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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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How can I stop my 2 year old from calling every guy he meets daddy?
Q. I am a single mother of a 2 year old boy. His father is not currently around and has only seen him a handful of times in his whole life. Hasn't seen him in months. The problem is everytime I go to a function or hang out with friends every man thats ...
A. 14 July 2012: "No, he's a friend." "His name is . . ."
"We only have one daddy, that's it. Each of us."
"Not all the mommies and daddies live together."
"Here is a picture of your daddy. He lives in . . ."
"This guy is not a daddy. He has no children."
"Thi... (read in full...)
I am confused by my male friend
Q. Hello everyone, I am so grateful for this wonderful site and would really value your advice on a new contact I have made. I will outline my question and then maybe you well meaning folk out there can tell me if I need to be worried or not. I'm a ...
A. 12 July 2012: This man sounds very intriguing to get your juices flowing but not good enough if you are looking for a life time mate. You will not have your heart broken because you already had your emotions in check. You will just be unsatisfied and will cut it ... (read in full...)
Do I sleep with our roommate to get the excitement back with my boyfriend or just over my crush on him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and think I've started falling for our roommate. Our relationship has always been rocky because of his ADHD and being Bipolar. He's expressed wanting to sleep with new girls just for the excitement ...
A. 12 July 2012: Isn't an ADHD and bipolar boyfriend exciting enough? No one is going to justify cheating here. When you fall for someone outside the relationship usually it's time to end the relationship. If he has trouble coming that's his problem. He can't blame ... (read in full...)
I didn't know we had to have the same IQ to be married.
Q. What hurts me the most is I've been married to my husband for four years but together for five. We have 3 kids together and every time we fought he decided it was best to take off for days then come back and tell me it wasn't any of my business and ...
A. 12 July 2012: He sounds narcissistic and has a low EQ. EQ is more important than IQ in a marriage. I agree he is not cherishing you. I think without him you will be able to rebuild your life and redefine yourself. And then you would look back your earlier years ... (read in full...)
My husband would rather look at porn than initiate sex!
Q. Hi I am a mom of 3 and a working wife but I strive to do everything right in my relationship. However I have recentlyh found that my husband would rather look at porn than inniate sex. I take good care of myself and he tells me I'm beautiful so why ...
A. 12 July 2012: He is escaping into a world of fantasy and excluding you. The initial reason why people get married is because they want a sanctuary to go to every night, they want their spouses to take care of them in a way that other people can't. You have to ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about moving there to be with him, is it possible with this age gap?
Q. Hi.. First thing excuses for my English. I will try to explain myself the best I can. I been separated for one year and a half. We didnt divorced yet. I live alone and have my own/independent life so I started to meet people here and there. ...
A. 12 July 2012: You should go ahead with the divorce first. It's easier to do it where you are than when you are in a different city. Only move there if there are more jobs to be had over there, and you will be happy even if you are single there. You talked about ... (read in full...)
Confused relationship: am I a slut for making out with him when I know I'm not going to marry him?
Q. Hi, I'm stuck in a real complicated situation and need some genuine advice.im 29 years old female from india.in 2008 I met a man who approached me and I fell in love with him.he was my first boyfriend ever and I truly loved him at that point be...
A. 12 July 2012: Maybe in your culture you are considered one but here you are far from being a slut, but you are a cock teaser. You are basically postponing the inevitable break up. You are leading each other on and he is putting up with the limitations of the ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and angry at me
Q. I just found out that my girlfriend is pregnant. We're both just over the 40 mark, it was a major shock to me as I never, ever thought I would have children and because of our ages the odds were so slim. She already has 3 kids which can sometimes ...
A. 12 July 2012: She probably thought you were irresponsible and felt insulted because you were basically saying her age would make her an unsuitable mother. I totally understand having 3 kids is hard, yet there is not enough reason to abort. You reacted and now you ... (read in full...)
