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writes:Hi! Does anyone know why when you are giving your boyfriend a blowjob they want you to get their penis as far in your mouth as you can? I don't quite understand it, and hopefully I'm not the only person that has run into this.Thanks everyone!
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reader, calipartytyme  +, writes (16 June 2010):
this is obvious. guys like to feel the whole thing go in. the penis has feelings all the way down so of course it will feel better if the whole thing is in instead of just half of it or less. learn to relax your mouth so you can take the whole thing in.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 I did not say that I liked it. I personally would never want that happen, it would kind of gross me out. That contraction would be the only thing that I could making the guy enjoy it more. Lol thanks Miamine for clarifying that. You got what I meant. A nice guy will not give you any problems with this although sometimes it is just a reflex to move with it and possibly go too deep. Its best to keep the guy on his back and not standing up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for reiterating Sara456. lol :)
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reader, Sara456 +, writes (16 June 2010):
Ooops! I meant to say in my previous post that a nice guy will NOT push your head down or try to gag you. Sorry about that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): Not all guys prefer the whole thing. Some are fine with it halfway especially if you stroke the bottom with your hand. I had a bf whose sensitive spot that he enjoyed most was right at the base of the tip.
Also, a nice guy, no matter how into the moment he is, will push your head down and gag you.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (16 June 2010):
 lol.. no realist is talking about when a woman uses her throat muscles to massage the penis durring deep blow jobs.. I don't think he had anything painfull in mind.. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): Becuase by pushing there whole penis in the mouth, boys just don't feel that they have had a good blow job but also be able to get an orgasm quickly however diffrent boys like it diffrent ways!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 June 2010):
 It feels better for them, but I think mostly it's a domination thing if they REALLY shove it deep (like gagging deep). It's a popular porn, something like gag factor where guys intentionally make women gag and cry while giving BJs. Depends what you mean. If a guy is trying to shove his penis down your throat put a hand on the shaft at the depth you are comfortable going so he can't push it too far. Some guys just get super into it and can get carried away (most aren't trying to disrespect you or dominate you, they're just lost in the feeling). A hand just helps save your poor gag reflexes unless you're comfortable with it.
As for "I would like to add that the gag reflex is able to provide extra stimulation because of the contractions."
You want her to gag on your penis? That's a little messed up...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (15 June 2010):
It's a perfectly normal sexual technique.. known as "deep throat"... consumes the whole penis, and with practice the normal gag reflex stops...
Covering the whole penis makes a bj more pleasant.. nothing to do with domination or disrespecting a woman.. just involves the whole penis thus mimics more closely the feeling of being inside the vagina...
If it's something you dislike, the guy pushing forward, then hold his penis at the base, and push him away and control his movements.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (15 June 2010):
I would like to add that the gag reflex is able to provide extra stimulation because of the contractions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo, the deeper the better for the most part...gotcha. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): It's the thing with having a penis, we just want to stick in things, it's a natural urge.
When we stick in things we want to stick it in deep, there's just a feeling of power to pentrating things, the deeper the better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): Well said TimmD, I'm in agreement with you, it's power or domination. The idea of sex should be mutual enjoyment. Giving OR receiving oral, is supposed to be pleasurable for both parties, NOT just for the man to dictate the depth of penetration for the woman. A good male lover, will NOT force his penis into his lovers mouth making her gag, he will not hold her head so he's in control - he will allow her to take the pace, encouraging and tenderly making it something she wants to do, not making her gag so she feels an object or uncomfortable.There is an excellent book, I recommend it to clients, called ' BLOW HIM AWAY ' by Marcy Michaels and although it covers deep throat oral, it emphasises the female MUST not be forced, coerced or made to do anything she is not happy with. That is the mark of a good and considerate male lover, if your man is not doing this, then may be think about your needs, or finding a man who does consider you.Jilly x
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reader, warhol_1986 +, writes (15 June 2010):
Most males enjoy the visual sitmulation when they see their penises are being 'swallow' by their girl
Also, the other reason I think it's because receiving a blowjob is a bit like the intercourse. So penetrating the mouth would give them a similar feeling while they are having the visual sitmulation on top of it, which is a great experience for most guys.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (15 June 2010):
Long story short, guys love the sensation it gives them :)
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (15 June 2010):
 And what Timm said, too. That's the flip-side of this issue.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (15 June 2010):
I really don't think you're the only one who has ran into this, sweetheart. To guys, it's the difference between getting half versus getting the whole enchilada. It just feels good to them.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (15 June 2010):
 While it's not exactly my cup of tea, some guys enjoy it because it is a form of domination. Not as severe as other acts of sexual domination, but making a girl gag with tears coming down her face.... domination.
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