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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Is she playing games with this blowing hot and cold?
Q. My partner of nearly a year seems to blow hot and cold...its really difficult to cope with and I don't know what to do. We have been absolutely great for a few weeks, really close, very affectionate and making plans for the future - we're getting ...
A. 14 June 2012: Cook for her tonight then. Some women take a longer time to process feelings. She couldn't pinpoint what's bothering her but it's good everything is clear now. She is not stopping you from drinking beer or having friends. She just wants to feel ... (read in full...)
I want to take matters into my own hands but don't want to scare him off!
Q. Hello everyone! I'm here for advice about a guy I went on a date with last Saturday. I've seen him at my Uni a few times, we talked a little, then last week I asked him whether our teacher wanted him to go to a meeting I was obliged to go to...
A. 14 June 2012: Call. As a single mom I don't have time to wait around and do the dating ritual. Spend years dating then find out he's not good with kids. Hiring a babysitter takes weeks in advance. I am not going to schedule around a man. I have been dating my ... (read in full...)
Is she playing games with this blowing hot and cold?
Q. My partner of nearly a year seems to blow hot and cold...its really difficult to cope with and I don't know what to do. We have been absolutely great for a few weeks, really close, very affectionate and making plans for the future - we're getting ...
A. 14 June 2012: You've known her for a year. You probably drank before then made love to her. Did she mind back then? She could have told you to brush your teeth or she could say she's tired then make up some other time. If this is the first time she is cold during ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to crawl back?
Q. im so sorry this is so long! id appreciate anyone who takes the time to read through it and advise :) me and my ex broke up around 3 weeks ago due to external reasons- work hours and other commitments etc. it was his decision to break up as we h...
A. 14 June 2012: Crawl back sounds demeaning. He just wants to know where you stand after you calmed down. I think you should stick with your all or nothing deal. Most people your age could not hold down a long term relationship. But some manage to keep their ... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling betrayed when there was no betrayal?
Q. frustrated hyprocrite I have been divorced for 8 years. A year ago we got back together and are living together. During the time we were divorced I had 4 girlfriends and she also had relationships. The other day she told me about so...
A. 14 June 2012: You told her not to tell you story but she did anyway. She could still be bitter and is telling you stories to make you angry. Right now she doesn't know how much you still love her and is using your jealousy as a measure of your love. Stupid move. ... (read in full...)
I want to take matters into my own hands but don't want to scare him off!
Q. Hello everyone! I'm here for advice about a guy I went on a date with last Saturday. I've seen him at my Uni a few times, we talked a little, then last week I asked him whether our teacher wanted him to go to a meeting I was obliged to go to...
A. 14 June 2012: Waiting doesn't mean he has all the power. You decide if his interest is strong enough to suit your needs. If you are waiting too long then you have the power to say to him he's not reliable therefore you moved on. If he calls you again that's ... (read in full...)
Men only: How should I act with this guy. I want a casual sexual relationship
Q. Hi all, I need some advice from men who will know or should know the answer! Basically, I'm not the best at relationships, I don't know how to act and I manage to ruin things in the early stages. Basically, two Fridays ago I went out clubb...
A. 14 June 2012: Just wondering how that texting started. What was the first sentence before you mentioned casual sex? You've already done enough to show interest. Anything beyond that you are working way too hard. Sure men like it when women take the initiative, ... (read in full...)
Men only: How should I act with this guy. I want a casual sexual relationship
Q. Hi all, I need some advice from men who will know or should know the answer! Basically, I'm not the best at relationships, I don't know how to act and I manage to ruin things in the early stages. Basically, two Fridays ago I went out clubb...
A. 13 June 2012: A guy who wants the same thing would have no problems with it. He's just saying this because he has not heard that from a young girl for a long time. I think he might even be surprised by your lack of experience. That doesn't matter though. All you ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being a door mat and become more confident?
Q. This is not so much a relationship question, but a question about how to improve myself. Basically, I'm a softie. A doormat. A pushover. I need to change this. I'm basically those people whose manners override common sense. I never want to be...
