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writes:I met this guy back in November and we were hanging out a few times a week, having a great time, and it lead to me sleeping over when I would see him. Every since I met him I questioned if he was a player.... his cell always being off when I am there, always seeing me after 8 pm, never really going on dates, just hanging out to watch movies, and always getting together during the week, and never much on weekends. In December I asked him if he was seeing other girls and confronted him. He got upset and we had words and we took 3 weeks off from one another, with a text here and there, but we didn't see one another. Then we decided to see one another and we ended up hanging out Thursday, Friday, and Saturday of that week, and then the following week hanging out Wed, Thursday, and made plans for Saturday. Saturday comes,and he texts me and says "his lunch did not agree with him and he may have to cancel." I thought that this was very strange and said ok feel better. Its like suddenly he is acting very distant and not getting back to me by text as quickly and canceling and not even asking what I was going to do since we had plans. He just seems different. Did something happen in that amount of time?
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reader, pinkkisses24  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 I feel you girl. I feel if your instincts are telling you he is cheating or doing something behind your back...go with it. If not then try to ask more questions for clarification and if he is giving you answers which you feel do not make sense then leave him alone. Also, I feel he may have something on his mind which is bothering him. Again do not be afraid to ask questions
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (31 January 2011):
 I am not a guy but I can imagine he would be offended if you asked if he was a player. His cell could be off because he respects you and he doesn't want to be interrupted when you are together. You are not a couple yet and he has every right to give out numbers to people online. Whether you wait to have sex until it's official is up to you but if you gave out early it doesn't mean he's using you if he doesn't agree with pursuing a serious relationship. I don't know where you live in the US but in Canada it's cold right now so there is only movies and hanging out indoors. His distancing is basically telling you if this is what you think of him, a player, and that you lose respect for him, then you should not bother again. If you can only enjoy time with him when he devotes his whole heart only to you, promises the future for at least 5 years ahead, then it would make him wonder if you guys can ever have fun, because relationship would sound like a maintenance, a proof of love, a chore to him. He could be taking his time getting to know you. He could be a player but he's innocent until proven guilty. Even if he's a player that doesn't make him a bad person. From what I read he did not guarantee anything to you, try to mislead you. Whether he's slow moving or non moving you have the power to free yourself from this if you are looking for a more relationship minded individual.
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