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writes:Dear Cupid,I'm 6 months pregnant by a scumbag, When I first found out that I was prego I told the baby's father and he said it wasnt his and to get an abortion....He really did not want any responsibilities for a another child. A few weeks later he strangled me and punched me in the stomach to try and give me a miscarrage. When I should have called the police I didn't because I was terrified! He later picked me up and threw me into a steal metal chair I had scrapes and bruises all over my body. When he left for work I filed a police report/6 month restraining order, they did not arrest him due to the fact he has done this before and knew exactly what to say "she hit me first it was all her fault" yet I was the one that had life threatning marks to me and my baby. when my baby is born I am afraid he might try and kill the baby like so many other homicide stories. I dont need support money or anything from him. I've thought of moving, changing my name, puting my phone/credit cards in someone elses name. How can I keep him away from me and my child?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 Move out and get a lawyer now. If he is abusive the judge will give you full custody and he'll still have to pay for this kid. Once its all legalized if you ever see him again and he says anything to you he will be thrown in jail. Get the restraining order and everything.
Even if you don't need the money he has to pay for this. You could use it for a college fund or something. Please go get a lawyer and proof of what he has done and get him out. The lawyer will be able to explain this to you much better.
If you can go stay with family or a friend asap, someone who will defend you if he finds you.
Good luck with everything and thank you for realizing that you have to leave. So many people don't.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 You already know the answer - pack a bag, leave town and start again somewhere else. Tell no-one who could pass your address to him and try to prepare for motherhood. If you need financial or emotional support to move, contact your local domestic violence agencies who can help you. You have every right to be concerned for your unborn child and I hope that you have told your medical care provider about the abuse so they can monitor your pregnancy carefully.
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