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During intercourse she doesn't seem to be able to last very long.
Q. Hello there I'm 22 year old male, I'm engaged to my partner of five years. My problem is that during intercourse she doesn't seem to be able to last very long, by this I mean she ejaculates long before I'm ready to and there is a lot of fluid. ...
A. 11 January 2009: Well it seems that your situation is the exact reverse of most every other couple's problem on the planet. Usually, as "satindesire" suggests, the problem is that men typically climax long before their women are much warmer than 98.6. In this ... (read in full...)
I can't get intimate with anyone
Q. I can't get intimate with any one! My last tender moment was about four years ago i don't know whats wrong. im healthy not bad looking pretty articulate if a little dyslexic.(excuse the spelling mistakes) i have full time job or tho on off for last...
A. 11 January 2009: You may be psyching yourself out - Thinking and analyzing about it too much. My recommendation would be to: 1) Relax and if necessary, fake more confidence, 2) Get out and hang where girls are abundant, such as near university spots, dance classes ... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits but looking for something more serious now.
Q. Just curious, especially want to hear what guys think. I've been friends with benefits with this guy now for a couple of months. We'll typically meet up like twice a month to hang out and go out (or stay in) for dinner together or watch a movie or ...
A. 10 January 2009: In my opinion, you might get a better idea about the chances with this guy by shortening your speech. To begin the conversation, just say the first part, i.e., "It's been fun, but I've been thinking, and I think I want to start pursuing something ... (read in full...)
G-spot ??
Q. My Girlfriend pretty much always has an orgasm when i go down on her or we have sex, the problem is after one orgasm she gets over sensitive or it doesnt feel as nice for her is there something I can do or is this alright. Also she feels ...
A. 10 January 2009: If something feels uncomfortable for her, then don't do it.... (read in full...)
My Grandma is Lonely, Why 60 plus Seniors off the market?
Q. My Grandma is a single 60+ year old woman and having alittle trouble finding love. Me and Mother is trying to do everything we can to set her up with dates, but they don't go so well. Etheir they are younger and trying to take avantage of her, or ...
A. 10 January 2009: I'm available at 61. LOL
But I'm still trying to figure out the senior single scene myself. So far, after a 20 year marriage that dissolved several years ago, I've been very fortunate to stay fairly busy, but geezers do not require quite as much... (read in full...)
Problems with sex.
Q. I had sex with my girlfriend the other day, there was white stuff all over the top of the condom. Is it possible that the girl can still have white come even if she didn't have an orgasm?...
A. 10 January 2009: This was likely a shedding of dead tissue cells from her vaginal wall. It sounds nasty, but just as everyone constantly sheds skin cells from all over their bodies, which are typically washed away during bathing, a woman also sheds skin cells from ... (read in full...)
Everything is great except for this one little detail....
Q. Hi! I need some help with my situation. I was sexually abused by a family member growing up and now am very distrustful of men in general and sensitive to their motives. This has caused me to wreck just about every relationship I've ever been in. I ...
A. 9 January 2009: Well, I'm one of the old geezers here and must admit that I was 60-years-old before I did anything like that, and it was at the lady's request. While I agree with the others that say he probably means no disrespect, I simply wonder why he always ... (read in full...)
How can you jump in bed with someone else after a break up?
Q. How can a guy , that is in a great relationship where both people absolutely love each other and have no big problems or fights and have plans for the future - just turn around in one week, break up the relationship after 2 years of dating and jump ...
A. 9 January 2009: You go girl. As I suggested, don't give up, but I agree that it may be very difficult for anyone under about age 30 or more to develop a truly serious, lasting relationship unless very lucky. I'm from an older generation, but I work with many young ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a BBW, how should I have sex with her?
Q. So i need a little help. I have a girlfriend who i love and adore. We have been together for about 3 months We went to have sex soon, but im not sure how to go about it. My girlfriend is BBW. I need some advice on how to go about having sex with ...
A. 9 January 2009: In response to "Aech135" and with advice to the poster, like I said, any position is fine. No special considerations are needed unless the woman is exceptionally obese.... (read in full...)
She keeps pausing to catch her breath during oral sex, which is ruining it for me!
Q. Hi i ve got a simple question.. My gf is not able to give me a blow job. Whenever we try for it she gets prob wit her breathin. My cock is just 5 inches.. Not tat big to choke her.. Its like she sucks my cock for 30 sec then pauses to catch her ...
A. 9 January 2009: It is fairly difficult for a young woman to continue sucking cock indefinitely, but all she likely needs to do is stroke the erection while she takes a short break. She might also add licking from base to tip, and also some licking on the scrotum ... (read in full...)
