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*lydiese
writes:I have this guy friend I talk to online. He's the same age as me and he used to go to my school. He's a really nice guy to talk to and I would like to meet up with him just as a friend, but I feel like he has much stronger feelings towards me. He always asks if I'm seeing anyone and who I'm interested in and he sometimes makes inappropriate jokes like, "oh yeah I know what'll happen if we meet up," but then he'll quickly reply with something like, "oh only joking." I have never led him on or made him believe that I like him when I don't. I just think it would be very awkward if we were to meet up. He only lives about 15 minutes away, so it's not like he lives in another country. I just want to know what people think about staying friends with him. Does it seem like it would be a bad idea? Or am I just reading too much into it? Answers much appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (31 January 2011):
Elydiese is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers i think i just feel bad because he can be a nice guy i suppose i should mention that i have severe memory loss so i have actually met this guy several times before i just dont remember. He does seem to make things up as ell by saying that we used to be best friends when ive been told that we werent close at all. And that we used to go out when we never. It is very dodgy a few of my family members have told me to be careful around him and to keep my guard up if he mentions anything else i'll have to cut ties with him. Thanks for the answers much appreciated
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 He tried to make it sound like a joke but you know what he's up to. One of my dating sites I went to, in which there are three sections: dating, relationship, and the naughty section. I got 50 messages, most of them brief, from the naughty section, and only 6 for dating, and 2 for relationships. The two who were interested in relationships were 50 and 60. The trend should't be that different in the UK. Yes he would really like to be your 'friend". Although guys on dating sites can sound like hungry hyenas I am in no way trying to demean them. I am just trying to refer to statistics. There is nothing wrong wanting sex at all, but this is not what you want. If you want a friend then there are better places than the internet.
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Next time he makes a joke like that say something like "haha yeah, that would be weird because we're only friends". If he drops it, great, he got the message. If he starts talking to you about it, just say that you want to keep your relationship as just friends. Be straight with him, and a friendship will probably work unless he is only intereste in being in a relationship with you. In that case, just let him go.
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reader, AbscentMinded +, writes (31 January 2011):
 OMG cut this relationship offfff~!!!!!!!!!!!!! he does want more than friends and will stop at nothing to have you for his own. Not to be blunt but grow some balls and tell him how you feel. :-) Promise I'm not a hater
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