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writes:I am a 24 year old woman and single (I hope not for much longer). To make a long story short, when I met my boyfriend, I took a deep breath and went after. The problem was that he was rebounding. Over a period of time, he got over that and came to me. We are going to spend this weekend at my mom's cabin, where I expect we will make love for the first time. It's supposed to rain Friday. If it does, I was thinking about showing up at his place with my raincoat on and nothing underneath for the one hour drive to my mom's cabin. Do guys like things like this? Or, is it too forward? Do guys like to initiate? He's been a real gentlemen with me and says he does not want to take advantage of me. He says we have been all about him and need to be all about me for a while. While I respect this, I would rather be taken advantage of to be honest. I would almost prefer a swat on the butt along with instructions to get naked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): It's a great idea... providing everything goes smoothly!!I'm gonna share a couple of funny stories with you. When I started seeing my current boyfriend, I turned up at his house dressed in red sexy hold up tights, high heels, and a tiny little skirt and top. I was basically all ready to go, and my clothes said this in no uncertain terms. Unfortunately, I found him outside painting a gate. Because of some paint-drying issue it had to be finished before he could come indoors. So I was forced to stand there and wield a paintbrush, with the neighbours casting amused looks in my direction. NOT GOOD! Another time, I picked him up from the airport first thing in the morning wearing a sexy corset under a very short, tight black dress. I was anticipating that we'd be driving straight back to our house, and wanted him to feel excited. Unfortunately, he informed me that he had to get to work to sort out some urgent business. We work together, and I spent the entire day teetering around in heels, trying not to look like I overdressed or struggling to breathe. It gave me something to laugh at with the girls who were in on it, but it was very embarrassing too!!If you do carry this out, make sure you don't have to stop on the way for any reason, and that your car is in great shape. Trust me, you do NOT want to be sitting in the back of a towtruck after a breakdown, dressed in nothing but a raincoat. Alternatively, wear clothes but have some super-sexy underwear on underneath. A flash of suspenders in the car should get him pretty excited, and you'll get the right effect but still remain prepared for any eventuality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): Not sure of it,
He may and he may not..depend on what he sees in you. If you are only a GF for fun he will love it. But if he sees you a marriage material and future family thing chances are that he may not like it in that context.
but all we are only guessing.
up to you,, play safe or take chances...be ready to face the consequences any way.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Always works well. I have a friend who comes to my office like that, always blows me away.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Of course no one can speak for ALL guys, ... but I know mine loves stuff like that, and imagine most guys would.
If he is not a prude, does not have religious reasons for not going there, is not trying to preserve his virginity, and does not appear to have sexual hangups, ..then yeah, go for it :-)
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reader, Starmonster888  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 A lucky man indeed.Might I suggest you tell him you like being taken advantage of later when you're both more comfortable together sexually.Oh and word it a little better than "taken advantage of"...try telling to take control or making it a role play thing.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Personally I would love that. Its great when the woman takes control to get what she wants. This is also an all is clear for him sign that you're interested in the next level. I say go for it and let him know what you want him to do when you get there. Just give a little whisper to his ear and see where it goes from there.
Hope it works out for you and have fun.
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