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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Why doesn't my mom want me to sleep in the nude?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a 14 year old girl. I like to sleep in the nude but my mom doesn't want me to. She never gives me a reason, she just objects. I started sleeping naked over the summer when it's super comfortable. What would she find wrong o...
A. 31 August 2012: When you are living by yourself then it's okay. When you have to go pee in the middle of the night do you wrap yourself up? It's kind of indiscreet if you live amongst male members in the family. Some moms find it embarrassing to imagine their ... (read in full...)
How do I chose between my mother and my girlfriend?
Q. Dear Readers, I have been thru a lot throughout my lifetime. I seriously, can't take it anymore. I don't know about you but, having to choose between 2 people you love and can't imagine life without 'em is heartbreaking . . . Its be...
A. 31 August 2012: This is not just your girlfriend but your whole life too, unless you can force yourself to be with a man. You have to keep your relationship(s) separate from your family. Nowadays many people are doing that. Heterosexual, or homosexual, it is not ... (read in full...)
Should I stick with him and try to make things work or leave him? He seems a good guy but I have trust issues.
Q. Hi people. I really sort of regret asking for help since I always feel asking for help is like begging for attention.. But I really can't deal with this problem alone so I hope you beautiful people can give me a hand.. I've been in a relationsh...
A. 30 August 2012: I don't think jealousy is a disease. You live faraway from him so he probably has more pictures with her than with you. He broke into tears not because you were confronting him, but because he didn't know what to do with you and saw that break up is ... (read in full...)
Open relationship mess.
Q. I'm 27 and got married at the age of 19.I've been with my husband since I was 14 years old, it was the first relationship for both of us. He really loved me alot, treated me like a pricess, spoiled me and gave me everything I wanted. I loved him and ...
A. 30 August 2012: The open relationship is not the only problem that created the mess. You grew apart and you said the relationship became more like father and daughter, therefore the sexual attraction was gone between you two, and he stopped seeing you as an equal, ... (read in full...)
I want to have my child with someone other than my boyfriend, is that bad?
Q. Hi all. I just need an advice. Is this normal when your boyfriend cheated on you an had a child with someone else. I've have forgiven him an love him but I feel like making my first child out of our relationship an I don't think I'll be doing ...
A. 30 August 2012: Of course it's bad, even for a fantasy for revenge. When you think of something like that it means you haven't forgiven him, and he shouldn't be your boyfriend anymore. It's normal to feel angry about your boyfriend, but lying to your child and to ... (read in full...)
I'm not in a position where I can get a divorce but I want to get to know this other man. I'm very unhappy and don't know what to do.
Q. I am 28 and have been married for 5 years. I was good at first. But when I got pregnant with our first child my husband starting watching porn. Without getting into massive detail, I eventually confronted him about it and told him how I felt. After ...
A. 30 August 2012: That other guy can't be your source of happiness, if he is willing to make you happy while you are still married that can only mean he is not the right guy for you, no matter what society says. If I were you I would stop looking for happiness right ... (read in full...)
My best friend's girlfriend made him break all contact with me, and he did! I'm hurt and don't know what to do.
Q. I had a Friend who was one of my best friends. In fact he was more like the little brother I never had. About a month or so ago, he got back with his ex, who had cheated on him in the past. He said at the time, he felt like he was making a huge mi...
A. 29 August 2012: She needs you to keep off of him because you are a good/bad influence on him. Good I mean you know what's right or wrong, bad meaning you will tell him how horrible she is as a girlfriend. You are everything that she lacks as a good partner. That's ... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for my casual fling but he doesn't want the same. How do I end it?
Q. Hello, This is my first time on the site and I am hoping for some guidance with my situation. I am 40 years old and struck up a 'casual dating relationship' with a guy 5 years younger than me about 3 months ago. We both entered the situation with o...
A. 24 August 2012: Ask him if he would like to see you more, if not then you have to move on because you need more connection from a guy to feel satisfied. Then thank him for his time and that it was nice meeting him. If he really doesn't have feelings for you ... (read in full...)
