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*ntrex24
writes:So i did something bad. I snooped my GF facebook. I found a conversation that she had with her friend. They are talking about a party that my GF friend attended. her friend said something like "3 guys tried to make out with me , they pretty much attacked her face"and then my gf said "yeah gotta watch out for those, im starting to think i should wear a mask when i go out, after that little kiss-mishap i experienced the other weekend"So i know i shouldnt have done it and that i should confront her. But by the context of the conversation it seems like she was snuk up on and a guy kissed her. What do you guys think and what should i do? its killing me!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 September 2011):
 Why the hell are you snooping her Facebook?? You should get dumped for that fact alone. Whatever happened to talking and getting to know the one you're interested in?? Snooping is a VIOLATION.And you wonder why she didn't tell you??? Hah! Do you have any idea what you just read?? You just read about your girlfriend FENDING OFF a guy who tried to kiss her. Read between the lines. She "wants a mask", meaning that what had happened disgusted and repulsed her. Her friends used words like "attacked my face" meaning also that the whole context was UNWANTED CONTACT.Yet you jumped to "CONFRONTING" her. What you should do is take her out and treat her like a princess because she was UBER-faithful to you. Confronting...pffft. If you don't IMMEDIATELY change your snooping, distrusting ways, you will lose her. The unfaithful person is YOU for invading her privacy and rifling through her personal life. Truthfully, you need confronting for your snooping. I broke up with a guy who jealously ran through my phone records because he was so sure I was cheating with some other guy. I never even came close to cheating, hence he never found a thing, but his mom accidentally spilled the beans and told me that he had done it. I immediately kicked him to the curb. He had had issues with jealousy before, and that was the last straw.I'm telling you, if you don't change your ways, drop this crap and start appreciating your girlfriend and treating her like gold and ASKING her about her life to get to know her better, you will be alone. Pray like bloody hell she never ever finds out about your snooping. And STOP snooping. Forever.
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reader, intrex24 +, writes (5 September 2011):
intrex24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhy do you say that?
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (4 September 2011):
 actually, I think she should get dumped...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 "Should" is relative. It depends on your relationship. Do you always have a need and desire to share every little thing with each other, did you agree beforehand to always tell each other whenever anyone of you are touched or approached by anyone else?
I wouldn't have told a boyfriend of mine unless the situation had upset me and I needed comforting. If it was a man just trying his moves and I found it hysterical and pathetic and easily avoided (not forced or a threat) I wouldn't have said a word, but done like your girlfriend and laughed about it to my friends. Telling a boyfriend would serve no purpose other than look like me trying to make him jealous.
Now, if a boy had actually forced himself on me and kissed me and I felt forced to it then I'd be upset, and tell a boyfriend ONLY because I'd want the comfort. Not because I'd feel it is something I should "confess" in any way, as I wasn't doing anything wrong.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (4 September 2011):
Dude, really?
It was not consensual.
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reader, intrex24 +, writes (4 September 2011):
intrex24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlet's say this did happen, should she have told me?
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reader, nnifer75 +, writes (4 September 2011):
I would let it go as well. If you tell you you read anything she is going to get very angry. To me it sounds like she did not expect whatever happened almost to the point it annoyed her. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): Well, you could go up to her and say "i snooped through your facebook without you knowing and I found out someone kissed you". She couldn't be that mad, right? WRONG. Let it go. Whatever happened it sounds like she didn't want it to happen.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (4 September 2011):
Curiosity killed the cat. Here's what you do, stop snooping and know that you can trust your girlfriend. What would be the point in confronting her? What would you confront her with? You have no evidence that she kissed someone, or even that someone kissed her! You have no idea what sort of episode it is she is talking about. The only thing you could be confronting her with is your snooping. Sure, be honest with her if you dare. Tell her you snooped and see how she takes it?
What would you expect her to do? Comfort you and explain things to you so you will feel better about other guys attempting to kiss her? I think you should already know what she does if other guys make their moves on her, shouldn't you? Do you think she'll be ok with you wanting comfort while it should be the other way around? You're the one who should be apologizing to her for intervening her privacy! She'll be devastated you didn't trust her! She'll need you to comfort her saying you'll never be so foolish again! And not only that, but she'll need a lot of comforting and assuring from you after you pretty much accuse her of cheating.
Doesn't sound like such a great idea to confront her with your snooping, does it? I'm all for being honest in a relationship, but do yourself a favour and leave this as something you once did, regret, and wont ever do again.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (4 September 2011):
 I think you should just let it go. It seems like she had no intention of anything like this happening, but it just happened. It was just a kiss and she sounds like she never wanted to kiss anyone other than you. So let it go unless you're willing to tell her that you snooped.
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