Confidence when giving a bj?
Q. How can I feel more confident when giving my boyfriend a blow job? I've been doing it for a while now and I don't really have a major problem with it or anything. The only real problem I have is that I don't like doing it when it's quiet becau...
A. 9 January 2009: While I cannot speak for every guy, the sounds that a girl makes while giving head are totally erotic to me, especially when they can take it deep. Cunnilingus for her makes slurping noises too, and I've never heard any complaints about that. Keep ... (read in full...)
When a guy invites you to his house is it for sex?
Q. When a guy invites a girl to his house, does that basically mean he just wants sex even though we're close friends? He's an older man (probably close to 50) if that means anything; he's not some young horny teen. I just want to know what his ...
A. 9 January 2009: In my opinion, it is impossible for us to suppose that he just wants sex. That would very probably be one reason, but maybe he would also like a relationship. If you are really interested, and you know him fairly well, why not? But has he also ... (read in full...)
What does foreplay really mean?
Q. I have read that size doesn't matter and stuff and that foreplay is very important. What actually does foreplay mean? And why doesn't penis size matter? I have a 5.5 inch penis when erected and 5 girth.... Is that good to satisfy a women? I'm also a ...
A. 9 January 2009: Foreplay begins with providing your woman with a romantic and comfortable atmosphere that may lead to intimacy. This can mean a nice dinner at a quiet restaurant, a evening before the fireplace on a chilly night, whatever your woman is most likely ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a BBW, how should I have sex with her?
Q. So i need a little help. I have a girlfriend who i love and adore. We have been together for about 3 months We went to have sex soon, but im not sure how to go about it. My girlfriend is BBW. I need some advice on how to go about having sex with ...
A. 8 January 2009: Kudos to "AskEve" - any position is fine with a big woman, including woman-on-top. Based on some recent experience with one girlfriend, you may not feel that you are penetrating quite as deeply, but if it makes her happy, why worry? PS - I'm about ... (read in full...)
I think she feels that she's under pressure to keep me interested...
Q. Here it is. I met a girl on the internet last summer(bet you've never heard that one before), and almost instantly we clicked. After a little while we exchanged mobile numbers, and got texting and talking to each other. I tell her that I love ...
A. 8 January 2009: Please tell me why you would ever tell a girl whom you have never met that you "love" her. Love must mean a whole lot more in Texas (my locale) than in England.... (read in full...)
That damned G Spot!
Q. So here I am, wondering about the same subject as always.... That damn male g spot. I am 25 years old, and I still haven't been able to find that magic spot. I've tried to relax my bf, he has a really good time when I touch him from behind, but he ...
A. 8 January 2009: I'm not sure what your intent is, but it is possible to give a prostate rub while giving head - and it tends to trigger a greater release of ejaculate (sperm and semen). If that is what you are attempting, lay him back and proceed with your oral ... (read in full...)
When is this going to stop hurting?
Q. I am currently going through a seperation that is 99.9% likely going to end in divorce. (It was an abusive marriage and I don't think I can fogive/forget) I find myself thinking about my husband constantly...like what he's up to, how he's feeling, ...
A. 8 January 2009: My first question must be, "Why would you want to revive an abusive relationship?" It has just always baffled me why a woman will put up with someone who even somewhat disrespects her, such as with heavy verbal criticism, or especially if they ... (read in full...)
How can you jump in bed with someone else after a break up?
Q. How can a guy , that is in a great relationship where both people absolutely love each other and have no big problems or fights and have plans for the future - just turn around in one week, break up the relationship after 2 years of dating and jump ...
A. 8 January 2009: Glad I could help a bit. But don't give up on love and devotion. In my opinion, the guys who are the best looking, "hot," sexy and cocky are the ones who typically get the girls these days - maybe it's always been such. But put yourself in their ... (read in full...)
How can you jump in bed with someone else after a break up?
Q. How can a guy , that is in a great relationship where both people absolutely love each other and have no big problems or fights and have plans for the future - just turn around in one week, break up the relationship after 2 years of dating and jump ...
A. 7 January 2009: Umm. Well as a much older man who has obviously been through many relationships and three marriages, maybe I can offer something here. Maybe not, because I've become a bit hardened after a 20 year marriage fell apart some years ago, and no longer do ... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight without going crazy or dying, please advise?
Q. How do i lose weight with out going crazy and with out dying ? xxx...
A. 7 January 2009: Power walking. And no more soda pop. I lost about 38 pounds 10 years ago that way, and have generally kept it off since - with some healthy eating and maintaining a light exercise routine. ... (read in full...)