How can I spice up my relationship?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend now for nearly 3 years and I love him to bits. although I'm worried that our relationship will never get to where I want it to be (I want marriage, kids etc in the future). He has been married previously and w...
A. 12 July 2012: Firstly you have to stop taking it personally. I honestly think that if you try harder it would only make him pull back more. Everything you do now would be about marriage and kids. He could see through this. You with your own qualities alone are ... (read in full...)
Talking to my ex again but things are a little complicated, help?
Q. I currently started talking to my ex-fiance again but things are a little complicated and i don't know what exactly to think.... I was with my ex fiance for 6 years we broke up 2 years ago and then she contacts my sister saying she wanted to ta...
A. 12 July 2012: She felt you were important enough to want to talk to you but right now she is making you wait, like it's on her terms now. I don't believe being a maid of honor takes up the whole day. Texting takes little time. It's not difficult to tell you when ... (read in full...)
Why is he erasing me from his life like this?
Q. I posted a question here last week. Basically my recent ex and I broke up because we're incompatible. We had different expectations and wants in a relationship which result in arguments. A lot of it was due to cultural differences. He's an ...
A. 12 July 2012: He didn't invite you because it would hurt too much for both you and him. When you break up you are supposed to move on and there is no point trying to savor the last bits. He didn't do this to hurt you. Whether he invited you, or posts about you, ... (read in full...)
Either I pretend I enjoyed sex when I didn't or he accuses me of being loose
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and was a virgin before meeting my boyfriend. Because I was a virgin, I was hesitant to have sex with him and when we finally did, I felt nothing,besides the initial pain even though he couldn't stop telling me how much he enjoyed ...
A. 9 July 2012: It's normal to not enjoy sex when you just started having it. It's not productive to feel defeated that the sex you have now is that you will have for the rest of your life. Hope you learned the lesson never to tell a man he's small. Even though it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's family seem to prefer his brother's girlfriend to me
Q. I really need help, I feel like I'm going insane!! I have been with my boyfriend for three years now, everything's been fine and we love each other to pieces, we plan on marrying in the future. However, the last couple of months his brother has ...
A. 9 July 2012: This is odd. Your boyfriend never invited you to family gatherings. His family is not very active either. It takes a loud and outgoing person like his brother's girlfriend to change the routine a bit. His brother's girlfriend is outgoing yet ... (read in full...)
Why would my mother in law turn on me?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 6 years we live together for 5 years, we just got married cause I was pregnant with our son he's 9 months old now. My mother in law was always cool with me and I liked her a lot, she always stays out of our busi...
A. 9 July 2012: Your mother in law fears she is losing her place in her son's life. She attempts to get that control back by ordering her son to do things. She resents that he is making decisions with you as a family unit. Your son is a reminder of her son she ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him there is a time and a place for his problems and here and now is not it?
Q. My son who had a major accident during rugby game, had his second operation 3 days ago. His knee is damaged for life. He just had artificial ligaments in and metal. My friend called me to ask how my son was, he started talking about one of his...
A. 8 July 2012: Wow, he is socially inept, if you have to tell him this. He doesn't understand the ebb and flow and conversation and has no idea what a person wants for a response. He is not a bad person. Emotionally he may be flat and he hears you say something ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me so why keep pictures of the woman he cheated with?
Q. My bf is 23 and I'.m 22. We've been together 2+ years.Las Saturday I foun out through a friend he hd an affair for 4 months(feb 2012-may 2012) but it was over. I was upset. I also found out he had a one night stand the day before,Friday. I called ...
A. 8 July 2012: It means he uses his sweet words as currency in exchange for your services. I don't think you should help him. I bet he says the same things to the other woman. The other woman thought it was a relationship too, and was sad he ended it so she ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me so why keep pictures of the woman he cheated with?
Q. My bf is 23 and I'.m 22. We've been together 2+ years.Las Saturday I foun out through a friend he hd an affair for 4 months(feb 2012-may 2012) but it was over. I was upset. I also found out he had a one night stand the day before,Friday. I called ...
