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writes:Well... I've been researching all over the internet to figure out my problem, but I just can't seem to find the answer. There's a guy that i've known for about 5 and a half months now ( let's call him "Cory" ), and I realized I had a crush on him after I broke up with my boyfriend. The day my boyfriend dumped me I was home crying and Cory texted me asking why I looked so sad in school, and when I told him what happened, he was very helpful in drying my tears and getting over my breakup. About a week later Cory got a girlfriend... and that really hurt. During the time Cory was dating this girl, I started talking to Cory's best friend ( we will call him "John" ), and I really started to like John because I thought he was very sweet. Soon Cory was single again and I told him about my crush on John. He was insanely mad, but he told me he could talk to John and see what John thought of me. Turns out, John didn't like me, and then Cory was there to comfort me yet again and be my shoulder to cry on ( although I didn't cry.). Afterwards Cory asked why I even liked John and I said "because he's so sweet and he said he doesn't care about sex". Cory told me the truth about him immediately, because I know he cares deeply about me, and said that all John ever talks about is sex, and that John lied about everything... Well to sum everything up, I really like Cory. I've liked him longer then anyone else in my whole life. He's always there for me when I need him, and always knows how to make me smile or laugh... The problem is, he keeps telling my friends he doesn't like me, but it's hard to know. The only time i've ever been treated so nicely by a guy, is by my boyfriend, who loved me. Maybe he's just nice, or maybe he's secretly interested... Some of his interest signs - - Whenever I try to talk to him around other guys, they always smile and walk away leaving us alone.- He is usually a normal guy, and isn't shy at all around his friends, but around me he is VERY shy and quiet and can never look me directly in the eyes without smiling ( I can't look at him directly or I giggle hahaha )- At lunch he sits at a table next to mine, and always stares at me, even when he's talking to another guy.- He seems to be able to talk normally to me online in a chat room or when he texts me, but never when we talk on the phone, or in person.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 February 2011):
 I would suggest you not to talk about other guys again with Cory. If you want to start anything with him, he needs to know that he's not just a shoulder to cry on, or a best buddy. You and him are free to look around, but things are best kept private so that you are not trying to make each other jealous, or to test each other. You can shape how he feels about you by how you act in the next few weeks. You don't know each other well enough. So present your best self. You are much more than just a girl coming out of a relationship and needing another one soon. Discover each other's interest and passion. You've been talking about mainly you and your relationships. It's time to get to know him. You can start the conversation light and take note of what interests him. It can be sports, school subjects and favourite foods or movies. People like it when you talk about them. It makes them feel important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): ask cory how he feels.. it seems to me he's always around you when you are sad how do you know he didnt lie to you about jon? cory probably likes you but you'll never know til you ask him men are hard to read sometimes.. maybe he doesn't know if you like him and he likes you so much he doesn't know what to do.. go for it girl there are plenty of fish in the sea.. don't be afraid to make the first move..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): If you like him as much as you say that you do, then tell him so. If he does like you he will let you know (hopefully) if not then you will then know so. Either way, neither of you are going to get anywhere by not addressing the situation. If you do tell him that you like him, then go in prepared that he may not like you, or maybe he does and there are other situations preventing him from following through with his emotions (High school seems to have that affect on people). Either way, you will never know if you don't confront the situation head on.
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