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writes:Ok I am 40years old and I ran into an old friend who is 43. We had not seen each other in 20yrs. So we started dating and all was well. Flowers every week took her on a little vac and we would go out 2 eat 5 days a week all on my $ she then ask me that we not date others I said ok. Well I didn't change and less then 2weeks later she wants us 2 date others again I said ok. Well we are supposed 2 go2 florida in 2weeks. But she has been telling 1 of her family members that's its over between us and she hasn't seen me in a week. The fam member is telling me this behind her back. She called me over 2 her house 5days last week 2 stay the night and yes we did sleep 2gether. So y she would lie I don't no what 2 do and who 2 beleve. I really like yhis woman. But I guess she has done this b4. Help
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 It's not necessary she's lying. She liked you at first, then changed her mind. She wants to be FWB with you. She's doing everything to play the game and keeping you hooked. You should cancel the trip to Florida, or treat your mom or another relative. Maybe 2 weeks later she will tell you to date only her. Who cares. She's too unstable and you certainly are looking for more than just a casual fling. She didn't even bother to tell you to cancel the trip. You got an expensive friend here. She treats men like they can be disposed of anytime, depending on her mood. She can be likable when you get to see her but from what you wrote she has no respect for men. The family member has no reason to lie. She is a mature adult (maybe not so mature) no one has the business to tell her who to date or who not to date. Telling you the truth is probably to protect you. It's probably known to them that she is indeed a player.
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reader, romany  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 You need to ask her, you've discussed, not dating, then dating, so in her eyes, your not exclusive, so you can easily approach this, just ask her outright, definately before you spend any more on her on the this vacation, I think shes keeping her options open, and she's using you.
Sorry.
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