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writes:Ladies, for those of you who've been with a well hung (8-9") man, enjoyed it, but went to a more average (5-6") partner and enjoyed that too, which do you generally prefer and why? Is bigger=more masculine, or powerful or what? Do you long for the larger guy sometimes? I know bigger isn't always better, and it doesn't just come down to penis size, but I'm guessing size has it's advantages? Do the shorter guys also have advantages? Or do girls just lie and put up with smaller and look at other traits in a guy? How many of you would tell a smaller guy you prefer larger? If you were with a smaller guy, would you do anything to satisfy an urge for a larger (cheat, buy a big vibe, etc).
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reader, Serenghetti  +, writes (30 March 2013):
Penis size is really unimportant. What is important is how you treat a woman. There are lots of ways to make a woman fall in love with you - penis size is unimportant. Women like a man to be open, honest and trustworthy. If you're in an intimate relationship with a woman, it is important to have trust because both partners are at their most vulnerable. To be in love, we have to drop our guard. If you can do that, show the person respect and appreciation, then what does size matter? When we make love, we are showing the other person how much we like and care about them. One way to show a person, is to pay compliments - it builds self-esteem. If a person is relaxed and feels appreciated when making love, then that is game over. A person who worries about penis size when making love isn't making love.
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reader, hindsight +, writes (21 July 2010):
As with everything, there's a varying spectrum of truth to penis size and pleasure. To say "Size is everything" or to say "Size is nothing" would be wrong in either case. The two things that I've learned from hearing most women talk about penis size and pleasure are:
A) Overall, size matters, but only to a degree; and
B) Girth is worth more than length
The phrase "Any boat can cross the ocean, but it's a lot quicker in an ocean liner than in a rowboat" is true to an extent. Is a woman going to feel more pleasure from a 7" penis than from a 3" penis? More than likely. Most women derive pleasure from that "full" sensation.
However, an extremely large penis isn't needed to physically fill a woman. By nature, when aroused, the vagina is about 4-5" deep until hitting the cervical wall. The vagina can expand while the cervix contracts to a degree (usually another 2-3"), depending upon pressure exerted on it. Meaning gentlemen, if you have an average sized penis, you still have a pretty good chance of "filling up" a woman before hitting the cervix. And, even if your woman has been with a very large penis in the past, she can still feel "full".
As for length vs. girth, most women will candidly tell you that in most cases, a shorter, thicker penis is more pleasurable than a longer, thinner one. The reason is that a wider width will generally touch more of the clitoral area while inserted, offering more clitoral stimulation. Additionally, while the vagina and cervix can adjust to accomodate a longer length, the extra 2-3" that is opened up is not the highest in terms of pleasure sensitivity. It's more or less opened to prevent repeated impacts to the cervix. The pleasure zone is still that first 4-5".
In terms of what "average" actually is, most surveys and scientific studies put average erect length at between 5 and 6 inches, with the vast majority (70% or so) of men falling somewhere between 4.25 and 6.75 inches. Average girth is almost always given at between 4.5 and 5 inches, again with the vast majority (70%) being between 4 and 5.5 inches.
I have personally never had too much anxiety about size. In my early teenage years, sure, I was worried about measuring up to what I saw in porn. You soon realize that porn actors are the extreme minority in terms of size (once you realize you see the same 2 dozen guys in every movie), and that remarkable things can be done with camera angles and lighting.
Once I got some sexual experience under my belt (no pun intended), I realized that in terms of physical size, the playing field is a lot more equal than most men think. After getting over that fear, you begin to realize that technique (before and after penetration) matters more than being hung like a mastadon.
My wife and I are open enough with each other and comfortable enough to talk about our past sex lives with each other. Without getting in to too many gritty details, she basically echoed the studies in what average was. She admits to being with one guy who was above average in length but average girth, 1 or 2 that were average length but above average girth, and 1 below average in both, and that the increased girth was a lot more pleasureable than the length.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 June 2010):
 I have to say this because I recently heard it from one of my friends. The best thing about dating dating a man with a smaller penis is that they know its smaller and will work harder to satisfiy the women. Its all about the effort you put into it. Some guys who are really big thing it just being that big will do the work for them.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (15 June 2010):
 What is going to cause you a problem though is your insecurity. Whilst the vast majority of women don't particularly care if your dick is 5 inches or 8 inches they DO care if you are insecure and lacking in confidence and that is a big turn off for them.
This used to be an issue for me in my 20s. I'm a big guy in every other respect but maybe a little below the average in terms of the length of my dick. I had pretty strong self esteem in every other area but I used to believe that girls were just lying to be polite, pretending to enjoy having sex and that turned into a lack of confidence in bed. It took me a lot of sex with a lot of different girls to come to really believe deep down that it wasn't an issue and as the confidence grows everything becomes better and easier.
Furthermore, if you are a little insecure about your dick, then put in the work with your tongue and your hands before your dick even comes off the bench on to the field of play. Once a girl has cum a few times then you have basically already won the race, whatever you do with your dick after that is just a bonus, a victory lap, she's already a happy girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): From my personal experiences (many): I am about 8 inches and thick. I've had exs that have had large men 8-9 inches+, average 5-7 inches, and small, i.e 5 or less inches. The overwhelming majority of women/exs say they like 7-9 inches, and kinda thick (not thin), as to press on their wall, make them feel completely "full," ones that have to be eased just a bit into it, but not hurting. Small men are not frankly satisfying, they've all said. Obviously, this is just a purely sexual/physical comment, not emotional/spiritual/psychological commentary. However, if a woman is saying size doesn't matter, I was told that what she's saying inside is that you're smaller than I'd like... No guy wants to hear that. Exs come back to me for a booty call all the time, even if they've found someone else/married, so I know they miss the big, thick one.... and I'm always glad to set up a reunion with no strings attached. Size matters (for most women).
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (15 June 2010):
 Honestly, I believe this to be a fixation among men. Only men are concerned about this size thing. To date, I have known only ONE woman who would judge men by this standard. ONLY ONE.
True, it is nice for a guy to have something to work with, but bigger is by no means, always better. I believe this subject, among women, falls into the category "more fun to talk about than actually do" *cough* no tacky pun intended, there. While I'm certain I, personally, would find it difficult to tolerate a man with a "second belly button" I believe this not to be representative of all women in general.
I have never once heard of a woman who cheated saying,"Don't want no short d*ck man" So no, I don't believe that women would cheat, buy replacements, or otherwise, based upon penile size or tensile strength. Truth be told if there really is a preferential issue, I'd say it's about girth, not length.
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