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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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He can't have sex, says its his problem. Is he that broken?
Q. He and I are dear old friends. He's been married twice and widowed within a few years both times. I was married to his best friend; then my husband died. About a year and a half after my husband died we started dating. All was well, then after...
A. 9 September 2012: It's called erectile dysfunction. If you are happy with a platonic relationship then you are meant to be, but that only means his love for you would exclude passion. Whether the problem is psychological or physical, it is still erectile dysfunction. ... (read in full...)
Guy I've started dating said he'd hidden his on-line dating profile but I've found out that he hasn't.
Q. I’m 50 and been on Match for almost a year. I met quite a few guys, most of them were just a first and last time date and a couple of them lasted a few dates, but nothing serious. In mid-July I met this guy online. He is 52; he is a widow (his wife ...
A. 9 September 2012: I think you scared him too, not that you did anything wrong. The right guy for you would not be scared. I think you caught his bluff about wanting a relationship. A lot of people just flip through profiles, fantasize with no intentions for a real ... (read in full...)
At what point should I give up on the possibility of marriage and walk away?
Q. I have a question. I have been with my boyfriend for 2years now. It has been the best two years of my life. When we found eachother he had a huge alcohol problem. I asked him to get help. He had been a alcoholic for about 30 years and had never ...
A. 8 September 2012: This situation is different from men who are commitment phobes. He seriously wants you to be happy. He has to finish his AA program before making a long term decision because he wants to be emotionally strong for you so that when tough times come in ... (read in full...)
Why can I not find someone who appeals to me as much as I appeal to them?
Q. On one hand I csn name five girls that are attracted to me. They flirt, call me over to talk, want to know how my day was, etc. These girls are usually the girls I have no attraction to. I don't know if it's how calm and collected I am around them ...
A. 8 September 2012: So making an effort to know them means you are not being yourself, and being yourself means you don't give a damn? Maybe all the girls and you are mismatches. Without saying anything, your body can pick up tons of things, faster than your brain can ... (read in full...)
Every girl I become involved with rejects me
Q. Every girl I get involved always says the same stuff and rejects me or dumps me They say that they're a screw up, that they'll hurt me, that they don't deserve me or that we have really good chemistry or whatever that I don't want to ruin by doing...
A. 8 September 2012: Maybe they friendzone you because while you are being friendly and proper, other guys asked them out already. You don't become involved with any girl until you go for the kill and makes sure she is yours, then show your boyfriend qualities only when ... (read in full...)
Guy I've started dating said he'd hidden his on-line dating profile but I've found out that he hasn't.
Q. I’m 50 and been on Match for almost a year. I met quite a few guys, most of them were just a first and last time date and a couple of them lasted a few dates, but nothing serious. In mid-July I met this guy online. He is 52; he is a widow (his wife ...
A. 8 September 2012: The response he will get is that yes, he did lie to you so what are you going to do now? I don't think he will feel apologetic. You knew he lied but still agreed to meet him, so what does this say about you? He hasn't found the one yet but will ... (read in full...)
Guys, is Virginity really important to you? I'm scared to lose my virginity. But wish I had.
Q. I am not a person who goes with the crowd but most of the time, I am scared of losing my virginity before marriage. Now I probably regret not having sex when I was younger, because I had always wanted to have sex. What's the difference even ...
A. 7 September 2012: So stop making virginity a big deal. When you lose it, great! Now you know what it feels like. If you choose to wait for the right guy, then that's great too. Sex can open up a bunch of anxiety about your body like hormonal changes, hygiene and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend leaving state on internship for 4 months, should I let go?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a year. We have been very happy together, rarely argue, and always have a great time in one another's company. We're both in college, and go to different colleges. We miss each other during the week, but set aside ...
A. 7 September 2012: I would assume that after one year of dating, you would have talked about future plans. If you do see him as long term material then 4 months is nothing. If he also sees you as wife material I feel that he should anxiously await any kind of contact ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend makes threesome jokes, is he interested in his co-worker?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year. To me, we seem to be a happy couple, and rarely argue. Recently, my boyfriend has been joking about having a threesome with a co-worker that he's been good friends with for a long time. He wi...