I have a bit of a cliché (tragic love story situation) and am in desperate need of some advice.
Q. So i have a bit of a cliche, tragic love story situation and am in desperate need of some advice. I'm 18 years of age and 2 years ago i met a guy on holiday, we instantly clicked, and although i understand i was at such a young age and probably...
A. 16 August 2012: You will find that when you have your own career and are free to travel your love prospects will be wider and you will be more practical. You don't know if you are the perfect couple only after few times of meeting in person. Either he wants to live ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my psycho wife for the woman I truly love?
Q. I have no idea where to start. I am a 24 year old married man who just passed his 2 year anniversary. I am married to a somewhat sweet woman, but she isn't very open with her feelings which kills me. She has a very strong personality which throws me ...
A. 11 August 2012: I could never stay married to a person who physically hurt me. It's better to rebuild your life, start all over again than to worry that one day you will be killed, at home. You can't do anything until this woman, your "love of your life," gets a ... (read in full...)
How can I pick myself up again, What do I do if he calls?
Q. My ex dumped me yesterday because he found out I'd written some nasty things on Facebook which were about him. The thing is, we didn't have each other on Facebook because all it does is create unnecessary problems, especially with jealous people ...
A. 6 August 2012: You are not fat. Men like women with meat on their bones. It's not about your appearance. He is insecure himself and finds a need to put you down to feel better himself. You don't need a guy like him. Don't pick up the calls. So far I have not found ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends ex is spreading around that he uses girls for money which isn't true! what should I do?
Q. Ive been with my current boyfriend for 8 months now. To begin with when we first started seeing each other his ex was still trying to get him back and would basically slag me. She would text him saying he should stop seeing me and that im a fa...
A. 6 August 2012: Your boyfriend should meet your family so they see the real him. As they interact more they will know his true intention. Don't make it complicated. You are the innocent one here you shouldn't have to work hard to pick up the pieces. The only thing ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is ruining my life! How do I get out of this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend is ruining my life. We have been in a LDR for a couple years now. I work and go to university, he doesn't have a job and hasn't for years. If I bring up that he should get a job/do something with his life then he gets pissed off and ...
A. 6 August 2012: You should talk to your bank, explain your situation and that your boyfriend does not make any money and you want to break up. If your bank insists on dragging your boyfriend in to sign something you can withdraw all the money and request the bank ... (read in full...)
I want to cause upset but it's not in my nature! what should I do?
Q. OK I've a dilema here that I need some advice on because i'm on the brink of doing something I may well regret. About 10 months ago I found out my now ex, who I had lived with and we had both talked about marriage etc had been texting/flirting...
A. 5 August 2012: She is engaged only one week after you split up? That's just insane. Their marriage will fall apart without your involvement. The guy is a fool and he will be to blame too if he's too blind to see through her charms and marry her. When you think ... (read in full...)
In a happy relationship, but can't get over someone I could never have!
Q. Hello. I would really appreciate some advice. Please be honest and harsh if you have to... In october 2011 I fell in love with W. It was the second time in my life that I was completely dellusional, blind and naive because of my feelings. I real...
A. 5 August 2012: Don't be hard on yourself. The easier thing to do is actually accept your feelings and not fight it. When you fight it you are making it a bigger issue. The mind likes to boggle and the ego likes to solve. One more thing to accept is that W chose ... (read in full...)
B/f & I are not on the same page about things that are important to me!
Q. Hi I would just like to check with you guys, I have been with my boyfriend for a year, and we enjoy being together but you get to know a bit more about a person as time passes and I have found some areas where we are not on the same page like buying ...
A. 2 August 2012: Is he not ready for marriage or does he not believe in marriage ever? This is a deal breaker for you. If you ask for a time out he may look at it as an ultimatum spurring him to propose to you. There is really nothing to think about. You either ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to go through with this relationship?
