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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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What are the possible reasons why he's ignoring me?
Q. Here is my story.. Okay so i met this guy..At first we was only friend..But though we both liked each other..Unfortunately he had a girl in his life..since the past 7 years..That is the reason why we remain friend..But gradually he started telli...
A. 22 July 2012: It's not a possible reason but a definite reason that his girlfriend is here and he has to clear his mind to make room for her. A possible reason for his ignorance is his age. It's hard to think that he's had a girlfriend since 10 years old. Let's ... (read in full...)
I got dumped for going to a strip club!
Q. Ok I have a girl friend and she broke up with me because I went to a strip club with my friends on a company trip is she over reacting we been dating for 9 months...
A. 22 July 2012: For some people, going to strip clubs is totally off limits. With her you had to ask her opinion about it first but it wouldn't have mattered, a guy who thinks it's okay to go to a strip club is against her morals. I know a woman from Norway living ... (read in full...)
Why did I have to back off to get him to come forward?
Q. Dear all Please help and advise. My BF and I have been having some problems of late, so to give myself and him some space, I took a short vacation during which time I did not take his calls. he constantly called me, and when I got home I called hi...
A. 20 July 2012: It's not a strange question at all. I see that all the time. He has a problem keeping up with the demands of a relationship more than you have a hard time keeping up with games. Reason why women head back in the game is because these men are a ... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend admitted that one of the main reasons she is with me is my looks and that she 'needs a daddy for her baby'. Have I got myself into a pickle here?
Q. Thanks for reading - I couldn't sleep last night as all this was in my head and not sure what to think. I met my girlfriend about 4 months ago through a friend and we hit it off right away. She had been with a jerk for 3 years ( they broke up 6 ...
A. 20 July 2012: Before you could get to know each other well, now you have to focus on the baby. People got along 100 years ago because life was simple, people lived shorter lives, they were busier with their manual labor and less time to think about their ... (read in full...)
I am pretty sure my baby's father is the man I cheated on my husband with, and he wants access to the baby but wont do it properly because he cant afford to pay maintenance!
Q. I am married, and have a child whom I conceived before getting married. I had issues with my hubby, (then boyfriend) and cheated on him. There is a high possibility that the baby is for the man I cheated with (still cant figure out why I sunk so ...
A. 19 July 2012: He can't bother you if he is not doing proper things with the court. If he is using threats then you can get a restraining order. If you are impatient then you can pay the paternity test yourself. The rest is up to him and the courts. Do it now and ... (read in full...)
BF says causal comments that HURT, please share your thoughts on these things he's said to me!
Q. i am dating a very young guy..25..im much older but we have had a really cool connection, trust, closeness, amazing physical relationship. not for a long time, but for this summer. as i have began to fall for him, i have found myself repeatedly ...
A. 19 July 2012: Is your user name pared down?
Asperger's or not, he is a friend, but you are hoping that he talks to you like you are gfs and bfs. Here's when I think sex and friendship don't mix well. If you feel jealous that he's thinking of other girls it mean... (read in full...)
What is the truth behind my FWB's behaviour? Does he want more?
Q. We talked on the phone on and off for 2 years and abit more before we met in person. Been seeing eachother for a few months so far at times. We established we only wanted friendship before we met. It was a FWB relationship and I wanted it to remain ...
A. 19 July 2012: Of course he wants more, he just can't offer you anything valuable in return. He should be fixing his financial situation, not deal with drugs. I would stay away from him. If you ever got married to him, you will be partially responsible for his ... (read in full...)
Is it over for us? Is there anything I can do to help the situation?
Q. I have been in a relationship for almost 5 1/2 years. I love my bf very much and I know he loves me. Our only big issue is marriage. About a year ago we broke up for about 4months because he wasn't sure if he was ready for marriage and I've been ...
