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writes:I met a man a month ago. We get along great. He is currently on disability because of an injury to his leg so except for doctor's appointments he is available to get together any time of the day. We live a few hours apart and make frequent drives to see each other but more of our time together is spent by way of phone calls, texts, and messenger.We are seeing each other but not yet in a real relationship so we are basically free to do what we want without consulting the other one. He has told me he is not seeing anyone and he knows I am not. Here is the problem. I know during the week he isn't but I believe something is going on during the weekends. Last weekend he told me he was going to be busy with his nephew helping him beat his high score on a game but he wanted to talk the following day which was Saturday. He did not contact me at all Saturday. Sunday I received a text saying he couldn't get his laptop to connect to the internet but he'd talk to me Monday. Monday he apologized for Saturday and things went back to normal. This Friday he told me he was going to be at his neices house for the weekend and it would take him a bit of time to respond to any emails he received. Over the course of the weekend I sent three emails and three texts, One email was responding to his, one was letting him know if he needed to contact me to do so by text because I'd be out of town, the third was letting him know because of car trouble I was staying home. He never responded to any. The first text was have a safe trip, second was I received a perfect score on a final exam, the third was asking what's up with the no communication all weekend again and if he just wants time away from me on weekends let me know so I wont keep bugging him. This is the only one he responded to. He asked why I thought I was bothering him. Am I being paranoid or does it appear something is up on the weekends?
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 You're welcome. I also told her to text/call anytime because I wanted her to know there was absolutely no monkey business going on with me while we were so far apart. I'm thinking this is why he told you the same thing. He wants you to rest easy and feel good. He cares about your feelings. That's great!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionfirstlovelastlove
Thanks! After reading yours I think I am being paranoid. I wouldn't be so curious if he wouldn't have told me to text any time day or night as much as I want then him not respond on weekends. I never thought about bad cell phone service. I feel better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjanniepeg
It just seems odd to me that two weekends in a row he doesn't answer texts. It isn't just when he's at his neices house but seems to be when he spends the weekend anywhere which seems to be the norm with him. I am expecting the same thing next weekend.
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reader, firstlovelastlove +, writes (20 February 2011):
Modern technology? Ahhh! I would just pick up the phone and call. I used to live in "rural America" and had a lot of problems with Internet connections and cell phone service. The only cell provider was Verizon. I hate Verizon. Did you ever see the television show Green Acres? I would literally have to stand outside by a metal fence to get a signal. I did this through snowstorms, thunderstorms, and one tornado in the neighboring county. At first I was too embarrassed to tell the love of my life about these "kooky conditions" but I eventually did and we both laugh about it now.
"We are seeing each other but not yet in a real relationship" "Am I being paranoid or does it appear something is up on the weekends?" I don't think you're being paranoid maybe a little overly curious. It's only been a month. You're still getting used to each others' schedules/routines, family and friends. I wish you all the best!
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reader, phoenix69 +, writes (20 February 2011):
 It sounds like your getting a little pushy since your not in a relationship. To some it would be nice but to others not so much one email is ok or a text if he says he will contact you on a certain day let it go at that if after a month goes by and still nothing then you know whats up.You can get sick thinking of the bad things try taking it slow dont push or rush things cause you might push him away..
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (20 February 2011):
 He's spending time with his niece on the weekend. He probably won't visit her every weekend. You can know more about what he does the next time you see him. Don't send him any more messages until he suggests doing something with you. Don't explain why you wrote what you wrote, or why you didn't write, just let it be.
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