A. 13 June 2012: I am not sure what you don't like about yourself. Other people might look at you as a doormat but really you are just nonchalant about everything. You can be nice and confident at the same time. While being a doormat when you are with a jerk does ... (read in full...)
Are these symptoms of falling out of love?
Q. Hey, does this sound like I'm falling out of love? I've been with my bf 21 months, see each other 3-4 times a week, and for the last few months, I've had this nagging feeling that things aren't right. When he calls me, he just talks at me about ...
A. 13 June 2012: It's not like how it was before but falling out of love sounds too negative. It's like if the relationship isn't broke there is nothing to fix. You are starting to get a realistic view of what a relationship really is. The dating ritual itself can ... (read in full...)
I think my sister and my boyfriend have a thing behind my back
Q. My boyfriend and i have been seeing eachother for about a year, he is 21 and i am 16, i have a younger sister who is 14 i know it sounds young but i think they fancy each other. Everytime im with my sister and my boyfriend they dont talk and its ...
A. 13 June 2012: Don't bring your boyfriend home anymore. You have to tell him that lying with each other is unacceptable. I would really question your boyfriend's maturity and judgment. He acts like he is not afraid of losing you. Your boyfriend likes the attention ... (read in full...)
We've been dating on the phone, I'm already in love with him, do you think he changed his mind about me?
Q. hie,went to a party and met this guy he liked me n asked for my number,we exchanged numbers.we had been communicating on fone for abt a month,we hav been dating for abt 7 weeks nw ,he lives 2hs away from my place.we had agreed to meet and talk one ...
A. 13 June 2012: He's just too chicken to say he is not interested. In fact he is waiting for you to just pick up the hint and drop him as that would spare his guilt for leading you on. There is no such thing as phone dating. He doesn't want to deal with the hassle ... (read in full...)
My ex told my sister she still loves me and I want to talk to her but how do I do that? I have a girlfriend
Q. I have a situation i am going through, my ex fiance just contacted my sister and confessed to her that she loved me 2 years after our breakup. The problem is that i currently have a girlfriend that is an amazing person our relationship so far is ...
A. 13 June 2012: Why do you want to talk to her? Is it because it makes you happy that she still loves you? She is letting you make the call so if you happen to break up with your girlfriend your ex fiancee is not responsible for it. If you just want to tell her ... (read in full...)
Why do I still feel as though I'm rebounding?
Q. I dated a guy for almost two years of my life, he was my first boyfriend and the first boy I ever really felt anything for, I gave him everything. However, in that relationship period he was abusive towards me, physically and mentally - I stayed ...
A. 12 June 2012: You are still rebounding because you are looking for outside approval of your desirability, you are still entering relationships for the wrong reasons. You are over your ex but you aren't over your low self esteem. It has to come from within. When ... (read in full...)
How is porn any more real than picture of ME?
Q. I let my bf take naked pictures of me, in hopes that he would stop looking at porn. Not only did he continue looking at porn, but he doesn't even use the pictures of me. He said he doesn't think that the pictures of me are "real" enough, or that I'm ...
A. 12 June 2012: Porn actresses would spend 2 hours to groom themselves. They are trained to pose and look confident and seductive. Is it your idea to have your picture taken, or his? Here, real means porn material. There is a website yourbrainonporn.com which talks ... (read in full...)
What to do with my relationship, parents and bf not getting along, am I being blind?
Q. (Hi, I'm new here) Ok, recently I got really caught up in a huge mess for sure. It's a pretty long story but I have to start from there so that I can give my fellow answerers the info they need. Sorry, I know it's alot to read... ---- My bf a...
A. 12 June 2012: I don't think your boyfriend is irresponsible. It was a combination of unfortunate events like his family arguing, the bus breaking down and his psoriasis. The time out is for you to figure out whether you can be true to your boyfriend without being ... (read in full...)
Men only: How should I act with this guy. I want a casual sexual relationship
Q. Hi all, I need some advice from men who will know or should know the answer! Basically, I'm not the best at relationships, I don't know how to act and I manage to ruin things in the early stages. Basically, two Fridays ago I went out clubb...
A. 12 June 2012: If it has been two weeks since you met, you've been waiting too long. If he didn't make moves with you when you were dancing like kissing, assume he's not too interested or shy, or he's attached to someone else. A more aggressive guy would have ... (read in full...)