A. 19 July 2012: You are miserable with his non commitment too. Saying you just want to be with him, no need to marry would not work because after few years your issue has always been marriage. It won't be before long you start mentioning marriage to him again if ... (read in full...)
I've lost that loving feeling, question is, why?
Q. okay i have been on this site and seeked help many a times...when i had problems with my boyfriend before..now i am in a situation that i never ever imagined i would be in. i was always loving,caring and sensitive sort of girl with my bf .now aft...
A. 19 July 2012: You should never compare a LDR to a real one. Your relationship does not start until you do daily things together, touching each other. All you have now is vague promises and sweet words to keep you there, not really to satisfy you. The things that ... (read in full...)
Why he cant make a decision about our future together?
Q. recently my bf and i really confused about the stage were we are i just got the call the other day and he said he was so confused dont know what to do and and if he can support our future together.ok i know thats not a good sign when a man tells ...
A. 19 July 2012: He is established with a job over there so the one to move is you, if you can find a job there. That's not difficult to figure out. The fact he hasn't asked you to move there may mean there's something he is hiding. You can only be sure that you ... (read in full...)
She apologized and said I was 'hard work sometimes. My friend says she's cheating What or who should I believe?
Q. I am very laid back and a mellow guy. My girlfriend of 4 months is generally happy and she is 9 weeks pregnant. We have a good time together and i treat her well. I called her today to wake her up as she had work and i called her when she was on ...
A. 19 July 2012: Wow, this relationship is quite new. She got pregnant like 2 months after knowing you, no wonder why the trust is not quite there in the relationship. I see you don't live together. Do you have plans to? Hard work means you need reassurance a lot ... (read in full...)
I have no idea how to interact with the opposite sex.
Q. i literally have no idea how to properly interact with the opposite sex. i have never had a long term relationship with a female. Basically i cant make any friends who are girls its like im only good at getting them to like me an then forget about ...
A. 19 July 2012: I believe it's hard to understand the opposite sex when you don't have a sister. There is a segregation of boys and girls when we grow up. Society is still slow to accept that there can be platonic friendships between men and women. Even when ... (read in full...)
Do you think he will forgive me?
Q. Sorry this is really long.. Basically I really liked a guy who's in the army we used to speak alot and always kept in touch and got on really well we could talk about everything. He asked to take me out 2years ago and went on a date, I dint sle...
A. 19 July 2012: He is not only emotionally unavailable, but unstable too. Saying you like each other, sleeping together does not count as a relationship. He told you not to wait. It was his choice that he invited you over that night and he developped an attachment ... (read in full...)
Moving away- am I helping or hurting him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years as of yesterday. When we met, we were both employed and I was FT in college, he was PT. 5 months after we started dating, I moved across the city and out of the dorms to live with him. We've now ...
A. 19 July 2012: Doesn't matter if he has ADHD, you should never loan money to a boyfriend. He should move back home, and figure out what he wants to do and stick to it. His parents can't make you a surrogate parent because they had never known what to do with him. ... (read in full...)
I have no idea how to interact with the opposite sex.
Q. i literally have no idea how to properly interact with the opposite sex. i have never had a long term relationship with a female. Basically i cant make any friends who are girls its like im only good at getting them to like me an then forget about ...
A. 19 July 2012: I don't like talking and I don't plan what I talk about. I am a non verbal person. I basically want to get aquainted with a man's mannerisms, how he acts, what he does with his day, who are his family members, what are his goals in life, etc. The ... (read in full...)
Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years?
Q. Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years? I'm starting to lose hope! It seems like loads of people are finding their partners cheating on them on line, sexting, etc :( Can anyone be satisfied just by ...
A. 19 July 2012: I look at people who do sexting as lowlifes with nothing else better to do. Sexual compatability is important, but the lack of it, and at times when you can't have sex such as after childbirth, don't give people an excuse to cheat. You have to ... (read in full...)
Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years?