Q. I am an american women dating a turkish guy. We have been talking off and on for the past two years. He comes to virginia beach, virginia every summer on a work visa. We were introdued through texting by my brother which is good friends with my ...
A. 30 July 2012: You don't know much about this guy but time is pressing because he couldn't stay long as an immigrant. I can't say all turkish guys here are only for the visa and they can't love, but this is a risk you are willing to take. You have to check with ... (read in full...)
Things don't feel right with my boyfriend and I am interested in a guy at work. Things don't feel right!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about 2.5 years and we've had a very bumpy start and mid. At the beginning of the relationship, he wasn't even sure he wanted to date me, but we somehow just started dating. Then, after about 9 months, we moved ...
A. 30 July 2012: Do the right thing and break up with your boyfriend. You can have a list to work on but the desire to be in a relationship is based on a feeling, and that feeling is a glue to both of you, and it's not something you can work on. Your man should be ... (read in full...)
How should a man treat a women, now a days?
Q. How should a man treat a women now a days, anyways? We se so many shows and have so many social pressures, both on men and women, but mostly on women. Also though i think it's difficult to get to know someone, becuase of that persons past, with ...
A. 30 July 2012: Despite bad media I have to say I love your country. I lived there and I loved its spirit. I won't use shows like 16 and pregnant, jershey shore, the bachelor and any other show that promotes shallowness as a representation of today's dating scene. ... (read in full...)
Is he not interested in me or am I thinking way too much about this?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a question about online dating. This is my first time trying it. I met a guy on a dating site and we messaged back and forth for about a month before meeting in person for coffee. The coffee meetup was nothing special but nothing ...
A. 30 July 2012: Interest has to develop. Some are like love at first sight, some takes time. In this case he doesn't want to plunge into anything perhaps because he will be away lot. You are not too crazy about him either. There is nothing binding you to him so you ... (read in full...)
I didn't sign on to this marriage for me to be this unhappy and alone!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 26 years, married for 18 years. We did things kinda backwards, had kids, bought a house and then got married. The baby is getting ready to go to college this fall and I have been struggling with what to do ...
A. 30 July 2012: You are resenting the fact that when the baby is all grown up, he wants his freedom while you want to connect with him. It's not his fault that you are not interested in his hobbies. I think you should let him enjoy his hobby. It doesn't mean you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is snooping on me via google!
Q. not sure what to do here, but my gf had found out about an abortion approx 4-5 years ago in a previous relationship she got upset at me because its something important i failed to tell jer, she said she wasnt checking up on me, but googled my n...
A. 30 July 2012: Anything that's on google is public information. You can't stop her from snooping. The only thing you can do is tell her you don't want to talk about the past and to take you as you are right now. If she has a problem with porn you are not going to ... (read in full...)
We both love each other but I am jealous about the men he hooks up with!
Q. I am 18 and have been seeing a boy on and off for well over 2 and a half years. We're both in love with each other but about 9 months ago I found out that he thinks he's bisexual. At first I was so shocked and thought he was jokin with me. We had a ...
A. 30 July 2012: He is with you because people around him would expect a heterosexual couple, but he will continue his underground gay pursuits. You are the reason his family and friends won't pester him about getting married and having a normal life. He says he is ... (read in full...)
Do men just get a thrill from the chase?
Q. Ok so i been dating a guy now for about a month, i rarely see him due to his job in the army. We started as friends with benefits, then he told me he liked me too much. I then started liking him too. He told me that it wouldn't be worth starting a ...
A. 30 July 2012: The futility of this relationship is causing you to say things you don't mean. You say you wanted to be single to play hard to get when you did want a relationship. He said he would ask you out just because that's the only way he could get sex from ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of doing all the work! Why doesn't my b/f initiate anything?
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half almost never initiates anything. He hardly ever bothers to make plans with me in advance anymore. Sometimes he will say, ok I am picking you up. But otherwise it is me making plans for us. And sometimes he will just ...
