I went to the movies with a male friend. Was that cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I've been friends with this guy for 2 years and 2 weeks ago he told me he's never had a gf before and that I was the first girl that got close to him and he developed feelings for me, I reminded him I have a boyfriend that I love, he said he was ...
A. 3 January 2014: That's just it, OP. He's not your friend. You are the object of his affection. He wants to get in your pants. When someone has non-platonic feelings for someone else, it ceases to be platonic. It becomes a sexual relationship without the sex. ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me a month before he moved away
Q. He's twelve years older than me, I'm 18. When we started dating we were both concerned about other peoples reactions due to the age and so because he was moving away at the end of last month we decided to try stay secret given nothing long term ...
A. 2 January 2014: You need to get over him by cutting contact. Breaking up is breaking up. How can you move on when he's still in your life daily? How can you find another guy only to tell him that you're in daily contact with your ex?
There's also another ... (read in full...)
Husband said he was just looking for friends, but I'm suspicious
Q. A little background of my situation. I have been married for almost 6 years. After about a year of happy marriage I found my husband talking with and exchanging nude pictures online. I confronted him and he apologized and promised it would never ...
A. 2 January 2014: Your husband is gay. After 6 years if he's cheating on you, misspending your money, and sending nude shots of himself on the internet while telling you he's looking for friends, then he needs to be divorced.
You're young. The marriage is young... (read in full...)
It bothers me that my boyfriend is not more consciencious about his appearance
Q. Hi, I am 24 years old and in a relationship with a man for 9 months,he keeps me very happy and he's head over heels in love with me,I like him too but as superficial as this sounds I always wanted my man to dress smart wear nice watches,...
A. 2 January 2014: He tries to dress up nice for you but you don't like it?? Why would you break up with him over that? Is he open to your input about his style, as many guys are?
If you can't accept him the way he is, you should let him go free to be with som... (read in full...)
I went to the movies with a male friend. Was that cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I've been friends with this guy for 2 years and 2 weeks ago he told me he's never had a gf before and that I was the first girl that got close to him and he developed feelings for me, I reminded him I have a boyfriend that I love, he said he was ...
A. 2 January 2014: Yes, you sure DID cheat on your boyfriend! You were unfaithful, disloyal, and deceptive. It doesn't take sex to cheat. Here's why:
1. While I disagree with your boyfriend that you can't have opposite sex friends, you can't have ones who have... (read in full...)
My boyfriend secretly recorded one of our arguments
Q. Dear Cupid, My (ex)boyfriend just admitted that he secretly recorded an audio file of an argument that occured three weeks ago and was resolved. Today, he was angry with me and told me that he found my reaction on that audio file unbelievably ...
A. 2 January 2014: There's one more thing here, and I hesitated to mention it before...
If he has been secretly recording your arguments and keeping them for "his own reference", what the hell is he referencing, and I would immediately wonder what else he is recor... (read in full...)
My boyfriend secretly recorded one of our arguments
Q. Dear Cupid, My (ex)boyfriend just admitted that he secretly recorded an audio file of an argument that occured three weeks ago and was resolved. Today, he was angry with me and told me that he found my reaction on that audio file unbelievably ...
A. 2 January 2014: My best advice to you would be to talk to a lawyer or solicitor, because when I did research into the criminal and civil legality of secretly recording conversations, the laws in my country and in the world are all across the board, ranging from ... (read in full...)
Is this guy's behaviour normal? Though sex did not take place - twice he has tried to have sex, when I've been asleep, but his actions woke me each time, before it went further.
Q. I recently had a sleepover at my boyfriend's. A few months back we lost our virginity to each other. While we have regular sex, I found it weird that he tried to have sex with me when I was sleeping. It did not happen once but twice during the nigh...
A. 1 January 2014: That is a very creepy red flag. When you're asleep, you can't consent to have sex. People do it for different reasons. A lot of which is power - some fetishes for guys (and women who like to wake their men up with BJ's) get off on trying to cause ... (read in full...)
He met his ex behind my back and now I don't feel like I can trust him!
Q. I've just found out my bf of a year has met his ex behind my back. He's been split from this girl for 3 years and has had 2 relationships inbetween, both of which he cheated on them with this girl. He told me about it when I was getting to k...
A. 1 January 2014: He cheated on two past relationships with this ex? I guarantee they've slept together, and you're number 3. He is an idiot and a cheating lying dog and you are no different than his previous relationships. After 3 years, all the closure he needed ... (read in full...)
I'm meeting my ex so she can get closure from our breakup but its making me very uncomfortable
Q. Hi, I never thought I'd resort to asking online, but I realize what I really need is an outsider's perspective on the situation. I'm bisexual, btw. Basically, this summer I started going out with a woman and although it was fun in the begin...