Q. Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years? I'm starting to lose hope! It seems like loads of people are finding their partners cheating on them on line, sexting, etc :( Can anyone be satisfied just by ...
A. 19 July 2012: You have to be willing to try new things. It will definitely help if you don't think blow jobs, swallowing or rim jobs are dirty. Also I don't deal with selfish lovers. When your sex life is good and you feel like you are two people against the ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to be ready, keep talking and getting to know each other more, and risk the chance of getting my heart broken again?
Q. A few months ago I met an amazing guy a couple years older than me. He is going through the end of a divorce, though. She filed against him over a year ago and has moved on. He, however, says that he is not ready for a relationship yet. We hang out...
A. 18 July 2012: Oh so what he has is a trust issue. He knows you like him now, maybe even falling in love with him right now. Since he is not opening his heart for you, he does not care whether you are the one as of now, or later. He does not care if you are trying ... (read in full...)
She cheated to be with me. Will she cheat on me?
Q. Well this might be a little long so bear with me. For background purposes: I’m not a guy who’s been around, there’s nothing wrong with me but i’m one of those slow people and i’ve never really cared about that since my first girlfriend. She ...
A. 18 July 2012: I don't think keeping a video means she has feelings for her ex. Maybe because I never had a problem of boyfriends going back to exes. It's considered her property and she can do whatever she wants with it. If you have a problem with it at least she ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: I am actually thinking whether you should tell your fiance. If you don't, you feel sneaky and conscience will torture you. If you do, your fiance would probably approve of it, because what else could he do? He will secretly sulk but he doesn't want ... (read in full...)
She cheated to be with me. Will she cheat on me?
Q. Well this might be a little long so bear with me. For background purposes: I’m not a guy who’s been around, there’s nothing wrong with me but i’m one of those slow people and i’ve never really cared about that since my first girlfriend. She ...
A. 18 July 2012: In other words you are worrying that she is a serial monogamist, meaning she won't take the time to resolve issues, and will jump into another relationship when things get tough or boring. It is very hurtful to be dropped like that, when you have to ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to be ready, keep talking and getting to know each other more, and risk the chance of getting my heart broken again?
Q. A few months ago I met an amazing guy a couple years older than me. He is going through the end of a divorce, though. She filed against him over a year ago and has moved on. He, however, says that he is not ready for a relationship yet. We hang out...
A. 16 July 2012: I would be really cautious. In any relationship you get vulnerable and there is always a change of getting hurt. The fact that you have to mention this in your title, and the word, "again," may imply that you are not ready for a relationship either. ... (read in full...)
All of my boyfriend's ex girlfriends and friends are strippers, ex cons, prostitutes, porn stars ...and generally people who are a little shady, while I'm a virgin!! What the hell is going on?! Why did he pick me?
Q. My bf is 31, I am 26 and we have been together for about seven months. Things are going great...however...I'm confused about the fact that all his exes and friends are strippers, ex cons, prostitutes, porn stars ...and generally people who are a ...
A. 16 July 2012: He picks you because the shady women won't do for him anymore. He wants you to fulfill the nurturing role that he never had because his mother was alcoholic. Waiting for the right person is good, it does not mean you can't have exciting sex with ... (read in full...)
Am I the problem... or her?
Q. Is it me or her ? Ok my gf and I been dating for a while now. We started out fine till when she started acting sneaky i call it. I cant see her every time we plan on seeing each other. She always makes up an excuse, the first time was she had to ...
A. 16 July 2012: It's hard to believe anything you wrote here. If she had cancer why did she agree to go to six flags. If she had cancer how could she be dating other guys? If you are her boyfriend how come you couldn't even visit her at the hospital? I don't even ... (read in full...)
I think we could have a great relationship if only the arguments stopped, but at the moment I'm only with him for the sex!
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for 5 months and he gets upset with me most of the time. After a week he looked through my phone and facebook messages as he has been cheated on in the past. He found messages on facebook, about 4 guys asked me out even though ...
