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30-35,
anonymous
writes:A boy who has asked me out (we have been out once so far)has refused to add me on facebook, and since I sent my request has made everything private. This is odd right? Is he hiding something from me or am I just being paranoid? He still texts me most days so I don't think he is uninterested.What should I do?
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reader, xXBABiiA9308Xx  +, writes (6 July 2010):
I would say he has to be hiding something.
but you dont want to rush into conclusions because he may not be.I would just ask him if he is really interested in you.
& ask him if he is doing something wrong,He can lie about it.
but tell him if he needs time to figure things out to let you know.
because if he does that does mean he has other things hes trying to figure out or that he was hiding something from you.
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reader, romany  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 The Realist has a point, however, most guys at the age I'd imagine this one to be at which would be same as you, wouldn't care what photo's are on there, infact the more stupid the better to be honest.
It is incredibly easy to deactivate the account, I've not had any problems deactivating mine, and neither has any of my friends.
But he does have a point, so i retract my 'walk away' statement, and say, ask him on your next date, why he won't add you.
Or get one of your mates who isn't on your facebook to add him, coz he may not add a mutual friend.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 I would like to say something in his difference just to bring an oposition to the questions answers. He may have pictures on there that he doesn't you to see because he is embaressed and it is hard to delete certain things from facebook. Also his friends may leave terrible coments on his profile and he doesn't want you to judge. It may have bothered past relationships. I know alot of people who are working on getting rid of their fb accounts but it is almost impossible.
I still say be careful with him because it is suspicious but if every little thing raised red flags we would never even bother to find out anything for ourselves.
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reader, romany +, writes (6 July 2010):
Definate red flags, I think he has a girlfriend, or is a complete flirt and is afraid you'll see him for who he really is on FB and his little act of being a great guy wont work on you anymore if you knew the real him.
Its up to him if you ask him whats going on, you've only been out with him once, personally i'd just walk away from him, not given him the courtesy of saying anything, I know it sounds hard, but i did it for the first time a month or so again, its soooo easy to walk away from someone playing ya, once you realise what a twat he is, and how great you are.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 A friend of mine started dating a guy who refused to add her on FB for a long time. A month into their 'relationship' he broke it off with her and then added her on FB. Guess what she found out from his profile? He had a girlfriend the whole time he was 'dating' her.
This guy is hiding something and it's best if you stay away. If he's happy to text you and talk to you, what's the deal with hiding things from you on his FB.
I think he is interested, but not the right kind of interested. If he wanted a proper relationship with you he would not hide things from you. Be careful with this one. You don't want to get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): the reason he will not add you is because he is cheating or already in a relationship and made it private so you cannot see exactly what is going on,but his behaviour shows what type of guy he really is,end it before you get in to deep and hurt
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reader, thabay408 +, writes (6 July 2010):
 Be aware here... He's got a girlfriend he doesn't want to know he's trying to get with other women... So he can text but can't be public... He's a cheat... I know coz I do da same. But I'm too smart to give real details... Cut him loose now, he's not available. ~~ESSJ~~
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