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writes:Lately my bf and I have been spending lots of time together. We have been with each other every day for 3 weeks. I also have been staying his place even though i have my own place. Previously was not like that and im really quite happy to be with him...i never get tired! However i worry he will get tired but he seems happy and hasnt said anything. I think he likes it but historically hes a person who likes time to himself so I worry he might feel smothered and not show it because he wants me to stay happy. However i dont want to create a problem if there is none...especially if hes happy this way...what should i do...? I am anxious Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 September 2011):
 This is extremely simple. Take a couple days off! Pick up a hobby you like to do or find a couple of your friends and hit the town.
You're right. A relationship must breathe in order to survive. If you want him in your life for the long haul, remember, it's a marathon, not a sprint. Go all out, and you two will flame out.
Taking a day apart is no cause for anxiety. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and will enrich the time you have together. This has nothing to do with creating any problems. In fact, it's preventing one, like a teeth cleaning at the dentist or an annual doctor's physical or an oil change for a car.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (12 September 2011):
What should you do? Talk to him! The best way to avoid problems in a relationship is to communicate. There's really no way to know if you're smothering him or if he's just as happy as you are without having a conversation about it. So, you should go ahead and broach the subject.
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): Even if things are going really well, make sure you guys spend a little bit of time apart, even if its just for one night every few weeks. Maybe arrange a girls night out with your friends? or a weekend at your own place?
if things seem fine you can probably keep staying over at his place at night, but make sure you spend a few hours apart, doing your own thing every now and again, so that it gives your bf a chance for some alone time. It seems like you have a solid relationship but all couples like the occasional time off!
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