A. 16 July 2012: It is as rare to have a great male lover as it is to have a woman who can receive this pleasure. It will be hard for you to let each other go. Tell him you like the sex very much, but not everything has to be that intense in a relationship. Breaking ... (read in full...)
Have my wife and friend been intimate behind my back?
Q. A while ago I asked for advice about fulfilling my wifes mfm fantasy with my friend. A resounding 'bad idea' was what most people said,which is fair enough and we are not going to pursue it. However,some of u said that given what I'd said about our ...
A. 16 July 2012: Their talk and actions had gone beyond just a fantasy and trying it out becomes inevitable. It is up to you to stop all this. You are okay with mfm, it sounds like your friend only wants fmf. To make these fantasies work, you have to be open minded ... (read in full...)
My insecurities? His inconsideration?
Q. I really don't know who is in the wrong regarding our situation? My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and just moved in together. He will sometimes put on these (sexy teenager movies) he used to watch while growing up...
A. 16 July 2012: I see that he is younger than you. Now he knows that he won't share these teen movies with you, but he might watch it himself or with his friends. It doesn't change a thing about your attraction to him. All he did was share his childhood memories ... (read in full...)
My husband is very critical of my friends, what should I do?
Q. My husband doesn't understand why I keep on being friends with some of my girlfriends. More, he developed an attitude of not liking them, because of their actions. He makes negative remarks about them all the time, and with some of them I agree bu...
A. 16 July 2012: Is your husband jealous that you would rather spend time with your lukewarm friends, rather than a life time partner who has your back?
Your husband is out of line. Your friends might have assumed that you have closer friends and family who woul... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of rushing into things but am afraid to do nothing
Q. I have somewhat of a problem. I haven't been in any real relationships and I recently met this new guy, he tells me how much he likes me and how he thinks I'm nice looking, but I mean we've literally only known each other for days. I don't want to ...
A. 15 July 2012: It doesn't sound like you like this guy too much. Don't go on a date for the sake of having a date. Feeling nervous about dating is normal. It is unknown territory. If you don't have a male figure in your life besides your father, like brothers, ... (read in full...)
He took my virginity and then went back to his ex. How do I move on?
Q. How can i move on from someone who took my virginity? He's 26 and I'm 18. We've been together for 5 months.then, he broke up with me after reading an email from his 8 year ex girlfriend telling him that my family are allergic to him and that the...
A. 15 July 2012: First you have to stop thinking sex is something you gift to a man in exchange for love, that sex with a second man is less special, that after sex you are deflowered if you broke up. That kind of victim mentality does not go well with equality in ... (read in full...)
Freind with benefits coping methods
Q. Hello, a month ago I met a guy via an online dating website. We got along well, went on a few dates and after 6 dates he slept over at my place. The next morning I was rather shocked as I did not want to turn this into a relationship, so...
A. 15 July 2012: There is no on and off switch to emotions. Your body knows what to do to guard you. I have been in relationships like this. I didn't remember telling myself what to do not to get hurt, or look for any methods. I just convinced myself that being ... (read in full...)
To rebound or not to rebound?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about 3 weeks ago because I cheated on him with my guy friend (over a month ago). I didn’t break up with my boyfriend because of guy friend though- I did it on my own terms and this incident just made me ...
A. 15 July 2012: Perhaps he doesn't want to be involved with you because your relationship started off as an affair, plus he's a friend of your ex. He's actually being kind to your ex for not pursuing you. Your ex needs time to heal and the last thing he wants to ... (read in full...)
It used to be fine but now the thought of sex gives her panic attacks!
Q. I've been dating this girl for about a year and at first she seemed uninhibited and we were having sex all the time but as we began to explore it turned out I was less innocent than she had imagined and we started finding some things she didn't want ...
