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writes:Here is my story..Okay so i met this guy..At first we was only friend..But though we both liked each other..Unfortunately he had a girl in his life..since the past 7 years..That is the reason why we remain friend..But gradually he started telling me that he love me...and soon we started dating each other..life was cool with him..he gives me what i want..and i truly started feeling his love for me..he says he see me everywhere..he just think of me and he yearns to talk to me..Her gf just came back from abroad. However, recently i see him ignoring me a bit..like normally he messages me till late at night..Yesterday he did not..Not even in the morning..i called him but his mobile was switched off...Its only during the day that he messaged me..when i asked where he was..he told me that he was busy and tired..n he also told me not to mind if he reply me late or if he does not reply me at all...but he misses me and i am always in his mind.I Am just really confused..what are the possible reasons for his ignorance? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 I agree with all the others... his girlfriend is back now and he can only contact you when she's not around.
You are a dirty secret and he's going to ignore you when he's with her or any of her friends... she is his priority you were just to fill in the time when she was gone.
I'm sorry to be so hurtful and blunt dear but if we sugar coat it for you, I can promise you will try to see the good in it and ignore the bad... I know I was your age and I did that... I made excuses... I lied to myself.... even if I wanted to see the truth I did not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012): He's basically used you for his self while his girlfriend has been away, and now she's back, he doesn't have the time for you.
I know that maybe hard for you to come to terms with, but honestly, did you really expect a guy with a girlfriend to tell you he loves you and wants to be with you...and actually mean it?
Sorry...you should find a boyfriend of your own. And from the sound of it, a guy more your own age.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (22 July 2012):
 He has a girlfriend, so right now you are only second best. Sorry to put it so bluntly, but do you honestly believes he loves you when he keeps going back to his girlfriend?
Why does he have his phone off? He's probably with his girlfriend. He doesn't want to talk with you if he's with her.
You have gotten yourself into the position every woman gets in when she is seeing someone who is already taken. You are a fling on the side, you are not his main squeeze. If you want someone to commit to you, then find someone who isn't already taken.
Like I said, I am sorry to be so blunt, but you must look at this realistically.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 It's not a possible reason but a definite reason that his girlfriend is here and he has to clear his mind to make room for her. A possible reason for his ignorance is his age. It's hard to think that he's had a girlfriend since 10 years old. Let's say he's at the oldest 27, some 27 year olds are dickheads. I believe you can develop feelings with more than one person but when you are in a relationship you should devote to one person only. If he's older than you he sees women as a tool to get what he wants, and he could care less about discarding them when needed. But still I think it takes two people to tango. If you knew he had a girlfriend then you should at least wait until they break up.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 I guess if he has had a girlfriend for seven years he must be quite a bit older than you.
I don't mean to be cruel but I think he was just playing around with you while his girlfriend was abroad, and now that she has come home he will only be able to talk with you when he can sneak a minute away from her.
I would block his number and not take anymore of his calls or texts, if he truly missed you and thought of you he would accept your calls and return your messages, at all times of the day.
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