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writes:My long time girlfriend left me for another man. they had been having an affair for a couple of months. during this time she lied to me on lots of occasions. when I eventually found out I asked her to reconsider and asked if she would come back. she has said she will, but only if i wait until next month. it is breaking my heart to think that she is continuing her affair knowing how much it is hurting me. I believe that she is keeping her options open with this other guy such that if we can't work it out she still has the option to go back to this man. my question is should i keep going and let her stay hoping that we will be able to get back together?
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (21 February 2011):
I will be a little rude here, I'm sorry but I think you really need this.
What do you think is she doing with this guy while you wait? Because the most harmless thing I can think of is she's getting to know him in order to decide if she stays with him or not.
Where does this put you? You are being mistreated for real. And then, if she tells you she is going with you. What will you feel? Are you going to be able to handle the constant memory of the time she spent with this guy?
What I think about this is you have to move on right now. Start respecting yourself a little for your own good. And you will see how the people starts respecting you too.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 She is not treating you well. By waiting you are showing her that you don't mind disrespect and that you are desperate for her love. You have other options too, you just don't know it.
Think about what went wrong in the relationship, and why she feels she is missing something with you. You will probably find out that there is nothing wrong with you at all. You gave her a chance to reconsider and she doesn't give a damn about it, because the affair is more important than you. That next month can postpone to one more month. What you should do is not wait, but tell her she can have that guy, because she is no longer valuable to you.
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