A. 7 September 2012: She is the forbidden fruit that makes their relationship secretive and exciting. Forbidden for two reasons: religion and being in a relationship with you. Because it can never turn into a reality it makes the fantasy even more beautiful. To make him ... (read in full...)
Why was my b/f having online sex chats?
Q. My bf of 12 years I caught havin online sex chats in yahoo and msn I was really pissed he thanked his lucky stars that I wasnt there in front of him when I found it he didnt come home for a week, he knew how I feel about cheaters.He also thought I ...
A. 7 September 2012: I don't know if you had discussed with him that online sex chat is the same thing as cheating. He didn't answer you because any answer would make him sound like an idiot. The most obvious reason is that he was horny and thought you would never find ... (read in full...)
My Bf only wants to play video games. It upsets me. What can I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. I do love him but our relationship has took a serious turn for the worse ever since he lost his part-time job about 4 months ago. We starting dating when we met at 18 and as always the first...
A. 7 September 2012: When a man does not know his place in the world because of lack of money, he loses motivation and relationship is the last thing on his mind. It doesn't mean he doesn't know you would appreciate his calls. It's just that he can't enjoy his ... (read in full...)
His wife only wants him back because she knows he was happy with me
Q. Please help i'm in a muddle! when i started my new job last year i met a lovely bloke in 1 of my calls. we always got on well and chatted. he told me he was married with children and i always asked after them its was strictly professional but i ad...
A. 6 September 2012: I think her new boyfriend beat you to it, that he can't trust someone who's still married, then broke up with her. Let the two of them sort it out. If they can't be happy together then they are not meant to be. Maybe he will feel that his wife is ... (read in full...)
Guy I've started dating said he'd hidden his on-line dating profile but I've found out that he hasn't.
Q. I’m 50 and been on Match for almost a year. I met quite a few guys, most of them were just a first and last time date and a couple of them lasted a few dates, but nothing serious. In mid-July I met this guy online. He is 52; he is a widow (his wife ...
A. 6 September 2012: "Me two and I cannot juggle two women." only tells you that he doesn't like the hassle of dating two women, but he didn't tell you he feels you are special enough to make it exclusive though. It doesn't take that long for two people to click. He ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to miss me? How do I get him to talk to me?
Q. me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday over something stupid. When we fight, I usually keep quiet but yesterday i was so full of anger so I fought back. I know I got so angry because he never keeps his promises and he always lied to me. I love so ...
A. 6 September 2012: You should not be chasing him or waiting for him. He should be the ones making ammends and now he is flipping it so that he does not have to be the one rejected. Love should not be so hard. You have to rethink about taking him back. Your aloneness ... (read in full...)
What do you guys think of the situation?
Q. I met a guy online and we've been out on three dates. But he hasn't really tried to kiss me so I'm finding it hard to decide if he's even all that into me. We've held hands the during the last two dates but that has been the extent of the touching. ...
A. 6 September 2012: It depends on the content of the texts and how conservative he is. Underneath a conservative person can be a very passionate lover. I still believe there should be magic and butterflies when on a date. You don't have to initiate physical contact, ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont tell anyone about us
Q. am i overeating that my girlfriend off a few months wont tell any off her family or friends about me also wont change her relationship status.... as in her words thats only for nosey people... i asked her about it tonight again and i was just fogged ...
A. 6 September 2012: Your are entitled to your feelings. You are not overreating but the real question is what you do with her now. You probably feel that she is not taking you seriously, taking your feelings into consideration, and offers no comfort or reassurance. You ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a desperate, clingy girlfriend!
Q. Hey...this sounds really sad but I'd like some advice on how to cope with missing my boyfriend. I'm usually not the clingy type (completely the opposite in fact!) but this ones different and I really really like him. When I dont see him for a few ...
A. 5 September 2012: Missing someone is part of being in a love relationship. Love can be like a drug. You can accept the feelings you have and not fight it. You are not your emotions but you can observe them and keep telling yourself nothing will go wrong even if you ... (read in full...)