It's not what I think it should be
Q. I've tried lots of stuff with masturbation (fingers, objects, talking dirty with my boyfriend etc.) but nothing seems to be screaming orgasm good. I've tried rubbing my clit, or where i think it is, but its never.... Hmm... What i think it should ...
A. 7 January 2009: You are very hasty to expect orgasm at your age. Many women never orgasm, but you probably will when you reach a more mature age - and if you eventually hook-up with a man who knows quite a bit about pleasing a woman. You would be very wise to ... (read in full...)
Strengthening the PC muscle?
Q. I want to strengthen my PC muscle. I'm a guy and i really cannot last any more than 10 seconds when having sex. All i want to know is whether this would help to strengthen my PC muscle. If i hang a small back on my penis and put some small w...
A. 7 January 2009: Okay. Well, I rarely had any problem with premature ejaculation after about age 17, but I've read quite a bit about Kegel exercises and discovered later in life that I had been unknowingly using the techniques to some degree most of my many years ... (read in full...)
Cant choose between the ex,the friend and the "stranger"
Q. Just to forewarn you- this is a long story and I'm gonna break into three parts. O.K recently I have somehow manage to lead on three different guys and I'm really confused about my feelings. Guy 1: I met him around September 2007 and in No...
A. 7 January 2009: Someday you will know that all this stress and complexity was just immaturity and that you are now trying way too hard to be all grown up, but sorry, you are not yet a grown woman with all her wits in place. Before you hate me for my implied insight ... (read in full...)
My GF loves giving oral sex, but she's horrible at it - how can I tell her?
Q. Hi all, im jo and im 22 years old. i have a very beautiful Gf AND She is 19. We have been dating for 3 months or more. My problem is that my gf is crazy about (Oral sex) i mean we have never spent more than 3 days without doing it for at least 1 t...
A. 7 January 2009: This occurred to me once, resulting in a deep scratch (more like a teeth mark) on the shaft that required medical attention. It was quite obvious and would become more irritated (almost infected) every time this former girlfriend gave me more head, ... (read in full...)
Arguments about anal!
Q. My fiance is always getting sexually frustrated with me and it is always about the same thing -- him wanting to perform anal sex on me!!! I'm not down with that. We've kind of tried before. Last night, we had a slight argument about it. Of course I ...
A. 6 January 2009: It may be wise to start reevaluating your intention to marry that guy. Based on your contention that he is "always" getting frustrated, arguing and begging you "all the time" to do something that you do not want to do, it seems that his respect for ... (read in full...)
Tingling sensation after I have sex...
Q. Hi, I recently started having sex on a regular basis, 2 months ago. Often after my boyfriend and I have sex, my vagina has a tingling sensation, like I need to pee and sometimes there's even traces of blood when I go to the toilet.... What's...
A. 6 January 2009: Although I'm a man, the tingling you briefly described sounds fairly normal, especially if you orgasm during intercourse or oral stimulation. Perhaps some of the Agony Aunts can confirm the sensation, but as a man I have very frequently experienced ... (read in full...)
Virgin Girl that is waiting until marriage...
Q. When I was starting to get to know a boy and the guy getting to know me But, later confused that I was a virgin and his response was that he liked me so much to have sex that he couldn't stop for me that he said that I had to lose my virginity... ...
A. 6 January 2009: You ask, "So why do men don't want to pursue a relationship with a virgin girl like myself?"
Because they primarily just want the sex. You need to stand your ground and wait for a young man who falls in love with you and is willing to wait. Do what... (read in full...)
He has trouble staying hard and letting himself cum.
Q. Dear Cupid.. I was searching ANYWHERE for an answer to my question, and I stumbled along this site.. I read someone else's question: "My boyfriend does not ejaculate during any sexual acts, is it because of his prior masturbating?" and the person...
A. 5 January 2009: In my opinion, "Yos" is on the right track here. Your guy is probably just nervous. Key indicators you provided: You are a bit older and more experienced. You are his first girlfriend and apparently his first sexual experience with a woman. He ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm not big enough for her!
Q. I have never had sex but me and my girlfriend want to. I worry about my penis. I measured it and it's 5.5 inches but I'm only sixteen. Her ex was about 2 or 3 inches longer from what I've been told. I'm scared....
A. 5 January 2009: You're normal.... (read in full...)
Do condoms affect man's performance?
Q. When my boyfriend and I are having sex, he will cum within a few minutes and I am usually left wanting more, whereas he is tired. I'm not sure if his age affects it, but he is 19. Sometimes he wants to try to cum again, after already cumming,...
A. 5 January 2009: Of course condoms affect sexual sensitivity for a man, which is why most of us hate using them. These things do provide some significant protection against sexually transmitted diseases, and usually help prevent pregnancy - if either are an issue. ... (read in full...)