A. 1 January 2014: I agree - you should NOT meet with her. If she was sending abusive messages and flooding your inbox and all that, she's disqualified from getting to talk to you.
You are not responsible for her closure, and any attempt by her at making you feel... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret breaking the good guy's heart?
Q. Hello, why is it when men meet what it seems a nice women, they start to like they find out that their, exs treated them bad, abuse them, beat them , they say they want to be treated good, but when you do, they dump you an go back to the guy, who ...
A. 1 January 2014: People who do that are damaged and in need of professional help. Regret is simplifying the issue - women like this can't break patterns. Good guys shouldn't take it personally, and they can't be the knight in shining armor in this case because the ... (read in full...)
I like women but want to be married to a man. Is this normal?
Q. I love men, want to be with a man, and crush on men. I'm almost 30 and still single and haven't had a real relationship, however. I feel like something is wrong with me. I also love watching women strip on porn sites to get me off. It's easier to ...
A. 1 January 2014: Sexuality is fluid. People don't fit into neat little labels. It can be as complicated as the person themselves are. You are sexually attracted to lesbian imagery, and it's possible you have some bisexual tendencies as well. Your burden of ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!
Q. This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has ...
A. 1 January 2014: Sorry SVC! I didn't see your last sentence - you did touch on it!... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 1 January 2014: She's reading this? Or, you're telling her about this?
Oooh!
Have her try THIS out for size:
If she is using Gender roles as her reason for making you pay all the time, tell her that she must submit herself to ALL of the outdated gender r... (read in full...)
I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm.
Q. Please excuse the graphic details!! I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm. Only ever clitoral orgasms. My boyfriend of two years says he really wants me to have one. I think he misses it and feels he can't satisfy me sexually. But I can only really ...
A. 1 January 2014: A g-spot orgasm is, quite simply, to stimulate the clitoris indirectly from inside the vagina. Some can, some can't.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll lose my b/f of 4 years if he finds out I cheated on him
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for 4yrs and I'm afraid that I will lose him if he ever finds that i have slept with another guy who have know for about 3days.what can I do to prevent this from happening...
A. 1 January 2014: Why did you do it? Maybe your relationship with your BF is already over, and you should break up. Why couldn't you come here for help BEFORE you slept with him and wrote a question saying "I'm afraid I'll lose my BF of 4 years if I sleep with ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!
Q. This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has ...
A. 1 January 2014: Personally, if it *were* about the calendar, and he bought it himself or his mom wasn't making the snide comments and telling him where to hang it knowing you didn't like it, I'd tell you to dismiss it as one of the tacky knickknack things a guy ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!
Q. This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has ...
A. 1 January 2014: The Sports Illustrated calender is just a symptom, and you're right, there is a HUGE red flag going on here. His mom is acting like your rival with buying him this calendar, telling him to hang it next to his bed, and making catty remarks about ... (read in full...)
I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm.
Q. Please excuse the graphic details!! I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm. Only ever clitoral orgasms. My boyfriend of two years says he really wants me to have one. I think he misses it and feels he can't satisfy me sexually. But I can only really ...
A. 31 December 2013: First of all, you're in the majority because up to 75% of women don't have penetrative orgasms. G-spot orgasms stimulate the CLITORIS from inside the vagina, so it's not how deep you go, it's whether or not you have the right angle and enough ... (read in full...)
Cheater Cheater!!!
Q. My husband bought another woman clothing and jewelry for Christmas I found the receipt in his truck, I know he will deny it, should I ask him about it or leave it alone? ...
A. 31 December 2013: Although you *could* confront him now, especially if the receipt shows that the clothes are in a different size than what you wear, if it were me, I'd do a quick check to dot my I's and cross my t's simply to rule out that he's being proactive and ... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 31 December 2013: I was thinking "age gap" as well. OP is 36-40, so I was wondering if the girlfriend is 18-25, in which case it's her using him to get what she wants. A whole coterie of gold diggers...yeesh. And they say porn is degrading. I think this is more ... (read in full...)
Was he serious or was it the booze talking?
Q. Hello agony aunts and uncles, Ok so I was out the other night with a friends and her boyfriend in the same bar as this guy we went to school with years ago. We never chatted in school but knew of each other. Anyways he was really drunk and it took ...
A. 31 December 2013: Heh, translation: "I am blackout drunk and my hormones have taken over my vocal abilities".
Take whatever he said with a grain of sale - he could have been momentarily attracted to you in the heat of the drunken moment.... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 31 December 2013: Is she a girlfriend or a paid escort/prostitute, and why the hell would she ask you to pay her rent if you don't live there?!? And she's "going easy" on you? That entitlement attitude makes me want to seriously vomit.
