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writes:Does anyone else think it's terrible that womens plastic surgery is advertised on bus posters, magazines, shop posters... Does anyone else think this is very sad? I was driving home the other day, and I was behind a bus, the poster on it said "when a push up bra's not enough, take the next step" and there was a picture of a perfectly normal looking pretty woman with small breasts. It just shocks me that we now advertise this kind of thing so openly, why is it that men aren't under pressure for pectoral implants or penis enlargments? I think the pressure women are under to live up to this 'ideal' body is very sad. We have fashion magazines portraying anorexic looking women as fashionable, and then there's adult magazines portraying slim women with big plastic boobs as sexy.. why can't people be attracted to normality?! Just curious as to other people's opinions on this, I know the world's not going to change anytime soon, it's getting worse for this kind of thing, and society doesn't care for the bigger picture, because money making comes well before that.. But I just wonder, how many years down the line will it be untill women look like complete artificial robots! My gosh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): i totally agree! if people (men and women) want to be skinnier, try hitting a gym! dont go to extremes like cosmetic surgery! i can understand if you want to undergo plastic surgery because of a birth deformity or something like that, but not just to "enhance" your appearence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): I also think that people look at it from the wrong perspective. I mean, take a step back and ask yourself: did men stop asking women out once these images became more pervasive, if the woman wasn't perfect? No. So, I don't think that women have these surgeries to please men or to be pursued by men for a relationship. I think in part it's that women started exercising more and taking more care of their bodies in the 1970s and 1980s, and perhaps women feel that have to live up to that standard now? Most people (both women and men) will tell you that they like a fit body, but nothing too extreme and that it's the overall package that counts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): I agree. I think it's ironic that it's almost like we all want to be perfect, yet it's in part our imperfections who make us part of who we are. The other thing is, why do people look towards the lowly members of the opposite sex to get an opinion on what is ideal? For example, generally only the lowlife males are infatuated with big boobs. The type of sincere man that (I'm guessing) women are looking for probably doesn't care. I dated a woman who had a collection of fat on her belly and I actually thought it was cute (and no, I didn't ever point it out to her). I didn't mind it at all. I also don't think it's necesarily that people have surgery to attract the opposite sex, it's because these options for surgery are now available and people just want to live the fullest life possible. I hope all that makes sense.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 I agree with you. The number of plastic surgeries in the country is going up DRAMATICALLY, mostly for women. Sorry to the male posters below, but the pressure men are under for appearance is nowhere near what women are under. Plus with a larger penis, no one can see until you're naked. That and even once you are, most women simply don't care ALL that much about size. Women are given the same things, barbies and we get tons of spam for breast enlarging pills. Women are constantly judged for their chest size by men and they're constantly visible unless you make an effort to hide them. It's really hard to hear all my male friends commenting on how amazing huge breasts are knowing mine are only average sized. I know guys say they don't like the plastic look, but what are we supposed to think when like 90% of porn that guys masturbate to features these women with ENORMOUS implants? Women are even hacking away parts of their labias to look more like porn stars, at the risk of losing all sensitivity down there.
"Honestly, I think the women's lib movement got shot to hell, and women are desperate to find validation through the eyes of men these days. "
Sadly, I agree with that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): I think it's really sad but it's really hard to not let it get to you, you know? I am a woman with small breasts and I can't count how many times I have been this close to scheduling a consultation with a plastic surgeon to get implants. I hate my breasts so much... I just feel like it's impossible to be sexy without big breasts. Ideally I would go up to a D I think... I fantasize about it all of the time. A push up bra isn't the same, it's an illusion.
I used to work with young children (age 7-10) and I noticed early on that the girls were talking about dieting, getting skinny, wanting to lose weight- they hated their bodies and they are so young. The boys didn't seem to care about any of that, just wanted to play with their plastic guns lol. It made me so sad to see... I did my best to make them feel better but there's only so much you can do you know, It doesn't matter how often boyfriends have said they loved my breasts and my body, I turn on the TV or go pass a big billboard and realize that I will never be as valued as those women, and why? Because I don't have big breasts. If I had lots of money I think I would have implants by now but financially I can not afford to... it is a dream of mine.. I wish I could rise above it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): Hmm can't really say I'm surprised and unlike your good self I'm in the least concerned.
Supply and demand. People demand it so the surgeons supply it.
After all don't you have a right to do what you like with your body? What if you're not happy with something about it, aren't you allowed to change it?
If your average person did not like the way media or the fashion industry is portraying women then then can simply stop buying newspapers, clothes etc that use skinny models (or whatever is upsetting you), that would immediately change the models they use (I can promise you that) because without your money the companies would not be able to operate.
But people don't stop buying these clothes or magazines? Why not? There are several brands that have focused on healthy sized models. As someone that is concerned about these issues have you looked them up? Have you stopped shopping everywhere else?
The reason is that the majority of women aren't that bothered. They see these models for what they are. Working in a very demanding industry doing a job. Nothing more and nothing less.
Only people with poor self-esteem feel affected by these issues, unfortunately for them they usually suffer as a result of it. But the reality is that the vast majority of women are happy, confident individuals that pity models, exercise and keep in shape but aren't consumed by looks, laugh at articles like '10 ways to look good in a thong' and look down on the bimbos you seem to think are todays ideals...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): This subject applies to both genders. Women have dealt with it earlier but men are by no means shielded from it.
Little boys grow up playing with male "action figures" whose bodies are just as unrealistic as girls Barbie dolls. The amount of penis enlargment spam on the net is incredible. Some men are starting to getting pec implants. And bicep, and calf, and butt, etc. The images of male models on magazine covers are photoshopped and fake just like women. Anabolic steriod use among male actors/models/celebrities is increasing as well. The most common cosmetic surgery for men is hair transplants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): It's getting pretty ridiculous. Honestly, I think the women's lib movement got shot to hell, and women are desperate to find validation through the eyes of men these days. It's also a product of social conditioning. Like any sickness, this seems to be a form of addiction, stemming from a lack of self-esteem, with possibly an abusive past. It's also difficult to be a model in the fashion or adult industry and not be overly self-conscious. Everyone has something negative to say about your look, your body. I used to be a model...in the adult industry...and it definitely warped my understanding of a normal figure. Initially when I came in the business, I was a normal, trim, but healthy person, and eventually I became an anorexic and still battle with it. I never dove into the plastic surgery though. In either case, it's self-mutilation. Personally, I think men these days play a role in all of this. Psychopathic, anti-social behavior...from emotional disassociation to abuse and manipulation to over-sexualizing to lack of remorse and guilt....is becoming all too common with men. So whether a woman is in the workplace, in the spotlight or just walking down the street...these attitudes are shaping them into co-dependent, insecure, narcissistic people.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 I think men are just as subjected to these images its just that they tend not to care once they are in a relationship. I don't find the fake plastic look to be attractive but I'm not totally against plastic surgery when it is for the right reasons. One its great to really be able to help people with certain abnormalities they are forced to live with. Also for the people who are given a much needed boost in self confidence after a procedure. That can be a very good thing for someone to be able to have. I don't agree with the people who get multiple procedures because they are either too lazy to get some excersise or that they are doing it to look like a model, which the magazines are computer touched up making it impossible for someone to actually look like that.
The world is working on changing and its going to come about one person at a time like this saying no to the plastic look.
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