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writes:Does anybody think casual sex is a bad idea? I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long there is contraception being used. What do other people thinkthank you x Reply to this Question
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reader, single gal  +, writes (20 April 2010):
personally i have no problem with casual sex,
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i do think you stil too young to think or engage in something like that.
sex,whether casual or not is emotionally taxing, and you may not be emotionally ready.
plus you have to think of what might happen, condoms arent 100% safe, so STD's and pregnancy are always an issue when sex is involved.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (20 April 2010):
At 16 or 17, I think you need to not have casual sex. Wait till your 18+ and a bit more mature. A bad reputation can be messy at 16 or 17. Once at University, casual (safer) sex is a bit easier to partake in.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 I certainly wouldn't do it because to me sex is more than just the physical act. It's the closest you can get to another person and to me that should only be reserved for those who you care about and who care about you.
But I guess for those who have a different opinion, and enjoy sex as just some fun, then I suppose casual sex is ok for them, as long as they're protected and they know a bit about the other person's sexual history.
Overall though, it always usually ends up being more than just casual sex for one of the parties, there's no way to avoid that. If you're prepared for the consequences, emotional and health wise, then go for it.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (20 April 2010):
 I personally don't think there is anything wrong with it, if both parties communicate about what they want and understand each other. If both people just want casual sex or a 'bit of fun' and nothing more serious, I cannot see the harm in it. I myself have had the odd one night stand and fling and I've learnt a lot from it and had a lot of fun. I used contraception and thus have no STDs or babies!
But, not everyone shares this view and in society in general, a woman is looked down upon if she has many sexual partners and has casual sex. It's not the same for a man. A woman is called a whore or slag, if she does, not very pleasent names. Whereas a guy who displays the same behaviour is called a player or a stud. Society may be changing and women have a much more equal footing. But there are still many areas where men look down on women and sexual relations is one of them.
It was not so long ago, maybe 80 years or so, when a woman was expected to remain a virgin until marriage. If a teenage girl got pregnant in the 60s even, they were sent away to secret institutions until they gave birth and were often forced to give up their baby for adoption. It was considered a source of shame and still is in many cultures for a woman to have sex before marriage.
But for a man it is acceptable, because it is a man's world. Men think it's acceptable to judge every woman's attractiveness and discuss this with other men as a matter of course. Most porn is made for and by men. There is a top shelf in corner shops around the country dedicated to the sexual gratification of men.
I know there is the argument that men have naturally higher sex drives because they are able to impregnate many women with their never ending supply of sperm, as opposed to women who have to chose who to impregnate their solitary egg. But, with the invention of contraception, this is now no longer an argument, in my opinion.
Also there is the widespread belief that men are more visually stimulated sexually and therefore 'need' porn to get off. Again I think this is a very selfish and naive belife still held by many. I, as a woman am very turned on by pornography and am very curious to watch it. But, the majority of porn out there is made by men, for men and is often very derogatory and degrading of the women in it. Porn that appeals to my female desires and fantasies are hard to find.
My point is, male sexuality is well catered for and accepted in wider society. In modern britain and among the younger female generation, female sexuality is becomming much more acceptable and catered for. Ann summers is a good example of how its is now acceptable for women to enjoy sex and be open about her desires.
But there is still an underlying current of judgement that says a woman is unrespectable if she sleeps around, when this is rarely the case for a man.
I'm hoping this will change over time, as I don't believe it is right or fair. I think a person should be allowed to do what they want with their sexuality without fear of unkind judgement. As long as you are discreet, I say, be as sexual as you desire. You do only live once after all and sex is a natural as breathing.
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reader, raiders +, writes (20 April 2010):
 I don't think casual sex is bad just be safe and always wear protection.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 I think that as long as your safe about it and that is what you want there is nothing wrong with it. Just out of safety it would be good to know the person a bit but otherwise people are sexual beings.
Watch out though if lots of people find out because they tend to label that person as being easy even though that is not the case.
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