A. 8 July 2012: Okay, he left the woman but there was no clarification of where your relationship is. You shouldn't forgive him. He cheated because he's not thinking about you at all. I bet his mentality was that he was ready to lose you before he cheated. The help ... (read in full...)
He was horrible, but it was my fault , I think, that we broke up. Honestly, how can I get over him?
Q. So, it's been a few months since me and my ex broke up. We were together for about a year and a half, maybe less than that but close. When we broke up I was quite fine, I didn't mind at all, my feelings we're mutual. But now that it's been a few ...
A. 8 July 2012: You have to respect his reasons for breaking up with you, that's if he gave you a valid reason. Dating goes both ways. Not every man wants to be with you and you won't want to be with every single man. It is not reflective of your self worth and ... (read in full...)
I invited him back into my life but now I want him out. How will I break the news to him?
Q. Dear Cupid, So I made the mistake of taking this guy back . Even though he was a real creep while we were dating. His friends were always more important than me, he never arranged to spend time with me, took hits on my self esteem, very rarely let ...
A. 7 July 2012: You say to him you don't get back with him just because he misses you, or wants to see if he can still get a hold of you. You want to see a new person. Since he hasn't changed you had to undo the taking him back. Block his number or change your ... (read in full...)
How broke is too broke in a relationship?
Q. I have asked twice before. I still didn't break up with my long distance boyfriend in spite of aunts and uncles telling me so. Some aunts told me his insecurity would cause problems. One uncle said this is a fantasy relationship. My mom told me t...
A. 7 July 2012: Thank you, I know what to do now. I want opinions so the break up will be easier. I didn't want to walk away feeling I am not patient and I don't know how to love. I have never dated country men before so I had thought that they were special and ... (read in full...)
I'm not seeing any love and she's putting me through hell
Q. I am a 51 white male and I met a 51 black female on a sex site. We hit off great and with in 3 months we had fallen in love and were almost inseparable during that time. She had a sales job set up before we met that was to last 6 months. I live in ...
A. 6 July 2012: This is sad. It sounds like she does not even have a home in Florida. It does not mean you keep helping her though. It's not your fault that she moved to Texas to be with you. She should have weighed in the pros and cons before taking the risk and ... (read in full...)
Do I move with my boyfriend? My parents are against it
Q. Hey, My boyfriend recently got offered a job in another part of the country, I really want to go with him as he said that he can financially support me till I get a job, and we don't want to lose our relationship! Although we started off long...
A. 6 July 2012: How long have you been with him? I think that if your boyfriend can propose to you it can make you feel secure by taking the risk. Any relationship whether long distance or not, can be a gamble. If you feel your boyfriend is the man you can spend ... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 3 July 2012: All you did was disagree with the plans and decline the job offer. There should be no emotionall bullshit in the mix. Calling a potential worker foxy and pretty was unprofessional. In his email he sounded very innocent and subtle, and you declined ... (read in full...)
He's keeping a secret from me and I'm worried about what that means
Q. My BF of a year and a half had some type of trauma nearly 12 yrs ago. He eludes to it having made him who he is today but he won't share the story with me. I'm a bit hurt he won't share this big part of his life with him. I've shared my deepest, ...
A. 3 July 2012: The first thing that came to mind is sexual assault, and we see that the obvious victims are children or teenagers but the older men are the silent victims who are ashamed to get help because they thought they should have been able to protect ... (read in full...)
2 girls and I don't know which one to date
Q. ok im 19 and i've just startd talking to these 2 girls. they both live equal distance from me and both of them would like to try things with us like long distance. the first girl is about 18/19 and we get on well and she is really cool as w...
A. 2 July 2012: The second one dated when she was at least 10. The boyfriend back then means a different thing than now. I would say when she was 10 the relationship was more like puppy love and companionship. Each year she matures she has different wants and needs ... (read in full...)
One minute I was everything for him, the next minute, it was all over!! How is that even possible?
