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writes:I really need help. I've been with my boyfriend 4 years, (were 18) and we have a 14 month old daughter together.The problem is that his mother hates me because I once told her my boyfriend was bisexual (which is true). He cheated on me 3 times with a boy, but he has denied it to her making me seem like a liar and making her hate meI've asked him to come out to her, because she won't speak to me or see our daughter because she thinks I'm a liar, and it's my little girl missing out on seeing her grandmother. I know it may seem selfish of me, but his family hates me and I just want the air to be clear between us! I'm tired of being called a liar and my boyfriend allowing me to be called every name under the sun by his family and ignoring the exsitence of our child. I've pleaded with him to tell them, but he refuses and continues to cheat with males and females behind my back and keeping it secret from his family. I just don't know what to do anymore, Someone please Help me, I'm desperate XX Ellie X
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Guys, The Reason im still with him is because i still love him, & My Daughter Loves Him Too, I Know i shouldnt have told his mum & I Regret it, but it was said in the heat of the moment, I just Dont know what to say to him to get him to tell her or at least encourage her to make some sort of effort with me & My baby XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): First of all, it wasn't your place to out your boyfriend to his mother. He wasn't ready to come out to her for one reason or another, and you didn't respect that.
However, that absolutely does not excuse his behavior. He shouldn't be cheating on you, but he should be standing up to his mother. His mother should realize that she's punishing an innocent baby by refusing to see her or be a part of her life.
You've pleaded with him to tell his family that he is bisexual. But have you asked him to tell his mom to quit behaving like that, leave past things in the past and see her grandchild? Try asking for that instead of asking that he come out to his family.
Him talking to his family aside, he shouldn't be cheating on you with anyone, and the fact that he's a repeat cheater (doesn't stand up for you, doesn't seem to care how you feel) is a huge red flag for you. Why are you still with him? Staying in an unhealthy relationship isn't good for you, for him, or for your baby.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 I am afraid you can't make her like you. Mothers adore their sons. If there is a problem it's always somebody's fault. An extreme example is that on the newspaper a 21 year old guy was convicted of murder and his mother was still trying to defend her son, saying he's actually a nice guy and stuff, making the victims' family even angrier. I myself had experience with a mother in law who always supported her psychopath son because she could not come to realize that there is something wrong in her genes or in the man she mated with when she was 19. She bad mouthed me to everybody, including my mom. Everything was my fault when it came down to my ex's downfall when the truth was that my ex used me, as well as his other exes. Never a single time did she think how her son ruined 3 women's lives because he squandered his money and was neglectful. Our relationship was strained. Fortunately my parents like my son. I have many other stories to tell about how mothers protect and indulge in their loves for their sons but I wouldn't do it here for privacy reasons. You are better off leaving this woman alone. I don't miss my "ex mother in law". If she can't see me as who I am, then I don't want to see her. She can come visit her grandson if she wants to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): hey, why are you still with the guy who cheats on you with other women and men.. i guess for the good of your daughter would be the good answer but that sound shocking,
and yes, it will make you seem like a liar to the mother of your boyfriend, because, its natural for mothers to resent their sons girlfriend, so you claiming he's bisexual and he cheats, won't help XD but it's really sad, that you've told him to tell his mother, but he's to much of a pussy too? hes making you look like the idiot.
i say, to hell with that man, but if you still love him, theres nothing you can do, i understand you want a relationship with your boyfriends mother and your daughter, but your boyfriend isnt helping, theres not much you can do, you need to get your pathetic boyfriend to own up, i can't really say much and offend your boyfriend, but im sorry, from what you've described.. hes not worth it.
:/ good luck,
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