Why does it matter so much how much someone makes or their potential earnings? How important is it to a future marriage?
Q. I'm engaged to the most wonderful man I've ever met, but no one is taking my relationship seriously. He's 29, living at home working for his parents, and finishing up his bachelors in another year 1/2. I'm in college too, but have another 2 years to ...
A. 12 June 2012: There is no guarantee that a med student is going to make more than your fiancee. He is living at home so that means he is not in much debt. He is not taking longer, this is just his path. People are rude to poke fun and to suggest you meet someone ... (read in full...)
Men only: How should I act with this guy. I want a casual sexual relationship
Q. Hi all, I need some advice from men who will know or should know the answer! Basically, I'm not the best at relationships, I don't know how to act and I manage to ruin things in the early stages. Basically, two Fridays ago I went out clubb...
A. 12 June 2012: Did he agree to a sexual relationship? Is he attached? It's really not that hard. There is no need to play hard to get. All you talk about is when you are available, his place or mine, that's it. Ability to talk dirty is also a plus. You also have ... (read in full...)
Is he now officially my boyfriend?
Q. So last night I was with this guy that I've been seeing for a little over 2 months and Ive been wondering what we are exactly but I've been too scared to bring up the "what are we" talk so I've been keeping quiet. Well we finished having sex and we ...
A. 12 June 2012: I think so. You are both wondering about the "what we are" at the same time. I wouldn't say it's a need to clarify but you can definitely express your joy to him because you also like him a lot, and would like to see where this leads. This ... (read in full...)
What's going through this girl's mind?
Q. I have this best friend, And we often made out. When my gf broke up with me 2 years ago I was making out with my best friend. I got back with my ex.(I know this sounds harsh but the same things happen the other way around) However we were both ...
A. 12 June 2012: Whenever a person is giving you mixed messages, that's because she does not mean what she says and is only saying them to get a reaction from you or to get you to love her. When she went back to her ex that totally negated what she said and you can ... (read in full...)
Who should come first? my best girlfriend of 6 years wants to spend time with me when I'm with my new boyfriend.
Q. Who should come first, your Best Friend or your boyfriend? I love them both, but who should I dedicate most of my time to? My best friend and I have been friends for about 6 years. My boyfriend and I have only been together for about 6 months (Its ...
A. 11 June 2012: You should come first. You don't want to be in the middle of a tug of war. You decide what's reasonable when you juggle time between the two of them. You don't have to calculate how much time you spend with each one. You should do as you please. ... (read in full...)
He's let me down many times. So how do I handle his continuing efforts to call and text me?
Q. Why is he doing this? What should I do? So there's this guy I used to like a lot. We'd chat on the phone and text a lot. We went on a date once and we really hit it off. He knew how I felt about him and always thought he felt the same. Cau...
A. 11 June 2012: It could really be that he is tired but did not want to disappoint you by saying point blank, no. You tell him you can't see him anymore because you expect more than the once a month deal or whenever there's a chance he is not tired. He likes you ... (read in full...)
She says I'm smothering her. How should I address her continued contact (text, stayovers and skype) with her best guy friend?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half and we love each other very much. She intends to have her best guy friend stay at her house one night when he is in town and then next month she is going to stay at his house when she goes...
A. 11 June 2012: They are smothering each other more than you are smothering her. She is not taking your feelings into consideration. She is just brushing this issue aside because she isn't going to do anything to change. You have to tell her that it is off limits, ... (read in full...)
I want to marry. Do I go with the one who will marry me? I wait in hope on the other guy?
Q. My current boyfriend made it clear that he doesn't believe in marriage. It upsets me that I'll never get to be a legal wife. This makes me think of how my life would be if I had not break up with my ex. I have to admit, I have strong feelings for ...
A. 11 June 2012: Neither one is right for you, if you have feelings for both of them. Exes are exes for a reason and marriage would not resolve past issues. You are thinking too far ahead. Finding the right person is more important. That right person is compatible ... (read in full...)
I hate myself for not being "in" love with him, advice please?