My new friend seems into me. Is he? Should I tell him I want to wait until we know each other better?
Q. I met this guy several weeks ago. We are language exchange partners. So far we have only gone out like 4 or 5 times in more than a month, to practice languages. He is nice and gentle. I like him, only as a friend. But now it seems he wants more than ...
A. 3 September 2012: Look at the big picture to see where he will be in life. Is he living in China for the rest of his life, or is there a possibility you will move to his country? If not, there is no point pursuing anything. You've known each other for a while. The ... (read in full...)
I'm with my current boyfriend but still in love with my ex, what do I do?
Q. Okay. So I'm still madly in love with my ex Bf. But we split up cuz he moved away. But him and I have been talking a lot lately and we both still love eachother. But right now I'm dating someone else and I like him but I'd rather be with my ex. And ...
A. 3 September 2012: Having feelings for each other but not seeing at all will make it hard to maintain the relationship. You don't know his future. You are young so you can't be dating for that long. You are not waiting for your ex to get a good career in order to move ... (read in full...)
We have been dating for 3 years but he still won't commit!
Q. Okay I've been seeing this guy for 3 years. We both told eachother we love one another. We don't have a "title". He told me he sees himself being with me, sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to commit and I've told him how i felt.. He says I'm ...
A. 3 September 2012: Not all men are built for marriage and family, but they still like dating women. It depends on how much longer you are willing to wait for him. Stubborn is not a bad thing. In a good way it can mean that a young man will not bow down to the fun ... (read in full...)
I'm married but attracted to a guy at work. My husband is okay with it, but how do I approach him?
Q. Hi! I'm 35 yrs old, married and i'm attracted to this guy at work. I feel he likes me too. I told my husband about this and he' ok with it. I only slept with one guy which is my husband. He said it's ok to have sex with him if it comes to that. My ...
A. 3 September 2012: Don't play with fire. Your husband is okay because he doesn't want to sound jealous. I would also question is it because your husband wants to play with others too. Many will dabble with the idea but when the actual thing happened, few are able to ... (read in full...)
I feel like people show me that being a virgin at my age is like being cursed and it's seriously getting on my nerves.
Q. Hey. I'm going to turn 20 in two weeks and I'm still a female virgin. Most of my friends had already sex which make me feel a little bit left out. Besides, some of them are really annoying about it. Generally, people don't know about it and They are ...
A. 3 September 2012: Cursed is a strong word. I am tempted to say you need better friends, but you could have been too sensitive about what they say. What they could been telling you is to loosen up and not let the idea of virginity stop you from having fun. Being a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend on an unexpected break what can I do?
Q. I have posted several times over the past 3 years during my relationship. The last post was regarding an engagement timeline. We did end up setting up a timeline with the goal of living together by the end of July and engagement around the end of ...
A. 2 September 2012: Have you spent more than 4 days with him? What was he like? If lack of freedom is what he fears, what does he do with his free time? Does he have health issues, or anything he did not tell you? Please know that it is not something about you and that ... (read in full...)
Friends? More? Reading too much into things?
Q. I really like this guy I've known for 6 months now. I almost only meet him at parties but we always hang out a lot then and we've become good friends now. When I first met him I didn't really see him as more than a friend and I said things that ...
A. 2 September 2012: I would rely on my first impression. They say it only take seconds to determine whether someone is in the hot zone, the friend zone, or the dead zone. I have never heard of getting out of the friend zone and then developping into something more. I ... (read in full...)
Is it really that wrong to expect the guy to do the driving /taking out once in a while?
Q. Ever since I got a job and car, I've noticed my bf has been turning his head the other way in terms of picking me up, taking me out, etc. Those responsibilities have landed themselves on my head and I'm the only one putting in any effort now (i ...
A. 2 September 2012: He is doing that because he feels vulnerable to be in your position now. If he doesn't do the courting then he is comfortable that you will. So what you do is stop visiting him, see how much effort he makes to see you, then decide if his efforts are ... (read in full...)
