating pool so tragic? It's like all the women I've tried to take serious were going nowhere in life. I don't judge never did but today I realized they all have the no drive in common to be and do something greater in life. My first chic ...
A. 20 November 2013: Interesting. There are a few people who subconsciously choose those of a lower station because they believe it gives them the balance of control in a relationship, while at the same time disdaining those same partners FOR being seemingly ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend tells me I'd look better if I lost weight then regrets it and tells me I look fine! What's going on?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months. We're in a really happy relationship except for one thing. On occasion he has told me that I'd look better if I lost half a stone. He also tells me frequently (in a jokey way but I see a serious ...
A. 19 November 2013: I know exactly what's going on here. This guy has a BAGGAGE issue. He's hung up on someone else (or the idea of someone else), most likely a girlfriend in his past, and he now views that as an idea. He's wanting you to be made in THAT image, then ... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 19 November 2013: Oh, and I bet it was in a van, but what husband keeps bringing stuff up after how many years?!... (read in full...)
He said he was single, but now I find out about his terminal girlfriend
Q. I've just found out that this guy I have been getting to know has a girlfriend and that she is terminally ill. I confronted him and he says he just needs someone to support him through this time. I feel sick to my stomach because we have kissed a ...
A. 18 November 2013: Oh my god. That poor dying girl doesn't deserve this guy, who is morally bankrupt. RUN from him, because what would happen if you two got serious and something happened to you? Would he cheat on you for "support" at the moment you needed him the ... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 18 November 2013: Anon male, the moderators don't reject posts because of dissenting opinions. However, being too harsh and attacking other posters or the OP will get an answer rejected.
That being said, I don't like lying in a marriage or a relation... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 18 November 2013: Your wife knows you best in the world. I'm guessing that talking about her former sex life before you is something that you've brought up on a regular basis, and it wasn't just now after 31 years??
She most likely cued in on your obsessiv... (read in full...)
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