I love to feel pampered... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 30 December 2013: You could stop asking her out. Truly, after a few months, there should be some give and take, as the whole idea of a guy always paying is from an outdated time when women either didn't work at all, or worked at a menial temporary low-paying job. ... (read in full...)
I have never climaxed during intercourse and it might ruin this relationship
Q. I haven't used Dear Cupid for a while - I guess I only come here when I need advice the most; when I've thought so hard about relationship issues but can't seem to come to any decision or conclusion. I need help; I just need some truthful answers. ...
A. 30 December 2013: Most women can't have an orgasm by penetration alone, because there are few nerve endings inside the vagina itself. For a guy, it would be like expecting a guy to be stimulated to orgasm merely by ONLY rubbing his scrotum without touching the penis ... (read in full...)
My husband's sexual fetish frightens me
Q. Recently me and my husband had a romantic night in together, the night went well, it was on the day after Boxing Day. We had a lovely dinner and a romantic day in; the dinner was candlelit and my husband cooked it, not me! We were discussing each ...
A. 30 December 2013: You're right to be concerned, and especially right to not grant that fetish to him, because being in shock is the body's way of coping with physical or emotional shutdown, and YES, it could be fatal. People have died from asphyxiation or dropping ... (read in full...)
Is My Sex Life Ruined? Please I Need Help!
Q. I'm a 19 year old male, and i like watching porn, im worried that this is affecting me more at picking up girls, i don't just go porn surfing and watch every video i see, i just watch the porn stars who are my favorite, one in particular i have came ...
A. 30 December 2013: This site would benefit you greatly:
www.yourbrainonporn.com
It's not a judgmental site, and it deals with people like you in various stages of porn addiction, which it sounds like you have. You might have a bit of celebrity obsession as wel... (read in full...)
Finally reaching my breaking point in my relationship
Q. Hey everyone, I have reached my breaking point in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year in February. Here lately we have been fighting non stop! Today we have fought since last night! I am so tired of fighting but I ...
A. 30 December 2013: You're depressed and crying NOW! What's the difference?
A guy not wanting you to be around his friends is a major red flag. He tells you his mom doesn't like you, yet tells you that if you're not around her then you can't be with his friends?... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have an affair when your single?
Q. Is it OK to have an affair with someone when I am single? I don't know the girls boyfriend but I know they have been together for over 3 years. She has been really coming on to me recently and I know something could happen if I initiate it. ...
A. 30 December 2013: You would be an accomplice to cheating. Why is this attractive? If you were interested in starting something with her that's more than pure no-strings sex, why would you choose someone who betrays and sleeps around on a guy she professes to love? ... (read in full...)
Blocked from facebook after first meeting!
Q. The other night, I went to a bar with some friends. It's a bar where we go quite often. There is this guy who I always see there as well. He usually look at me a lot but never talk to me. It's been going on for about a year. I never really was ...
A. 30 December 2013: Oh yeah, most likely cheater alert. Dancing, laughing, kissing at a date with a stranger? All behaviors he wouldn't want his wife or girlfriend to know for sure!
You looked up his FB - you didn't see a significant other?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's previous lovers made her come but I can't seem to
Q. Hello Aunts! I am a 20 year old male who has been with my girlfriend for over a year now. She is the only woman I have ever been intimate with. My problem is that I cannot make her orgasm except by rubbing her clit and she is getting very...
A. 29 December 2013: I'm curious as to how the conversation turned to comparison. Who brought up the subject of her past lovers, you or her?
One thing I'll say about you is - you impress me! For you to put this much effort into pleasing her makes you a keeper o... (read in full...)
I would like to know where my boyfriend is during the day, and night, 24/7.
Q. Hi all, I would like to know if its too much for me to ask my bf about his whereabouts. By asking about his whereabouts I mean just asking him his plans for the day and what he'd be doing, not the crazy gf sort of asking every hour. Personally I ...
A. 29 December 2013: Why? Why do you think it's courtesy and responsibility? Why does not knowing rob you of your peace of mind? Like Ciar has said so well, you're not his mom. What is next, snooping on him? Demanding passwords to his computer and cell phone and ... (read in full...)
Is this a mid life crisis or can men change so quickly?
Q. I had casually been seeing a guy for a year, I wanted a relationship but he didn't as he "doesn't have relationships" and I know this to be true. He had his life and I had mine, we never went out, only saw each other behind closed doors (again his ...
A. 29 December 2013: He is a user of women, and if he will not talk to you directly, you need to involve the court system.
If you are keeping your baby, that baby is your entire priority. To not make this man financially and completely accountable is to neglect ... (read in full...)
Should I buy my boyfriend of 4 months the new Playstation 4?
