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writes:I'm a Christian lady I made a mistake and had sex with a guy that I had just met I knew it was wrong but I was totally attracted him and plus he made it seen like he really liked me now he doesn't call or text anymore I feel so ashamed and used,how do I recover from this
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): Thanks everyone I feel much better today I understand I made a mistake and I must learn from it and move on again thanks God bless!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): Don't beat yourself up over it. You're only about the billionth woman to make such a mistake. Next time you'll know better. Remember men don't get emotionally attached as quickly as women. So, be sure to give yourself a long enough time in your next relationship, (no less than 60 days or 6 months, or whatever), before having sex next time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): You know by your faith that you can always turn to God and ask for His forgiveness. You also know by your faith that Christ gave his life for our sins and salvation. You are human and you did what humans do. We make mistakes. You know right from wrong; but you were never expected to be perfect. All it takes is a prayer.
Carry no shame. Even Christ faced temptation. You had to learn by experience. Forgive yourself, and you'll find your peace. No man can bring shame on you; because you are washed clean by His Holy blood. Always remember what you were taught.
You'll be just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): YouWish said it best. I have gotten back into my religion and I am doing it gradually learning that forgiveness is a big thing. Especially being able to forgive yourself. It is normal to have sexual feelings for someone and it's also hard to control it at times. I speak from experience because I have a few guy friends and there is one I am extremely attracted to so much that I want to marry him. We flirt constantly on text and email so I understand how you feel. And some guys are like that as soon as they sleep with you. It doesn't mean you are a bad person. Hope you feel better.
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reader, emily218 +, writes (26 November 2013):
Just ask for forgiveness and you will be forgiven. I was raised in a Christian family and stayed a virgin until I met my current boyfriend (whom I plan on marrying). Don't feel ashamed though because everyone makes mistakes. You can chose to dwell on them or learn from them! Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): I agree forgive yourself, God already sees your sorry. We are the worst critic's of ourselves at times. If the outcome was good would u still repent if you guys had hit it off. But seriously forgive yourself and seek out those who seek commitment as u do.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 November 2013):
 You learn from it. That's all you can do. The decision was made, the mistake was made, and if you're a Christian, you must now tap into one of the benchmarks of your religion - forgiveness, which starts with forgiving yourself.
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