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writes:I'm 16 and I've only had sex with two people; only a few close friends of mines know (which is only 2 people), but I regret having sex with them because neither one was my boyfriend (I'm not in a relationship at all) and I didn't love them; when people ask if I am a virgin, I still say that I am because I don't want anyone to think that I'm easy just because I've had sex.Is it bad that I'm lying about my virginity? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 July 2010):
 Quite frankly, it's no one's business whether or not you are a virgin, except you and a potential love interest. No one else needs to know anything.
Just say "That is an intrusive and unwanted question. I find it rude and you know something? It's none of your business."
I know teens have trouble keeping appropriate boundaries around some of this stuff, it's perfectly okay to tell people when they are overstepping yours.
I wouldn't lie to a potential sex partner and say you are a virgin, as he has the right to know if he may be exposed to STDs. But you don't need to go into great detail about each and every encounter, that's not necessary or even appropriate.
Best wishes.
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reader, Iroh  +, writes (9 July 2010):
No, it isn't. Not everybody has to know. If people you are close with now it (not only best friends) it isn't something bad I guess.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (9 July 2010):
 interesting... im going to say ts bad for two reasons one its bothering you so its bad good things dont weigh on your conscience and have you asking about it in forums...... secondly Lying and fornication are both sins in most religions but atleast Christians have the advantage of being forgiven for these things.. some relgions you would probably have to sacrifice your first born or something..
the problem with lies is you start to believe them.. in your heart it allows you not to take responsibility for your actions.. im a pathological lyer i lie alot and just about everything things that arent even important its my defense mechanism i dont like people getting close to me if all they really know about me is a lie then they really dont know me and cant hurt me..
But if where to get caught stealing i would fess up to it in situations like that the truth is always easier..
it doesnt matter why you had sex or with who whats done is done forgive your self the gods have or they dont even care.. your not a virgin and it doesnt matter it doesnt mean your easy either youve just lived a little thats all
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 Not everyone needs to know your personal life so it's fine to tell them what ever you want to. It avoids them judging you and such. When you do find a bf, one who you really care about I would not lie to him at all about it. Just because you had sex in the past that doesn't make you easy. There is also no reason why the bf couldn't wait for a while to have sex even if he does know that you have done it before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010): Nope it's not a bad thing at all, it's your life.
Be careful though it wouldn't be a good idea to lie about it to a boyfriend.
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