Q. i don't know what to do. i was with my boyfriend for 4 years then we broke up for 2years and are now back together. We broke up for numerous reasons but mainly cos he turned into a dick and was acting horrible. During the time we separated i was ...
A. 8 June 2012: Make friends with your body and your emotions and really listen to them. There is a reason you are not in love anymore. He can't provide you happiness except for the sweet words he utters to you to lure you to stay. You already moved on. You should ... (read in full...)
Should I keep asking her out or just give up?
Q. Hi everyone, See, I've always wanted to ask this girl out on a date. She's super cute, very childish, top of class, and kinda athletic. I'm the hearthrob at our school but I've never had a girlfriend even once. It's rare that I have a crush. Th...
A. 8 June 2012: It depends on how many times she turned you down. Because you are a heartthrob she may want to test your endurance. She is not going to give it up so easy for you, so you maybe you could keep trying.
Boys can be a distraction but boys can also be a... (read in full...)
I want to be her guy!
Q. Hey people, i am going to come straight to the point. There is this girl in my med school whom i like. One of my other friend also likes her. I actually want to be the alpha male and get her because i genuinely like her. I flirt a lot with her, i ...
A. 8 June 2012: I know Indians are quite straightforward, but is it common in your culture to talk about marrying them when you are just friends? If you want to get her you have to stop treating her like a friend. Invite her on a date and get to know her better. ... (read in full...)
We met 2 weeks ago and he said "I love you" 5 days ago, I told him I just wanted to take it slow. Now he hasn't called in 2 days!
Q. I've met this new guy 2 weeks ago, he's an amazing guy, everything about him is great, we have so many things in common. He said "I love you" about 5 days ago, and i didn't respond to that, i just told him that we should take things slow and that i ...
A. 8 June 2012: You can tell him you miss his calls and you can still talk every day, but not get too intense yet. He is waiting for you to feel more comfortable. Since you are the one asking for some time, you should be the one who initiates contact. Sometimes ... (read in full...)
Be the Puppet MASTER
Q. It does feel good to be working like I’m IN CONTROL. It’s nice to be the puppet master and not the other way around. The key is CONFIDENCE. Something I ALWAYS thought I had.. till I got tangled with a man. Yes.. a man… how could I let a man let me ...
A. 7 June 2012: I read Bonnie Eaker Weil's book, make up don't break up, and she talks about the few categories of men who fall into. The ones that are committed, the ones that who need to be conditioned and taught, and lastly the incorrigible ones that you have to ... (read in full...)
Disgusted by my fiancee's past relationship
Q. Hello, I'm due to marry my fiancee in December, I love her so much and she's perfect for me. I'm 36 so am no spring chicken, and have had past relationships that never worked out so I know what an awful lot I have to lose if I blow this one. ...
A. 7 June 2012: I get a little queasy whenever I hear someone say their significant others are perfect. Perhaps she could not stand being perfect anymore so she is telling you who she really is.
We see all the time there are students crushing on teachers or vice... (read in full...)
I've lost the love connection!
Q. Hi ppl! I've got a problem an in need of advice. I've been with my bf for 6yrs my problem started yesterday when I went to visit him. We've been using condoms all the time and recently he doesn't want to use them saying why must we as we are ...
A. 6 June 2012: I would only go off birth control/condoms if I got married and want a baby. Men don't like using condoms because they don't feel good. They only use it because they have to. Maybe he's afraid of telling you to go on birth control and was hoping that ... (read in full...)
Is my LDR boyfriend not happy with me anymore?
Q. hello everyone. i really need an advice. im in a long distance relationship were been almost 9 months but we knew each other about 2 years. his 13 years older than me, and he lives in australia and i lived in singapore. recenly past few days hes ...
A. 6 June 2012: You don't have to wait for him to determine the next move. Tell him, this LDR is getting frustrating and if neither of you are moving to get closer to each other you would rather end it than to live in a dreamland. He could be hiding something. ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he'll go off with someone else if I don't solve this problem!
Q. Hey so I have been with my boyfriend stuart for 5 months now and we plan to stay together for a long time. However, we haven't had sex yet as it hurts me too much which I don't understand. I lost my virginity before me and stuart got together and ...
