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writes:Hi peeps hope all is well...My question is! How do I get my man to stop flirting with other girls literally infront of me??!!I absolutely hate it, I dont have a clue what the hell to do!! We've only been going out just over a month.. He's the kind of guy that gets along with everyone very friendly.. (we work together) We went out the other day and his trainers were hurting him very much so we went into a shop where he got the attention of two girl assisstants after telling them how much pain he was in and how much he needed new trainers when I realised he started flriting with them.. I was stood right next to him but I didnt say anything and just played along like i didnt care!! Im not jealous but I just think its very rude! He does it with a few girls at work to but im not sure how to take it or whether I should say something to him as it maybe tooo soon..... I really need your help thanks guys...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (11 July 2010):
 He's a jerk, you did well.
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reader, Cba +, writes (11 July 2010):
Cba is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for all your help and advice.. Much appreciated!
Well we did get into a little argument the other day about him assuming i flirt with other guys when i told him i didnt like his flirting with other girls (which are our mutual friends aswell) He just denied. I've dumped him now but he's saying he wants to have intercourse with me as we havent done it yet, as thats all he went on about when i told him about the break up. Im getting a weird feeling thats all he wants! Not sure....
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reader, Miamine +, writes (10 July 2010):
Some people are natural flirts, they are extroverts and it comes as easy to them as breathing air. 'They are not "wrong" or "rude", that's just the way they are. The type of flirting your talking about sounds harmless and natural, that's the type of man he is. He may be able to change if he loves you enough, but he will be unhappy. You are going out with a man who loves to flirt with people, force him to change and he won't be the same person, he'll be restricted and uncomfortable about saying the wrong thing.
You've only been going out for a month, you and this man see life very differently.. I suggest that you think about if it's worth continuing a relationship with a man whose personality offends you in this way.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (10 July 2010):
 It's only been a month, and he's already showing how little he respects you. It's incredibly rude, and I think at this stage in your relationship, he's testing you to see how much he can get away with.
Most men will on occasion flirt with a woman other than their girlfriend/wife. It doesn't always mean something. The difference is when he does it right in front of you, as if you're not even there.
Next time he does it, calmly take him aside later on and tell him you feel his actions are disrespectful, and that he needs to stop if he wants your relationship to continue. It's still early, he should be on his best behaviour with you right now, and he's obviously not.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 July 2010):
 You have only been going out for a month and you already found something you don't like. If you have to talk to him about this as if he doesn't know flirting is wrong, he's not worth it. There is no pressure to continue with him. Just tell him that you don't think it's a good idea for you to proceed into a relationship. Find a guy who doesn't need any fixing, rather than sticking with a guy then trying hard to change him.
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