Had sex with my long time best friend, things have been awkward. Should I text/call him?
Q. Hello. I am going to try to make this story super short. Basically, I have this best friend of almost 6 years. We are very close, talk to each other about anything, and enjoy each others company. There is also physical attraction that has always b...
A. 2 September 2012: Maybe you are the reason why they are off. It's not all you though. If their relationship is solid and good then he would not need you to fill the void. I believe some men and women can be friends, but best friends after they have girlfriends or ... (read in full...)
How do I now cope with fact he's slept with 10 girls since we had our partial break-up 7 months ago?
Q. My boyfriend and I split up 7 months ago, but we remained close and still had a physical relationship. (not the wisest decision I know). However recently, he told me that he has slept with 10 different girls during the 7 months, one of which wa...
A. 2 September 2012: It's almost like one girl a month. A break up is a time to evaluate the pros and cons of continuing the relationship. He obviously wasn't giving thoughts to you and how to improve your relationship. He is playing the field and had decided that you ... (read in full...)
He hasn't contacted me but has 'liked' some of my pics!
Q. Hi All, Two weeks ago I went out clubbing with my girlfriends. This guy immediately caught my eye, he was exactly my kind of guy looks like russell brand (I have a thing for guys with long hair)anyway he comes up to me, starts chatting, totally...
A. 2 September 2012: I would say he's a musician and he needs fans to support his career. "Liking" your pics is one way to get a fan. Befriending famous people is a way to make himself seem more famous. Never think someone is out of your league and that girls are lining ... (read in full...)
He offered me sex instead of a relationship!
Q. Should I be insulted that a guy Ive liked for a while has asked me to be his FWB or 'fuck buddy'? He says he doesnt want a relationship but wants to be more than friends. Im shocked and dont know what to say! Im 29 and hes 28, Im looking for a ...
A. 2 September 2012: You say thanks but no thanks, it's been nice to meet you. You know your worth. Even when the man thinks you are only good to fuck but not to date then it's his problem, unless you dress provocatively, flirt too much and give him those signals. It ... (read in full...)
Your opinions on the state of virginity in teenagers today.
Q. This question is not really a screaming for help, but most likely is just for own purpose, I just want to know other opinions. Since my 'career' in dating started, I woke up and realized that girls, lost their virgins younger than ever. I mean, from ...
A. 2 September 2012: I think you are hurt by your experience. Virgin or not, you will still be able to find that special one. A person who enjoys rough sex can also appreciate gentle love making. Don't let that girl bring you down. I think the problem is that your ... (read in full...)
My teacher is married with a child, why is she asking about my feelings towards her?
Q. hey cupid team and onliners! The girl am gonna tell u is my teacher and she is about 30 or so and i am 26,she is married and has a child,i think she has a crash on me and asked my feeling towards her by text. And immidiately she texted and said she ...
A. 2 September 2012: She is not going to have a relationship with you, but she still wants to attention, the sweet things that her marriage is lacking. You are in her life to fill that void. ... (read in full...)
Are guy's disgusted by breaking a girl's hymen?
Q. Okay, so last week, I was getting fingered by a guy that I've been fooling around with. I'm a virgin and I guess I never really took into consideration about my hymen. Anyways, while his fingers were inside of me, he pulled out and said "Are you um, ...
A. 2 September 2012: He thought it would have hurt and you would have stopped him. The point of fingering you was to please you. It was awkward because he didn't know what went wrong and neither of you knew what to say. And then you texted him that it was wrong. You are ... (read in full...)
Why am I hanging on to a bad relationship?
Q. Hi all. Your thoughts please. Why on earth am I hanging on to my waste of space bf? The good bits,- he.s good looking,and good in bed. The bad bits- he.s unreliable,manipulative, decitful, selfish, mean and moody. I.ve hung on in there for almost t...
A. 1 September 2012: I am not going to tell you how you feel but in my past, I was hanging on because I had the unhealthy attitude that worthless men are good in bed, nice men are boring in bed and less attractive, and that it was better to be single than be in a ... (read in full...)
