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Is 11 inch height difference too much? People keep telling me she is too short for me.

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Question - (22 July 2012) 17 Answers - (Newest, 24 July 2012)
A male Iraq age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hello,

My height is 6'1½" inches, she is around 5'3" we have nearly 11 inch height difference.

We have been together for half a year I have never thought of height difference as a problem. I'm OK with it. I love her and we are planning our future together.

But recently my parents met her in person they think of her as too short for me. I'm in a conservative country, family play a big role in marriage.

recently someone told me I wouldn't marry a girl like her and it broke my heart. I can't stand hearing people's opinion on my relationship. It bugs me.

What should I do with everyone having their say on my relationship? does the height difference make a problem in our future life?

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A male reader, Serpico United States +, writes (24 July 2012):

Im 6ft and of Northern European ancestry. My fiancee is 5ft and from South America.

Our height difference has never ever been an issue. In fact, she loves how I can pick her up twirl her around at a moments notice. So do I......

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A male reader, JustHelpinAgain Canada +, writes (23 July 2012):

Silly question, silly parents and friends. Maybe they have another reason but either way if you love each other then you need to show cpnfidence in youselves. Neither of you is extremely tall or short so don't worry about ot.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2012):

Hi my gran was 4"11 and my granddad was 6"2 they adored each other, noone thought there height difference was odd. They loved and respected each other and thats all that matters.

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A female reader, 1sunshine United States +, writes (23 July 2012):

1sunshine agony auntYou both have the same size beating hearts. Love is love & that's all that matters.... ;)

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A female reader, CrystalMaze United Kingdom +, writes (23 July 2012):

I think that if you have to ask whether a height difference is an issue then you shouldn't be together. It sounds like you are just picking on parts of the relationship that aren't ideal. So what you have to bend down to kiss? This wouldn't stop anyone normally. I'm not trying to sound harsh but if you even have to ask then you must be having doubts. This would be an issue if you liked each other or were even in love.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (22 July 2012):

I'm 6'2, and my girlfriend is 5'4. We've been together for 3 years, and it's never been a problem for us.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012):

That's unheard of!!

How is it she is too short for you if she is absolutely normal height for a woman, she is not a short girl at all. And your a little over 6 feet. You are not even that tall for a guy. My husband is 6.1 and I m 5.4. Noone told us ever that I'm too short for him. That's just silly. It's not like she is 5 feet and your 6.5 feet even so ,it's no ones business to tell u things like that.

And I think you need to stand up for your girlfriend. They have no business telling you these things.

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A female reader, McMar Canada +, writes (22 July 2012):

It is not important. My cousin is 6'4" and his girlfriend is less then 5' tall. They have been together then 6 years now.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012):

I'm 5'10" and most of my ex's have been around the 5'3/4" mark and we had no issues.

As long as you two are comfortable together, it doesn't matter what others think.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012):

Nooo 11 inch height difference too much . im 5'0 and my husband is 6'9" and our relationship is great . My cousins 4'9"-5'7" and their bfs/husbands are 6'3-6'11" and their relationships are great soo tell those people to mind their own business.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (22 July 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntMy dad was 6'2" my mom 5'2" married young... lived till my mother died at 58...

they were perfect together...

why in the world would a person's height have anything to do with it?

you love her

she loves you

sorry, no one else should have any say in it...

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (22 July 2012):

janniepeg agony auntPeople have no say in your relationship. It only matters for you two. You should never express this to your girlfriend, unless you are ready for a break up. A man who can't stand up for himself is not worth my time. If you married her then that's it you made up your mind. People can't complain about her height anymore. "does the height difference make a problem in our future life?" If she doesn't mind looking up to you when you talk or kiss, it doesn't. Sexually there won't be problems at all. The people around you maybe thinking your offspring might be short if they take on her genes. A 5 foot 3 woman is equivalent to a guy who is 5 foot 8 or 9. He could even be shorter. A lot of women prefer taller guys and shorter guys can be insecure about their height and they feel like they have to work harder to get women . Yet I have never heard of children complaining about parents who made them short.

This problem would bother you because it makes you feel like you are part of the eugenics clan wiping out the undesirable genes and that love is only secondary to it.

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (22 July 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntWhat makes the difference how tall or short? What matters is the relationship. If you love each other and everything else is good, just tell those naysayers that you don't fall in love with someone's height, you fall in love with who she is as a person.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012):

Ignore them! I am 5'4" my boyfriend is 6'2" and have been going strong for over two years and look set to continue. If you have no problem with her height, then don't worry. Don't let others opinions ruin this - especially if it is a small thing (no pun intended) like height!

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A female reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx United Kingdom +, writes (22 July 2012):

xTheAlmightyDuckx agony auntHello, I am 5'3 and my boyfriend is 6'1.

Alot of people have commented on my height compared to my boyfriends but i don't think ANYONE has ever said that the difference in our height is a reason why we shouldn't be together.

It could be as you said the fact you live in a conservative country, that people think something as silly as height is a reason why you shouldn't be together.

However i am a strong beleiver that things like that shouldn't matter aslong as you love the person your with. I think really once you fall in love with a person the whole pysical asspects of a person like, height, weight or facial features shouldn't matter aslong as you love the person for who they are no matter what.

I don't think its fair that people should have a say on your relationship and aslong as you are sure you love this women, then don't leave her or consider what people have said, as they are simply trying to make you think twice about your relationship which isn't fair.

Height will not cause any problems in your future, as it is such a small detail for each person that it couldn't possibly cause any hassle.

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A female reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth India +, writes (22 July 2012):

Foot-In-My-Mouth agony auntIf you love her and she loves you, I see no reason why you should even think about something as silly as a height difference. Ignore shallow people who suggest otherwise. It's your life and your happiness at stake.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012):

The height difference didn't matter to you before, so why should it now?

I know many people with similar height difference, and it doesn't matter at all. Be happy with the person you love. Don't throw away something good because other people don't approve. It's a very silly reason not to be together.

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