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writes:So i have a bit of a cliche, tragic love story situation and am in desperate need of some advice.I'm 18 years of age and 2 years ago i met a guy on holiday, we instantly clicked, and although i understand i was at such a young age and probably quite naive, something between us was just right! I acted completely out of character around him, being carefree and just feeling an abundance of happiness, contentment and love. we made a pact that we would never forget one another and keep in contact. he told me he also never felt such a feeling and i believed him because i could tell these feelings had come from his heart. i had never encountered such a strong feeling with in such a short space of time. the time came when his holiday was over and we had to say goodbye, we were both in tears and felt each others pain. he went back to his home country of italy (i live in England) and we spoke non- stop for the period of around 2-3 months. time sort of got the better of us and our contact lessened as the months passed, however there was probably not a day where he didn't cross my mind! So after nearly 2 years of not seeing one another, i the other day took a trip to italy and we met up! It was the most surreal experience seeing him again and i was so overwhelmed just the fact of being in his presence once again! We instantly regained what we had two years ago and it was as if time had never passed! We spent a total of 2 days together and the same feelings had been formed as they were on that holiday nearly 2 years ago. He told me that he had still not found anyone that made him feel the way i did, and i told him vice versa as this was the case. It's so terribly tragic as we are the perfect couple however the distance is just the factor that keeps us apart, and i don't quite know what to do, its so painful. So my question is does anyone think that maybe in the future there will be a chance of a relationship between us when we have more freedom to do as we please? Do you think visits to and from both our countries are worth while? am i being really unrealistic and stupid, should i give up on this fairytale?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2012):
 I wouldn't rule it out completely as you never know what the future might hold. However you are still very young and have a lot of your life to live yet. But yes who knows what will happen in years to come. For the moment I would suggest to you to concentrate on your education and career and what you want out of life. After that is all sorted well then you could always see how it goes.
I wouldn't say it is a huge waste visiting each other because as you said you both got on really well. So even if it was not to work out long term there is still no harm in visiting each other and enjoying yourself. However anything serious like moving to be near each other should be out of the question until you are both more older and know exactly what it is that you want.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 August 2012):
 You will find that when you have your own career and are free to travel your love prospects will be wider and you will be more practical. You don't know if you are the perfect couple only after few times of meeting in person. Either he wants to live in England or you want to live in Italy. Otherwise it is a fairytale. You don't have to close the door on him yet but you should not expect him to be loyal to you.
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