Q. 2 weeks ago, I went to the hospital for my medical checkup. The medical nurse who took my blood sample approached me later and asked for my mobile number. To make it short, he told me that he was so disturbed by me the day I came to the hospital ...
A. 2 July 2012: Sometimes love at first sight is just what it is, loving at that moment for that moment's worth. The relationship between a medical profession and a patient can also be romanticized. When he sees you as a normal person everything changed, and you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to make it obvious that I'm not that glamourous
Q. Hi everyone, as anyone ever been in a relationship with someone where they knew the person didn't find them as physically attractive as other people and felt like you were being wasted on them? My boyfriend seems to make it obvious that I'm not that ...
A. 2 July 2012: I just wonder how this conversation started? Did you ask him if he thinks you are beautiful, or did he just say you are not stunning, out of the blue? Most people are not glamourous, and you don't need to be a super model to have chemistry with ... (read in full...)
We've been dating 3 months and now she's pregnant. So now I feel it's all falling apart so. Will this work?
Q. We got back from a holiday to interstate yesterday and the past few days she had been feeling sick - we put it down to something she ate or the heat but i got her a test to put my mind at rest. She did 2 in the airport in the morning and they came ...
A. 1 July 2012: It can only work as much as you want it to. Having a baby means you can never travel to another country and going back to college, forever? Really? Your plans will just be delayed. Before you could know whether this relationship will lead to ... (read in full...)
I have a fear of people being sexually better than me, in my boyfriend's eyes in terms of attractiveness and performance
Q. Hi everyone, I have an odd fear. I wonder if anyone else has it. I have a fear of people being sexually better than me, in my boyfriend's eyes in terms of attractiveness and performance. I found out my boyfriend had been using porn and it played on ...
A. 30 June 2012: Men don't expect all women to be fit like porn actresses and women don't expect all men to be able to perform like porn actors. Sadly, people who use porn as a reference point of how sex should be will be disappointed in real life, with both ... (read in full...)
It felt like things were getting back to normal ... but they weren't!
Q. Hello Everybody, Don't know if this is the right place for this, but here goes... I am now 33 years of age and I was with my long term partner for 9 years. Our relationship, I thought, was good. It had its ups and downs like any relation...
A. 30 June 2012: Makes you think if she cheated on you while you were caring for your dad, and that she didn't want to break up with you at the time you were still grieving for your father. Still what she did was cowardly and rashful.
I am always against chea... (read in full...)
How can I lay the ground for a relationship with him?
Q. Hi guys. I need some help. Two years ago I had a 2 month, purely sexual relationship with a 30 year old man ( I was 18 at the time). He doesn't know this, but I lost my virginity to him. He is really good looking and has a really cheeky grin, he...
A. 30 June 2012: He may not be the good boyfriend for you so first you have to suggest hanging out more outside the bedroom. I am sure at your age you won't settle for just TV and meals. You have to have more common interests. The attraction is there. Find out what ... (read in full...)
I am in a LDR and I am frustrated!
Q. I am not happy that my once good normal loving relationship of over 2 years has turned into a long distance one (about 6 hours apart - my boyfriend moved for work because he had to transfer or lose his job in a downsize). I don't really want to ...
A. 29 June 2012: When there is nothing wrong with the relationship besides the distance, no one likes to be the dumper. He is frustrated as well. Since he is the one who moved away, he feels responsible to correct the problem by thinking of ways to move back to ... (read in full...)
I am gay and I love straight guy
Q. I am gay and i love straight guy , i didn't want this to happened but i found myself failing in love with him. At the first i thought that he might be gay, there were many signs , therefore, i developed my feelings into him as he was very nic...
A. 29 June 2012: "I am gay and i love straight guy"
Does that mean you love straight guys in general, or this particular straight guy?
I think if you decide straight guys are the only ones you want to love, you will definitely fail in love, as in your typo here.
I... (read in full...)
I Left my husband, and I am in love with another man but he has a girlfriend!
