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writes:Hi people.I really sort of regret asking for help since I always feel asking for help is like begging for attention.. But I really can't deal with this problem alone so I hope you beautiful people can give me a hand..I've been in a relationship with this guy for 7 months now and to be honest I wasn't ready back then and still isn't.He lives about 700 km (430 miles) away from me so we rarely meet.Anyways, we talk for hours everyday still and I love him more than any guy I've been with. But(always a but), I don't really feel like I can trust him even though he almost break into tears when I confront him with something I find disturbing or hurtful. For example, sometimes when he's out with friends doing stuff and there's a girl there.. Then in all the pictures (which are put on facebook) he's standing with the girl. Not a single picture where he's alone or she is - which I find really irritating. (And this girl is the most annoying selfish girl who teases all guys around her).I'm easy to hurt so he's having major issues with not hurting me because I've always been good at picking the bad guys (this time I think he's good). We have had a couple of fights in the past due to my easy-to-get-jealous disease(self made) and we even broke up for weeks where I really isolate myself from the outside world.It's like.. when we have good times, it's the best times ever.. And when we have bad times, they're the worst times ever.My question to you awesome people is.. What should I do in the future or now? Stick to him and make things work or should I just.. leave him and move on?Thanks a lot.
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reader, dangerouslyinlove0228  +, writes (30 August 2012):
 You need to break down your walls of insecurity. Its not a good feeling when you have trust issues. You need to let him know wssup ! Let him know how you feel but don't make it sound like you're tryna tell him what to do. (Don't do that.) If he decides to walk away, let him. Remember, you're bein' honest. Its his loss, if he decides to up & leave.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (30 August 2012):
 I don't think jealousy is a disease. You live faraway from him so he probably has more pictures with her than with you. He broke into tears not because you were confronting him, but because he didn't know what to do with you and saw that break up is near. He is torn between having his fun and keeping you as a girlfriend he could barely see or touch. I'd say spare him the pain of dragging this further and just break up with him. He is not a bad person. It's just that you both have trouble letting go, having the wrong assumption that good love is hard to find and must hang on even when it gets unhealthy.
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