A. 30 July 2012: You should stop doing anything. Men do not respond to women "who love too much." They respond to distance. They like to fill a void. He will have to learn that if he doesn't plan anything, then nothing happens or maybe you will lose interest and ... (read in full...)
I love her but how can I trust her? I've caught her doing things twice!
Q. What do I do? My girlfriend was acting suspiciously. I knew something wasn't right. Anyway I caught her on a dating website chatting to guys! We didn't fight about it. We talked and she told me how sorry she was. She told me she was going to clo...
A. 30 July 2012: Her reason was lame. I don't care what problems you have in the relationship. She lied about her status. Then she lied about closing the account. She showed her true face and she is hardly good for any man. She broke your heart whether you stay in ... (read in full...)
Do men just get a thrill from the chase?
Q. Ok so i been dating a guy now for about a month, i rarely see him due to his job in the army. We started as friends with benefits, then he told me he liked me too much. I then started liking him too. He told me that it wouldn't be worth starting a ...
A. 30 July 2012: I hope you don't use this guy as a representation of the whole gender. Being sweet to you when you are together is easy. He is not chasing you. He's basically taking advantage of the short time you have together and being sweet to you is not that ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, but my girlfriend isn't and it really bothers me. How can I stop it bothering me?
Q. Okay, so my girlfriend is not a virgin. She had a 1 night stand a year before she even met me and she told me about it when we were just friends and it didn't bother me then because I had no attraction to her at all at this point. We then starte...
A. 30 July 2012: With a bargaining attitude of who's pure enough sex will be an ugly thing for the rest of your life. You can end the relationship and find a girl younger than you. Then you will see virginity is nothing hyped up to be. There will be pain, blood ... (read in full...)
Help with long distance relationship - heart broken
Q. I met a man in the US navy 12 years ago..I was too young to be in a LDR at that time and so we both went on our separate ways. 12 years later (present time), we reconnected through the internet and decided to meet up again to see if the "spark" was ...
A. 29 July 2012: When I first read the few sentences I thought this was too good to be true, something that doesn't even happen in a romance novel. You don't really know much about this guy and he proposed on a whim, maybe felt guilty that you came to visit him and ... (read in full...)
Why is this guy I like treating me like trash?
Q. I am just very hurt because a guy I liked treats me like a trash or cheap whore something.. He disreapects me and absolutely dose not care about me. He did not ask to have dinner just used me as a booty call. this guy I met at the club. Is...
A. 29 July 2012: How did he disrespect you? Did he pressure you into sex? If you didn't enjoy the sex please don't respond to his calls anymore. Not everyone is into dating but please note that there are some girls who enjoy casual sex and that doesn't mean they are ... (read in full...)
I Am Just Fed Up With My Husband...!!!
Q. Hello Everyone... I am 25years old and my husband is 30years old,we are married for 6years now and have two kidz who is 5years old and 1year and 4months old..I am not happy at all in my marriage,It seems it was the biggest mistake of my li...
A. 28 July 2012: You tell him that in a marriage you want honest communication and lots of affection, you are not happy and thinking of leaving. At the same time think about what you want to do with your career and where you will be living without him. It is hard to ... (read in full...)
Should I consider this other man? My husband is not intersted in me. Does this other man only want sex?
Q. Hi, iam 25 years old married and have a kid,my husband is not interested in doing any sex with me... Nor will he discuss any matters to me. I saw some SMS in his mobile , which is related to a girl. I think he has another affair, if i ask him, he ...
A. 26 July 2012: When you talk sexy with him you are already having an affair. There is a communication shut down in your marriage. When one spouse lives a double life it's difficult, when both do it then your marriage is just a shell. You can't confront and accuse ... (read in full...)
I'd be with my ex but for the sex! New guy or the ex? Help!
Q. hey everyone im writing because im really confused on who to be with or at least who to try and be with. okay so the first guy is my ex boyfriend of about six months now but we still live together after the first part of the breakup due to a lease. ...
