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writes:I have a friend I've been involved with for 3 years. He told me not too long ago that he and some of his boys are going on vacation in Jamaica, and that he plans on going to the nude beach there. The way he was talking about it he's been wanting to go for a while and is really excited about it....My question is "why?"I mean I'm not familliar with nude beaches, but I AM familliar with him and HE is a freak (freak as in very sexual nature). Should I be worried about him going off roaming around naked and looking at other naked women? Or am I off-base here? Reply to this Question
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reader, boo22  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 I think your boyfriend will be very disappointed when he gets there. I bet he thinks it's all gonna be bay watch type babes minus there swimming cossies. The reality is it'll be miles of middle aged/older people, mainly men by the way and no young flesh anywhere. Serves him right lol.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 The Realist, I believe in most nudist communities erections are allowed because there is not much a man can do to prevent one. Some get erections very easily, perhaps even the view of naked skin is enough. Either way as far as I am aware erections are allowed.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (19 April 2010):
Well he will be looking at naked women. And naked men for that matter. Do you have a problem with that? I've been to a nude resort and in my experience they are usually filled with middle aged people and commonly more men than women. Being a nudist is not about being a pervert. In fact it's concidered highly rude to stare at the other nudist. Your boyfriend sounds experimental and want to see what its like to walk around in public butt naked. I don't see a problem with that. Sex in public is illegal, touching or staring at the others is considered highly rude and if there's someone monitoring the beach they will get kicked out if they cross any boundaries.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): The nude beach will be all old people and guys. he can have his dream until he gets there though!
You can't stop him, and the more you try to the more he will want to go! I take it this guy is not a boyfriend right? He's a friend with benefits? He has every right to want to go find women to sleep with since you arent exclusive.
Is that the root of it? Do you want a relationship with him? This is one of those now or never things. Assume that if he goes he will hook up somewhere somehow. If you cant live with that, then you need to do something. Decide here and now. Either you are ok with the freinds thing so he can sleep around, or you want to be serious with him. Tell him now so he can decide if he feels the same. He's gonna do what he wants, so what you need to think about is how you are gonna feel if he sleeps with someome there.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Some of the images he will see will be burned into his retina and no amount of bourbon will erase them. Should you be worried? Yes, the experience could put him off sex for a long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Hahaha unless he's going to a nude beach in Sweden I wouldn't be worried...
He'll almost certainly end up on a beach with exclusively old naked pervy men Jamaica....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): My experience of ending up quite by accident on a nudist beach (!) is that they are mainly full of older, liberated people with no inhibitions - and let me tell you once your boyfriend gets an eyeful of other guys genitals then maybe he will realise its not all he thought it would be :-) These places are not just full of nude, stunning young women. Most often, people with great bodies tend to wear great swimsuits - because they look great in them. You mention your boyfriend in negative terms (regarding his sexual nature). I think this situation opens up bigger issues in your relationship - those of trust and compatability. If this guy makes you feel so uncomfortable then why are you around him? If you don't trust him then do not continue to let him make you feel like this. My gut feeling is that he is pretty immature - but he will learn. Do you want to hang around while he takes his time doing so?
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 i have to say i would not like this either... voice your opinion to him about it, but don't tell him he cant go, the decision will be up to him no matter what. if he is decent enough and you tell him it will really bother you then he should reconsider going.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 A lot of unattractive older people. He'll wish he hadn't gone.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 They have laws on those nude beaches and most of those nudist are elderly people .You won't find those with the likes of Miss World down there.
He is not going around those beaches to screw around or have an orgy.Don't let your imaginations run wild.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 It is a chance for him to go see naked women all over the place but keep in mind that even if he wanted to there is a no sexual act enforced at the beaches. Men can't walk around with erections at all, they will be told to cover up. If you have not had trust issues I wouldn't worry. Another thing about the nude beaches is they draw an older crowd as well. He may not be in a position to see something that he is going to enjoy.
It will be an experience for him but its not going to be an orgy or anything like that.
Hope you don't worry too much.
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