Q. Hi Dear Cupid, I am in a LDR with a guy I met 4 months ago. We decided to make it official October of this year. Instead of exchanging gifts during Christmas time, it was a mutual decision for us to surprise each other with them in January when ...
A. 29 December 2013: NO! Let him buy his PS4. Your gift should be of the small variety! No Movado, no PS4, no Kindle.
Let me put it to you this way - if you hate him and want to destroy your relationship, then start spending massive dollars early in the relation... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't want me to get another tattoo
Q. Hi all, I could do with some advice. I'm 20 this year and in my country, it is legal to get a tattoo at this age. I've been meaning to get another tattoo next year. But my bf does not seem keen on me getting another tattoo. I am not a rash person ...
A. 28 December 2013: It also boils down to your boyfriend respecting YOUR wishes. Your body is your body, and your BF doesn't own you. He is free to state his opinion, but in the end, it's your choice, and ONLY your choice. Maybe he's not the guy for you if he would ... (read in full...)
I feel so used. Why didn't he value me as a friend?
Q. Ok please help I was very good friends with a guy then he started confiding in me he had problems with the girl he'd been with for 5 years saying she was manipulative and made his life hard Stupidly I became close and we kissed a few times after wh...
A. 28 December 2013: You weren't friends with this guy! You are the mistress he had an emotional and partially physical affair he had on his wife/girlfriend (you didn't mention the nature of their relationship, but they own a house together, so being married is a ... (read in full...)
I met a guy online and he kept on postponing because of back problems. Should I wait it out?
Q. Hi guys, I have come looking for advice, just slightly confused about a sitaution .So a while ago I decided to give online dating a go. I met this guy online. We hit it from the start.Its been five months and we speak everyday, skype text etc.....
A. 28 December 2013: Chronic back problems are usually there for life. In his case, I'd be willing to bet that it's a self image problem. He may still feel like he's too overweight, too awkward, and meeting you send him into a panic attack because he is afraid that ... (read in full...)
He promised to spend New Year's Eve with him but cancelled to be with his friend. Should I stick it out or move on?
Q. I've dated my boyfriend for a year and out of the blue the past January he broke up with me. He became easily influenced by his mates as they broke up with their gfs and were single and he was the only one attached at the time. We spend New Year's ...
A. 28 December 2013: I'd break up with him. Someone coming back for two weeks - there are 13 other days they can get together, and his casual ability to just push you aside does reveal that you will get hurt again if you stay with him.
This is the difference between ... (read in full...)
It's not so much what he did, it's that he lied about it
Q. hey aunties and uncles... i am in a real tricky situation and just cant seem to make my own judgement or decision on what to do... I have recently been seeing a guy for the last 7 months and am planning to get married in November... we have known ...
A. 27 December 2013: Wow! Did your virginity get lost unprotected?? Have you two had unprotected sex or any accidents with condoms? This is really bad, because not only was he NOT a virgin, he was an absolute utter manwhore who had over 30+ sexual partners, exposing ... (read in full...)
Should I continue dating someone I know will leave within the year?
Q. I've been dating for 3 months a guy that i know is leaving in a year. He is military and he is only temporarily stationed here. I love spending time with him and we get along great. But he has told me time and time again that he doesn't believe in ...
A. 27 December 2013: I wouldn't continue to date him! He wants you as a sex buddy while he's there and that's it. You relieve his horniness, and that's your place in his life. My father met my mom while he was on leave as a soldier, and they had their relationship ... (read in full...)
I wasnt a priority his life, so I broke up with him, did I do right?
Q. Hi everyone! I hope someone can help me out and maybe guide me on a decision I made. I broke up with my boyfriend of about 4 months today and I guess I just need to see if people think I did the right thing as I know what I am like, I will do ...
A. 27 December 2013: I'd have to say you did the right thing. If you're having that many problems at the 4 month point, then you both weren't a good fit.
Now, whether he replies or not is irrelevant. If you've broken up with him, then cut off the conversa... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated on me years ago and my parents worry about my future with him
Q. I'm 24 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Our relationship was great until I knew he lied and cheat from me several times. That's about 2 years ago and since then I'm become a negative person and always worrying too much. However, I kno...
A. 26 December 2013: There are two things in play here:
1. Your past. He cheated on you several times. It would be one thing if it were once or one woman that got out of hand, and he felt such horrific remorse that every action he took since then was to the betterin... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated on me years ago and my parents worry about my future with him
Q. I'm 24 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Our relationship was great until I knew he lied and cheat from me several times. That's about 2 years ago and since then I'm become a negative person and always worrying too much. However, I kno...
A. 26 December 2013: There are two things in play here:
1. Your past. He cheated on you several times. It would be one thing if it were once or one woman that got out of hand, and he felt such horrific remorse that every action he took since then was to the betterin... (read in full...)
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