A. 26 July 2012: Your ex is irresponsible, he tried changing but that's not enough to make you feel like he's your man. The new guy will be a long distance relationship. You will make a better decision once you find a better living arrangement. You'll also have the ... (read in full...)
I have a secure marriage and a satisfying affair!
Q. I am very torn, and I need advise not criticism pls. Anyways I have started and an affair with one of my husbands friends. It isn't purely physical, I had some feelings for "Bob" for a few yrs prior. And now they have intensified.. My husband is ...
A. 23 July 2012: Security does not make you happy, at the same time you can't be sure Bob will be affectionate with you after time. If your husband had been affectionate then the passion drizzles, you have to find out when and what changed, and look for ways to ... (read in full...)
I think she is cheating again .....
Q. I have been with my girl for about 7 months now. She cheated on me around april of 2012 with my best friend. Now she is ating quite strange. She makes conversations short, always has to go, never tells me anything about why she had to go, stuff like ...
A. 23 July 2012: Her behavior shows she has no remorse and spends no effort regaining your trust. You don't have to wait for concrete evidence of cheating. If you feel that the relationship is going nowhere you should end it. ... (read in full...)
I think she is manipulating me!
Q. I've been married for 4 years. My wife and I have an 18-month old daughter. We had our ups and downs when we were engaged, but we worked it out. Lately, I feel like she's being emotionally manipulative, and purposely trying to confuse me. ...
A. 23 July 2012: Tell her the baby can nap in the stroller, a blanket under an umbrella. Offer to give her a day off without the baby (go to the festival with the baby). Give her some me time. If she sees that you can handle it then she will see also how ... (read in full...)
My dad won't come to my wedding!
Q. Hi, I recently got engaged to a wonderful man and we are planning a wedding for spring 2013. I've been with my now fiance for about 6 years now, so I feel like my dad should have had this coming. To put it into perspective, my dad had a cold u...
A. 23 July 2012: You can put them in separate tables. Still send in the invitation. If he doesn't come it's his loss. You can't force him to bless your wedding when he is all bitter about the idea of marriage. Have a small wedding party just for your dad and his ... (read in full...)
Should we just let the china plate go?
Q. This probably is not the most appropriate place to ask this, but: My wife took a plate of cookies to some new neighbors. They weren't home, so she left a note. They haven't returned the plate, and it's been a week or two. To make matters worse th...
A. 23 July 2012: Go get the plate back and don't visit them again unless they invite you to have a treat. Maybe the neighbors are waiting for you to pick it up. They might not have basic manners but let's see who they really are before assuming anything. Having ... (read in full...)
Was I used in the beginning?
Q. Hi Im 19 years old and I have been together with my BF for 7 months now. Everything happened so fast, we met at a party and in less than a month we were together. I felt things were being rushed but he couldn't wait to make our relationship official ...
A. 22 July 2012: You are not making a big deal out of it. I won't call that using you as in exploitation but he wouldn't be with you if it wasn't for her cheating. It only seems like using because this relationship is not progressing. I mean he is nice to you, ... (read in full...)
Is 11 inch height difference too much? People keep telling me she is too short for me.
Q. Hello, My height is 6'1½" inches, she is around 5'3" we have nearly 11 inch height difference. We have been together for half a year I have never thought of height difference as a problem. I'm OK with it. I love her and we are planning our futu...
A. 22 July 2012: People have no say in your relationship. It only matters for you two. You should never express this to your girlfriend, unless you are ready for a break up. A man who can't stand up for himself is not worth my time. If you married her then that's it ... (read in full...)
What are the possible reasons why he's ignoring me?
Q. Here is my story.. Okay so i met this guy..At first we was only friend..But though we both liked each other..Unfortunately he had a girl in his life..since the past 7 years..That is the reason why we remain friend..But gradually he started telli...
A. 22 July 2012: It's not a possible reason but a definite reason that his girlfriend is here and he has to clear his mind to make room for her. A possible reason for his ignorance is his age. It's hard to think that he's had a girlfriend since 10 years old. Let's ... (read in full...)
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