Q. I am hoping you can all help me out. I need honest opinions from people who are not in the situation like me. Because I find I look at it more from the angle of having hope and maybe being too optimistic about it. I just don't want to be hurt ...
A. 29 June 2012: I still think you should go forward with your divorce proceedings before thinking about dating. He is not the one for you because he is deceitful. Once you become his girlfriend you could not be sure who else is in his heart. You said you want peace ... (read in full...)
What to do about my husband?
Q. I am 30, 31 next week. I have this problem with my husband. Saturday night is date night. We went out to eat and then to a movie. He does not do this the rest of the week, but on date night, he is picky about what I wear. When we got to...
A. 29 June 2012: You ignore your husband. It's a free world. There is no law saying you can't stare at some one's breast or crotch. What your husband is asking is unrealistic. He is proud to show you to the world but he wants people to pretend they are blind. What ... (read in full...)
How can I understand that my boyfriend doesn't use porn because I'm unattractive?
Q. How can I understand that my boyfriend's interest in using porn is not a reflection on me? Everybody keeps telling me it is their problem but I think it is to do with my attractiveness aswell. ...
A. 29 June 2012: It's their problem only when porn is affecting the relationship, like not being able to "get up" for a woman who looks real, with no fake eye lashes, heavy make up and pounds of hair spray. He is using porn because it has become his habit, like the ... (read in full...)
I've been told that I'm good looking, easy going, genuine and have a sense of humor. I thought these were desirable qualities. So why do I get zero interest from women other than wanting to just be friends?
Q. I really don’t know what to do anymore and I’d really appreciate any advice I can get. I’m 26 years old and have never been in a romantic relationship or had a serious girlfriend. I’m really beginning to wonder if there will ever be a woman ...
A. 29 June 2012: It's not fair for you that all your friends are married. Look around, many 26 year olds are still single but for you, I see that you are a very focused person. You do one thing at a time. In the military it's hard to find a girl who would patiently ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is planning a vacation with his ex-wife, for their daughter's sake. Should I be upset?
Q. Recently, my boyfriend of about 9 months said that he and his ex-wife were planning to take their 5 year old daughter on vacation to Disneyworld. They've been divorced for a few years, and live about three hours apart, but share equal custody of the ...
A. 29 June 2012: Next time there's a mention about disneyland, tell your husband that you would go if only her fiance goes too. Then you should have no problems about who sleeps with who at night. Tell your husband if he rooms with his ex wife you are going to spend ... (read in full...)
Why is it that when I fall for a girl, I get irrational, paranoid, insecure, jealous and sometimes controlling?
Q. I think i need some serious help whats wrong with me? I ask this question because it seems that, EVERY TIME i fall for a girl, i become paranoid, insecure, jealous and sometimes controlling, but sometimes i also get VERY DISTANT and quiet, and i...
A. 29 June 2012: You believe the world is a dangerous place to be and you are trying to control your environment by your thoughts. You feel it is safer to prepare for a catastrophe rather than being surprised by an attack. There is a huge difference between avoiding ... (read in full...)
How do I find a boyfriend who doesn't use porn?
Q. Hi everyone, I am deadset on finding a boyfriend who doesn't use porn when in a relationship, my problem is how will I know? In what way could i find this information out? If i tell them i dont like it they will hide it from me or tell me they don't ...
A. 28 June 2012: You could probably find such a man in North Korea who isn't a government official. You can visit North Korea but you can't live there though. He can't escape the country either.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too sensitive, and I'm tired of being so cautious around him !
Q. This is a very weird question...and I've been trying to write this properly since ages but I just can't seem to find the right words. So please bear with me! My boyfriend lives abroad and works in shifts. He can only call me when he's on a break,...
A. 28 June 2012: The problem is that this is long distance. If he were with you sitting at the sofa, you can still kiss him and make out during commercials. I strongly believe that people who rely so much on the phone to feel connected should not be in long distance ... (read in full...)
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