A. 6 June 2012: KY jelly only helps the penis glide through smoother, it does nothing to relax you, turn you on, and to open you up. The ticking time bomb think certainly did not relax you. Your boyfriend should not be pressuring you into sex. Having sex to please ... (read in full...)
Be the Puppet MASTER
Q. It does feel good to be working like I’m IN CONTROL. It’s nice to be the puppet master and not the other way around. The key is CONFIDENCE. Something I ALWAYS thought I had.. till I got tangled with a man. Yes.. a man… how could I let a man let me ...
A. 6 June 2012: I don't think you need to communicate with a man that you would like a birthday present. Too lazy to buy a present? He's just a plain jerk. When a man does something unacceptable, you dump them, you don't tolerate them, give them a taste of their ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't treat me well. Do I need to end things?
Q. Hello Iam 33 recently met a man 34years old who was very interested in me he told me interesting things about his past about his thug life and that he has slept with many women even there was a time he had 6 girlfriends all to be used for...
A. 6 June 2012: Forcing you to accept a picture of him and his ex? How? You should have ended it there. You know how men on dating profiles put pictures up with them and women hugging each other? You know how tactless that is? They seem to think that would make ... (read in full...)
Be the Puppet MASTER
Q. It does feel good to be working like I’m IN CONTROL. It’s nice to be the puppet master and not the other way around. The key is CONFIDENCE. Something I ALWAYS thought I had.. till I got tangled with a man. Yes.. a man… how could I let a man let me ...
A. 6 June 2012: From reading the article no one could tell you had been broken or hurt. It just sounds like one of those popular relationship advice. Be cool, don't get emotional, be unpredictable, be the fantasy woman, etc. It sounds like you are in control and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't treat me well. Do I need to end things?
Q. Hello Iam 33 recently met a man 34years old who was very interested in me he told me interesting things about his past about his thug life and that he has slept with many women even there was a time he had 6 girlfriends all to be used for...
A. 6 June 2012: "But he is ready to change if he finds the right woman to marry."
It doesn't work that way. If he is the right man himself, then the right woman would want to be with him. As for the skype picture maybe he hasn't used skype for one year and forg... (read in full...)
Be the Puppet MASTER
Q. It does feel good to be working like I’m IN CONTROL. It’s nice to be the puppet master and not the other way around. The key is CONFIDENCE. Something I ALWAYS thought I had.. till I got tangled with a man. Yes.. a man… how could I let a man let me ...
A. 5 June 2012: All three of us, Cerberus, So very confused, and me are really experienced. We've all been players and had been played before. We are all sick of games that's why we say no more of them. You though, I think you have never been with anyone real.... (read in full...)
My friend's fiancee wants to have sex with me
Q. Heyyy so I'm up here in California for the next couple of years and I've met TONS of people but here's the problem, my friends fiance wants me to have sex with her. I've known this guy for about a month now but she's VERY persuasive and insistent on ...
A. 5 June 2012: Do you need help because you feel tempted, or do you need help with dealing with this girl, and whether to tell your friend? A one month friendship might feel new to you and he may not believe what you say. Only tell him when your friend asks you ... (read in full...)
I left my ex, and now I regret it. How can I win her back?
Q. I have been single for the last couple of years now and my ex girlfriend from 7 years ago is now also single again (we are godparents to our friends children and are both best friends with the couple, that's how I know). Our relationship lasted ...
A. 4 June 2012: Willing to be friends is a good start. Don't wait until February though. I thought godparents are more involved than just birthdays. Be the best friend you could be at the same time don't think she is the only woman who's suitable for you. Do all ... (read in full...)
Be the Puppet MASTER
Q. It does feel good to be working like I’m IN CONTROL. It’s nice to be the puppet master and not the other way around. The key is CONFIDENCE. Something I ALWAYS thought I had.. till I got tangled with a man. Yes.. a man… how could I let a man let me ...
A. 4 June 2012: I'd rather be single than to play the game, always measuring which cup is fuller. There are men who have lots to give without asking much from return. I think ignoring a heartless man would protect you in the meanwhile, it is no guarantee that he ... (read in full...)
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