Is it me? Why do I keep on attracting the type of men who are abusive, drink and do drugs?
Q. Yes I am looking for a decent well kept man that doesn't drink, do drugs ,and does believe in hitting women . I don't understand why do I attract these type of men if they aren't doing one then it's both or all three. I am so tired of this cycle.I ...
A. 1 September 2012: Don't think it's you. You will attract all kinds of men. Men of low quality want love too, and they will try whoever's available to them. Most of them don't want to intentionally hurt women but they let emotions get the best of them. It's just that ... (read in full...)
I still like the guy I used to date even though I have a boyfriend
Q. I still like this guy that i used to date, even though i have a boyfriend. Things haven't been going that well with me and my boyfriend lately. When the guy i used to date found out that i had another boyfriend, he called me and asked if i was in l...
A. 1 September 2012: When a guy is okay with stealing another man's girlfriend, he is not so honorable. He is asking you the right questions. Yes or no, doesn't matter. He saw it in your eyes and in your manner. He pushed your buttons while being very careful with ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend posts about our relationship problems on Facebook.
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I discussed a problem we've been having and it didn't turn out so well. We ended up arguing then ended the discussion. A few weeks ago we had got into an argument and he posted a status about it on facebook. He says it'...
A. 1 September 2012: It seems like the relationship has enough problems already and now you find a new issue to argue about, which is privacy. I see not respecting privacy as a deal breaker. Your gestures of deleting each other on facebook can easily can easily transfer ... (read in full...)
Affair that wasn't. Will I ever quit feeling guilty?
Q. First, I am 69. I have been re-married for 6 years to a man who has had anger, jealousy issues and 2 turbulent marriages. My marriage has been fraught with trust issues, and a great deal of them on my part as well. I was told that he still ...
A. 1 September 2012: There is no reason to feel guilty. You are not responsible for his anger outburst and you shouldn't feel so. Your relationships are so unstable that the title of ex wife and wife can change at the drop of a hat. With this instability it is hard to ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if this coworker is interested?
Q. Hi so i just started working at a new job, and the very first day I was greeted by a very handsome coworker. I dont usually get flustered around cute boys, but with him I was a mess. I noticed throughout my shift, this guy kept.coming over and ...
A. 31 August 2012: Some sort of interest as in what? Just flirting at work, casual dating or real relationship? It's too fast for a real relationship but nothing is going to happen without dates. You can casually ask him whether he wants to join you at lunch, so you ... (read in full...)
I feel like he has chewed up my heart and has thrown it into the trash!
Q. Hello all. I have a good guy friend. He has a girlfriend. But this has not stopped him from flirting with me and leading me on. He has treated me like a girlfriend. I continued to hold on because I thought, probably foolishly, that one day he ...
A. 31 August 2012: You have to separate your emotions and think logically. What you are chasing is not him, but the chemicals he supplies once in a while. He on the other hand is holding onto the flattery, the attention you give him. He is in no way a good guy for you ... (read in full...)
Can we help determine the sex of a baby by the position we have sex in?
Q. Ok guys . I hope you can help me. My husband wants a little girl. Right know we have 3 boys. My mother in law and her sisters told me to do all the work in bed. My husband should just lay there while im on top. Is that true? Apparently according to ...
A. 31 August 2012: I don't think so. The sperms with the XX, XY chromosome do not care what position you are having, or the kind of sex you are having (rough or vanilla). Sometimes the fastest, smartest sperm is a male, and sometimes a female, rarely it's a tie. I ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my mom want me to sleep in the nude?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a 14 year old girl. I like to sleep in the nude but my mom doesn't want me to. She never gives me a reason, she just objects. I started sleeping naked over the summer when it's super comfortable. What would she find wrong o...
A. 31 August 2012: When you are living by yourself then it's okay. When you have to go pee in the middle of the night do you wrap yourself up? It's kind of indiscreet if you live amongst male members in the family. Some moms find it embarrassing to imagine their ... (read in full...)
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