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writes:Dear Readers, I have been thru a lot throughout my lifetime. I seriously, can't take it anymore. I don't know about you but, having to choose between 2 people you love and can't imagine life without 'em is heartbreaking . . . Its been 1 yr, 6 months and counting since I've been with my girlfriend. Our relationship is unbelievable. People who know about us (btw, my lesbian relationship) wonder how do we do it. How do we keep our relationship together? We've had a lot of dramas that involved family and friends but somehow, at the end of the day, remain together. We're both very inseparable of each other but the prob is my mom. She forbids me to be with her and I can't betray my mom. I love her with all my heart as well as I do with my girlfriend. Should I leave my GF or not? #HELP ! :(
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (1 September 2012):
 So the fact that your either straight, but being bisexual for the time being, makes choice easy especially if this is experimental. You know just something to do since you have made it very clear you don't like women. Also if the family knows this they are going to expect you to choose them.
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reader, dangerouslyinlove0228 +, writes (1 September 2012):
dangerouslyinlove0228 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for the accommodating advices ! Gladly appreciated . . . :)
@ Atsweet1 --- Just to clearify one thing, it may sound krazee but I don't like "women". I haven't been with any girl before & the relationship I'm currently in, pretty much just happened. I don't regret one bit being with my girlfriend at all tho. But thanks again ! :)
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (31 August 2012):
Hopefully you will choose girlfriend cause your not sleeping with you mom. She will get it soon although she may hate it you like women. What if you and your girl be the example of a lesbian couple working not matter what anybody saids or thinks . This could possible change your moms views a little about samesex hopefully. It sucks faking you like men when you want a women. Its horrible its as bad worst than being broke. Really I did it for show for family for society biggest mistake ever. Lessoned learned finally.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 August 2012):
 This is not just your girlfriend but your whole life too, unless you can force yourself to be with a man. You have to keep your relationship(s) separate from your family. Nowadays many people are doing that. Heterosexual, or homosexual, it is not uncommon that the parents do not meet the inlaws or even attend the weddings. It means you can still visit your mom but she doesn't have to visit you when your girlfriend is with you. Your mom made you the way you are so how can your love life be a betrayal to her? There are parents who can accept homosexuality so you and your mom are incompatible. So what are you going to do? Try to mold and fit in and betray yourself instead? The laws in American Samoa is not as liberal as the US. So you kind of have to think of your relationship as independent as you don't give a damn about what others think. Your love does not need approval, or the authority to give you a permission to love. If becoming distant from your family is too hurtful or unthinkable, then oh dear, you should focus your spiritual energies elsewhere, and not relationships.
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