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Why did I bleed after being fingered for the first time?

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Question - (5 September 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 6 September 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *anicerica writes:

Hello

So, I am a virgin but was fingered for the first time, and it hurt a lot whilst it happened, in fact it was really, really painful(Yes, I know, I should have said something).

However, the strange thing is, two days after this, I started bleeding down there quite a bit. I really don't think it was my period as that would have been almost 3 weeks early and I'm quite regular, and also, the bleeding was only for 2 days, while my periods are a week at least.

I'm confused because if the blood was due to my hymen breaking, or a scratch, wouldn't it have bled sooner than two whole days? And I really don't think it was my period...the blood was brighter, it was lighter bleeding than normal, and like i say only happened over 2 days.

Why did I bleed?

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A female reader, auntyR United Kingdom +, writes (6 September 2011):

thinking back to when i had my first proper boyfriend i was around your age and from what i remember, guys that age don;t always no how to be gentle. They think that ramming fingers in to you is the way to turn you on. It was probably your hymen breaking, but he may have been abit too rough. You also need to communicate with him about what feels nice and what hurts. If it hurts tell him to stop. Maybe even guide his hand with yours and show him the pressure that you like and how you like him to touch you. A little education for him won;t hurt his feelings, he needs to know how to make you feel nice without hurting you. Especially as you are a virgin and you will be alot tighter down there then girls who have had sex. So be gentle!

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A female reader, Rebeccaa United Kingdom +, writes (6 September 2011):

Rebeccaa agony auntHi, the exact same thing happend to me, it was probobly your hymen, it hurt for me too alot.

Im not quite sure why it was two days after maybe because he tore all of it ?

Dont worry tho i was fingered again after and i bled more

Best of luck x

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A female reader, manicerica United Kingdom +, writes (6 September 2011):

manicerica is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you very much for your answer, the 'flick your spleen' part made my day!

I guess hymen was my initial thought, but what confused me was the gap of 1 1/2-2 days between the act itself and the first time I saw blood.

Is it possibly for the blood to somehow hold off for that long, and not bleed immediately? I don't really mind if it was, I think I'm more curious than anything now!

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (6 September 2011):

YouWish agony auntSounds like your hymen. Did he know what he was doing? "fingering" doesn't have to mean ramming his fingers so far up you that he can flick your spleen!

I'm guessing he tore your hymen. Don't worry -- you're still a virgin if that's your next question. His penis has to penetrate you before you lose your virginity. Had it been his fingernail or something, there would have been about 10 minutes worth of spotting.

Next time, you might want to show him where your clitoris is. Fingering isn't spelunking. :)

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