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writes: I was on Skype the other day and he came online. We were FWB before but now he has a girlfriend:Him: So why did you get into bed with me?Him: The first time?Me: it wasn't the drink is all i'm sayingHim: So what was it?Him: I know it wasn't the drink - the drink was the night before.Me: i don't knowHim: Boring :(Me: well what do you want me to say?Me: that i wanted you?Him: I don't want you to say anything, I just wondered.Me: because i wanted toHim: :)Me: was fun while it lastedHim: Yeah it wasHim: :(Him: Guess I'm not good enough for youMe: haha oh shut upHim: ;)Me: guilt trip!Him: Did it work?Me: always doesHim: Good goodHim: I miss you.He keeps starting weird convos like that. Why would you bring up something that's in the past?Do you think he's hinting that he wants to cheat on his girlfriend or something? I just think it's an odd conversation from a guy who's supposed to be taken.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just found it an odd thing to bring up. Especially since he's hinted about this many times now.
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (14 September 2011):
 He's trying to see if he can push your buttons, and is most certainly looking to see if your up for a bit of somethin somethinHe's started by fishing for compliments, trying to remind you of "how good it was" before you know it he will be at your door for a quick rumble and your be left more than likely feeling awful afterwards.Next time - just don't even entertain the trip down memory lane, my your answer to his first question was quote flirty leaving the conversation to lead in a sexual direction, perhaps ne t time be blunt and to the point I would have answered"what happened, happened a long time ago - you've moved on, I'm moving on you have a girlfriend- let's leave that in the past"In my opinon your way better off away from the cheating toad!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2011): "The litmus test for any conversation between two former intimate partners has to be "Would I show this transcript to my girlfriend?""
- I LOVE THIS! So true! Great advice.
To the OP - yes, he wants to cheat. He wants things all ways, and people who act like that end up hurting everyone in the long run. Don't be drawn in - you're worth way more than to be someone's 'bit on the side'. Live your own life, to the fullest!
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (14 September 2011):
 Hi,
I have go agree with you. It's not appropriate of him to talk this way when he's taking. I don't know what's his intensions, but whatever it's don't sleep with him anymore. Before, you were FWB, I guess you were both single, so that was ok, but now he has a formal girlfriend. Not only it's not morally right, it's unfair to his girlfriend, and most importantly, if you keep having sex with him, you might become attached to him, and I don't want you to get hurt.
Really, i don't know why he talks to you that way, worst why does he tell you "miss you"? Maybe he's a good guy, good friend, but as a man you cannot trust him, just know that. Sorry, wasn't much of a help, but only he can tell you what's in his mind, I have no idea.
Good luck!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (14 September 2011):
 The litmus test for any conversation between two former intimate partners has to be "Would I show this transcript to my girlfriend?"
In this case, the answer is in neon lights: YES.
He's testing the waters to try and cheat with you on his girlfriend. From your hesitancy in delivering the steamy walk down memory lane, I'm thinking that you're not comfortable with his intentions in that conversation.
My advice is to take it a step further and cut him off from your life. You were FWB. You're not now, and it's a chapter in your life that should have the page turned on it.
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