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writes:Whenever me and my partner have sex it is always him doing the work. I always feel bad about it even though he has never mentioned it.I do try to take control but I have pain in my knees which makes going on top very unpleasant and painful for me.I just wondered if there are any other positions in which I can take control. I always feel so useless when we have sex. :(thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, mammer69  +, writes (19 September 2011):
I think if you feel this way talk to your BF and express these feelings to him if he is a good BF he will understand and try to help you feel better about it. You could also try pleasing him in other ways to try and make up for the fact that you don't do to much. Like if he really likes it when you go down on him just do that a lot. I don't know how endowed you are in the chest department but if you have C's or bigger you should be able to do (what my friends call) a boob job, basically a hand job with your boobs. Sit him on the couch, pull out his thing and play with him a little and then pull out your breasts and slide his thing in between them (if he has on pants that have any zippers I suggest taking them off first). Then cup your breasts around his penis and slowly slide your breasts up and down on his thing until he explodes like MT. Vesuvius. Or if you want to please him and yourself at the same time there is a position called the Gemini. You get on top and sit on him you slide down until his thing is in front of you. insert him and then lean back and slowly pivot up and down or in small circles or what ever way you like, and if he is smart he'll start moving in the same motion. I hope I've helped you out Chicky have fun and good luck.
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reader, mammer69 +, writes (18 September 2011):
I say just find other ways to please him, like for instance, and if you feel like this talk to him about it express these feelings to him or you could just like take control. If he like's it when you go down on him, just do that a lot or I don't know how endowed in the chest department you are but if you have C's or bigger you could give him ( what my friends call) a boob job (basically a hand job with your boobs). You get him on the couch, pull his thing out and tease it a little then you pull your breasts out and place his thing in between them (if he is wearing pants with a zipper of some sort I would suggest taking them off first) and then you squeeze your breasts together squeezing his penis and slowly move them up and down until he erupts like Mount Vesuvius (if he is a breast man he will love it). Or if you want to please him while pleasing yourself too there is one I know called the Gemini. You sit on top of him and slowly slide down until his penis is just in front of you. Then you lean back and insert him, and just pivot on top of him back and forth or in small circles and if he is smart he will start moving in the same motion, he will love it. Hope this helps you Chicky good luck
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reader, KittieS +, writes (15 September 2011):
 A really good place to look for positions is the us cosmopolitian website, there's an article where a girl and her fella work through something like 75 positions - I certainly picked up a few "things" to add to my "to do list"I would suggest talking to your BF a loving caring man will listen and make you feel better. It's easy to feel like your not doing enough but in a submissive role there is little you can do, but a few tricks...Use those arms, hands, longing looksyour voice - nothing a man likes more than to hear your enjoying it - most do actually want to please you. And calling their name does something to their brain that makes them wild with excitement and passionSqueeze your vagina muscles - he will feel you tightening around him what he's inside of youPush against him, I.e thrust against his thrust, bit of practise and it will be good for you and himHe's coking back for more - I'd say your doing just fine!Finally - enjoy it, sex is fun, not a chore, not a job just great great fun and with someone you care about a fabulous experience.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 September 2011):
 Trust me -- you're not useless. Let me ask you this:
Is he thrusting? Check.
Does he have an orgasm? Check.
Does the night end with him being satisfied? BIG CHECK.
You do *not* have to go on top. Don't look at sex as "work". Guys are built for thrusting. As long as you're not getting what you want and rolling over leaving him frustrated and unfulfilled, it's all good!
You might want to buy a bunch of extra pillows for knee supports if you want to be on top. Also, look up "liberator.com" which helps people with pains and aches have better and more adventurous sex. Seriously.
Otherwise, as long as both of you are satisfied, it's okay! He's probably not complaining because he's too busy enjoying his post-coital afterglow!
Also, know your limitations. If you have bum knees, try other things! Give him a long edging session that will leave him shaking and screaming for release! Think of it as more adventurous playing than "work", and your mind will open exponentially!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2011): That's a hard one. You kind of need power in the legs/knees to being control of a sexual act with your partner. You could try having him sit up right in a chair, you in his lap, lean back and touch the floor. Your strength would mainly steam from your abs and arms. If I were you I'd work hard on getting your power house in shape.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2011): Hi there, what if you try getting him to sit on a sofa or couch and you can go on top of him. You wouldn't be on your knees but you can be on you feet. Other good way too is sideways where you do the work which always work for me and my bf. I can never stay on top bcoz I get cramps on my thigh. There is another way when his lying down your on top facing the other way and lie on top of him he will be doing some of the work but it works magic. Hope that helps!
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (14 September 2011):
 Well the first thing I recommend that you do is build up more confidence within yourself. This can help you along way in and out of the bedroom. Then once you're ready to be intimate again, you can try various positions. I suggest reading the Kama Sutra in regards to different positions that you may try. There are different variations of being on top, and I'm sure you'll find find a few that will work for you- and may also put less stress on your knees.
You may also want to entertain the idea of role-playing. In this case you may want to dress up like a cop, boss woman, or even a dominatrix. This puts you in a more control position in the bedroom, and you can dictate the moves.
Hope this helps! :^)
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