A. 15 July 2012: It seems like her anxiety is not just about sex but many things in her life. I would try to understand the roots of her anxiety, what happened in her childhood, etc. Pot does not help at all. She should stop. When some people love deeply they find ... (read in full...)
I still love him but am unsure if I should answer his messages.
Q. My boyfriend brokeup with me two months ago and after a couple of days he send me a message saying he is sorry for how things turned out but i did not reply back. now after one and a half month of no contact. he send me a message on fb. we are not ...
A. 15 July 2012: I have begun to realize a relationship that's all smooth with no breaks can be unrealistic. Sometimes a break up is what's needed to create changes in habits that's once harmful to the relationship before. You decide if you can forgive him and move ... (read in full...)
He constantly thinks I am cheating on him, this makes me feel insecure!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We have an amazing relationship except our insecurities. I think he truthfully feels I am cheating on him and I am not. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone and I thought the ...
A. 15 July 2012: You think that makes you insecure? It makes me feel annoyed. He is projecting insecurities onto you. It's a different kind of insecurity though. He is afraid another man is better than him. You are afraid that he would believe his own mind then ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore but am stuck in the relationship!
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 6 years, the 1st 3 years was a hell as he was cheating on me an I wasn't aware until I found out he had a child with someone else. It was hard then cause I was head over heels for him so I forgave him. Recently ...
A. 15 July 2012: Can you sell the house right away afterwards? Then you can split the money and get something smaller for yourself.
Also think if the relationship is salvageable. What are his redeeming qualities? What would you miss most about him? What are the thin... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my online friend that I love him?
Q. Hi everyone! i wrote in before this but i just want to share everything that has been happening in details. So about 2.5yrs back i got into online chats and all, in 2009. I did have some frends back then while i was doing my diploma but well friends ...
A. 15 July 2012: You should only say I love you when you feel like it, without reservations. You don't say it to see if the other person will say it back. There are people who wear their heart on their sleeves but one thing I can't do is say I love you when I don't ... (read in full...)
Does this married older woman want to sleep with me?
Q. Ok im 21 and i work in an office with only one other male, all the rest are female. There is one woman in the office who is constantly flirting with me and complimenting me--and i mean outrageously. At a recent night out too she stayed with me all ...
A. 14 July 2012: There are people who will do anything but before it gets to cheating they would stop. She does sound like she wants to sleep with you, and she is violating her wedding vows already. Don't get carried away. I do think you should remind her she's ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to girls with confidence?
Q. i am a 17 yrs old boy i am 5"and something tall and i m little dark skinned i never had been in a relationship before so i feel very shy to talk to girls.i talk to very few girls and i have very few female friends . But now i feel like incomplete ...
A. 14 July 2012: One thing they say is you shouldn't wait for a woman to complete you. You have to be complete yourself. Of course in romantic moments you can say to each other, you complete me. It's nice to express you need someone. Girls are attracted to men who ... (read in full...)
LDR b/f has never understood that I'm stressed about my studies. Now he hasn't contacted me in a week!
Q. Hello everyone sorry if this is long but please take time to read this, i am 22 years old and have been in a relationship now for 4 years, in the begining we fell in love and it felt like magic but we used to fight alot mainly because he doesn't ...
A. 14 July 2012: You are not getting anything from this relationship. The lack of contact at least gives you some space from the fighting, and to think about whether to continue this. In a long distance relationship, there is no present moment. And if you don't have ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my 2 year old from calling every guy he meets daddy?
Q. I am a single mother of a 2 year old boy. His father is not currently around and has only seen him a handful of times in his whole life. Hasn't seen him in months. The problem is everytime I go to a function or hang out with friends every man thats ...
A. 14 July 2012: "No, he's a friend." "His name is . . ."
"We only have one daddy, that's it. Each of us."
"Not all the mommies and daddies live together."
"Here is a picture of your daddy. He lives in . . ."
"This guy is not a daddy. He has no children."
"Thi... (read in full...)
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