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writes:My friends are very into watching porn all the time, girls in my year with double d's and wanting tto have sex as soon as possible. To fit in I have to be the same and go along with it. However I don't agree with huge breasts if you girls who read this do have large breasts no offense but I don't see the turn on and I don't want to have meaningless sex I want to have sex with the girl/women I love. How do I tell them this and try and persuade them that carrying on what they are doing is agreeing with violence and is ruining the feeling they will have when in a relationship
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (21 February 2011):
Telling these girls that their breast size is a turn of for you, would be inappropriate and rude. They have a right to live their life, how they want, and it is not for you to give them the high and mighty that what they are doing is wrong.
You don't have to tell them anything, just don't get involved and pursue these women for sex. You don't have to justify your own moral and beliefs to anyone but people who need to know, such as a potential girlfriend or close friends.
If you aren't attracted to these girls, and don't share the same beliefs, then just find new people to be friends with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): I would tell them at some point what your feelings are about all of this and start to make some new friends also who have a similar feeling to you. Some of them may be relieved if they are also just going along with the general consensus. You're all way to young for sex btw -good for you on wanting to wait until you have a good relationship and love.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 If that's what you want to tell them then why not just say it to them just the way it is? You can start with "here's the thing..." and explain your thoughts. Your thoughts are not unusual at all, they are quite common. But so many teenagers try and cover up what they actually want and pretend to want what they think everyone else wants.
It only takes that you have the courage to tell the truth. But if they are good people they will understand and respect your opinion. If they laugh at you then why care any more about them. And perhaps you can make them change their minds about broadcasting that they want sex at such an early age. If you speak up about what you truly want for yourself it can give others inspiration to do the same.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 There is a lot of pressure to become a man. A lot of competition, the ego pursuit to get the most successful guy or the girl with the biggest boobs. All you can tell them is be good and wear a condom. The legal age in UK, I believe is 16. Even when you reach that age no one can force you to have sex. I refuse to believe that watching porn is most young people do all the time. Is that the only choice of friends you can have? You can say you prefer natural boobs because smaller boobs usually have more sensitive nipples. You don't have to tell them you think casual sex is immoral. Someone has to teach them about responsibility and how to handle feelings but that person is not you. That's not your job. For adults, casual sex, when it's consensual, can be a lot of fun. For teenagers it's a different story though. Emotions can be fragile when your identity is still shaky. Young people are very image conscious and they gossip a lot.
You are all still very young and curious. As you grow older you begin to know what's good quality video, what's fake and who's just doing it for the money. You also have to understand that porn is the only venue that guys learn about the sex action. They want to be good at it before losing virginity to some girl who may judge them. You have a life time to find out about sex and relationships and at this point you are not in a position to lecture them.
Well, to tell them why you don't want to have sex. Telling them you will only have sex with a woman you love is too unmacho, that's if fitting in is important to you. It would just make them call you a wimp. Besides the obvious reason that you are underage, you don't want to be sneaky and worry about being caught by parents or teachers. You want to wait till you have your own place, your own privacy.
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reader, unknown beauty  +, writes (21 February 2011):
dont go along with it anyways thats the worst thing to do cause you feel horrible inside tell them you dont think them girls turn you on tell them what girls do . you never know another person you hang around with could feel the same way as you too and might be waiting for some1 else to say something .
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