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36-40,
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writes:I met an American girl when I was visit Dubai like 8 months ago. We spent 15 days together and after I came back we started doing things on net and said " I love you" to each other. I'm 28 and she is 24. My problem is that she keeps asking me to introduce her into my family. I can't do introduce into family as one American girlfriend already dumped me and made me embarrassed in front of my family. My friends too say that Western women can hire and fire you anytime and I should not introduce her into family. I love her and I would like to know what you people take on my situation? What should I do now?Thanking you people in anticipation.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (1 December 2013):
 LDRs are tough and intercultural LDRs are even more challenging.
So, what is the general notion of the relationship? Are one or both of you planning to move in order to keep the relationship intact? When do you plan to see each other again?
Ask her why she wants to meet your family. Maybe she's concerned you aren't really considering her as a true girlfriend? Maybe she's been told that Pakistani men only want an American girlfriend for a short time before they marry the girl their family have selected for them? Did a friend of hers date a Pakistani man and then get dumped when he left Dubai? How is it that you have decided that this girl is your girlfriend?
I would spend some time talking to her and I would devote even more time into learning about the cultural differences you two have and how you can best communicate so that you understand the other's point of view.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 December 2013):
 I'm an American, and I don't think the time is right yet to introduce her to your family. You spent 15 days together in total and spent the rest of your time as a long distance internet relationship for 8 months. Spending 8 months online isn't the same as having a serious real life relationship in terms of natural progression.
You shouldn't introduce her until the two of you are living in the same place locally. I'm not necessarily saying you have to move in together, but the introductions shouldn't take place until the relationship is NO LONGER long distance and being conducted through the internet.
I say this not because she's American, but because of the very high rate of failure in long distance relationships, and that's what you have now. Do not introduce until your relationship is NO LONGER long distance. Not beforehand.
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