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writes:Mod Note: Posters own titleHello, first i will say i was with this boy for a while he was so sweet, caring, loving we had so much in common. I really thought he loved me he even told me he did i was talking to this girl who happened to be friends with him and she told they were kind of dating. I asked him about it and he flipped out and now he doesn't wanna speak to me. He told me not to contact him, and that i am annoying. I just wanna learn to accept this, and move on. I have been crying all day my eyes hurt, i am tired of looking ugly. I really miss him, i have been going through so much people have been harassing me, my family is constantly fighting and now this break up just tore me apart. I hurt so bad i just wanna be happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): You bit into a "bad" apple.......maybe time will heal your emotional wound. It's hard to get over or let go of someone you call yourself loving....this guy has requested that you not contact him, so you need to respect his wishes--don't call, don't text, don't sent messages through his friends, family or classmates, don't leave notes, don't do anything...just leave the guy alone. Whoever he dates at this point is his business and although it will hurt you, you must start the process of trying to get over this guy. If you need therapy, don't be afraid to get it.
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reader, romany  +, writes (4 July 2010):
 The reason he is being so mean to you, is coz you found him out, and so he is on the attack, rather than defence, coz he's a very selfish person, he's not telling you his side of the story, because by telling you, he would be admitting he's a twat. But you know that already, as his reactions speak louder than words.
Things are tough for you at the moment, you have alot going on, you need to address each situation seperately, at the moment its like trying to do 3 different puzzles, with all the pieces in one box.
Start with him, coz its making you suffer emotionally.
You need to take a good hard look at yourself, and ask if you were getting what you put out, you know you weren't as he was putting the energy he should have been giving you, into dating someone else, so he aint worth it.
You need to appreciate yourself, love yourself and respect yourself, and then you'll realise that your more than happy to let him go.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 July 2010):
 What he did was immature. You seem to be running into bad luck over and over again. No matter what happens, always find something to be happy about in a day. Make a plan to stay happy at least 51% of a day. Strive to reach the goal of 51% happy every day of the week. Big bonuses if the % is more than 70%. How about babysitting very very young children or little pets? How about making nice food for yourself? Gather used clothes, canned food and donate to the poor? I am saying this because if you give something out, you get something back. You can making a living by taking, but you can only make a life by giving. As for your ex who you really never had a relationship with, he's not that important in your life. You don't have to waste one more second thinking about him. He's like a ghost, let him go.
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