Husband has heart problems and our sex life stinks
Q. dear cupid i am 40 years old and me and my husband have been married for 5 yearsi love him very much. he has heart problems and they have been bad for the last few years. he still gets around and is doing good now and i feel bad for saying this but ...
A. 5 January 2009: With or without heart problems, many partners suffer from serious sexual incompatibility problems. What we hear about, such as on this Web site, is probably like the tip of an iceberg. Much more lies beneath the surface.
There are many sugg... (read in full...)
No orgasm during sex
Q. I'm very interested in hearing from both females who actually have or have had this issue, or males who have known a female in my situation. I'm 17, have been sexually active for about three years, and have had two partners (within relation...
A. 5 January 2009: It is understood that at your age, orgasm via intercourse alone might be an elusive threshold - which is typical. In such cases, oral (cunnilingus) has always served me and my mates very well, but in your case, it may depend upon the male's ... (read in full...)
Does taking speed and drugs stop a guy from getting a hard on?
Q. Does taking speed and drugs stop a guy from getting a hard on?...
A. 5 January 2009: In my opinion, light to moderate marijuana use, no problem with erections based on past experience during the 1960s-70s. No personal experience with anything else except blood pressure meds (beta blockers), which can definitely affect the issue ... (read in full...)
How can I make my penis scars less noticeable?
Q. Hi im 19 years old male and still virgin. I have a great relationship with a great girl for 2 years atm. She asked me for sex 18-19 months ago, and never stop asking yet. She says she finds me attractive and wants to make our relationship "co...
A. 4 January 2009: I've never heard about a situation that the testes are considered too big. The larger the better. Your "equipment" is otherwise quite normal, despite some reasonable scarring I would think. Don't worry about it. In my opinion, that should not ... (read in full...)
Beautiful Girls need loving too! Why aren't Caucasion guys giving me any??
Q. I am a attractive and slender, dark hair, dark eyes with a sophisticated air woman.. I get compliments often of my looks. Usually men who are old enough to be my dad or uncle.. but mostly from the outspoken African American Males. All I seem to get ...
A. 4 January 2009: You are absolutely correct that most Caucasian males will be somewhat intimidated by a strikingly beautiful woman. We always figure that our chances are slim to none. Good guys hate being rejected, and that is what we typically figure will occur. ... (read in full...)
Why do girls feel the need to lose their virginity at a young age?
Q. Why do girls feel the need to lose their virginity at a young age? I know when I settle down,I want someone who hasn't slept around with many partners. All sleeping around seems to do at a young age is get girls popularity and a nasty reputatio...
A. 4 January 2009: Unfortunately, many succumb to peer pressure. In other words, they think that sex is the thing to do, when it would really be much wiser to refrain until they are of advanced maturity. At the time that young women are extremely susceptible to ... (read in full...)
Are my fetishes normal?
Q. I have a few fetishes and was wondering if any of them were not normal. 1)I am extremely attracted to redheaded females 2)I am turned on by pregnant women 3)I find older women more attractive than girls my own age. I'm also 18 and have tho...
A. 4 January 2009: Yep, I love redheads and pregnant women are kind of an attraction, although I consider them entirely off-limits except to the appropriate fathers. And as far as older women, that used to be the case for me, but not much since I'm now at about age ... (read in full...)
I want to change the way I am in life... but how???
Q. Hiya me and my bf have been together now for 1 month and 4 days but when I get angry I get in weird moods, I want to stop these moods now but I don't know how. I love him and I don't want to lose him. I want to change my life as I actually don't ...
A. 4 January 2009: So . . . What is the problem? What do you do that is weird?... (read in full...)
Do males enjoy giving oral, or do they just do it to keep us happy?
Q. Do males enjoy giving oral, or do they just do it to keep us happy?...
A. 4 January 2009: While not speaking for all, some of us have a splendid time pleasing our women this way - often providing their first ever full-blown orgasm. It only gets better after that !... (read in full...)
Questions about pubic hair....
Q. How do women prefer their man's pubic hair?Completely shaved/Trimmed/Etc? Also why do men like a woman's pubic hair completely shaved? I haven't seen a Vagina or a girl naked in person,but I know I'd prefer for her to have some form of hair oth...
A. 4 January 2009: You may not care for the opinion of a much older man, but I must agree that at least a fair amount of pubes is better. Over many years, I personally trimmed girlfriends and a longtime wife (not concurrently), just to shorten the bush a bit. This ... (read in full...)
When is the right time to have sex?
Q. Hey.. just a random question. When is it the right time to have sex? people say its when you feel ready But is it okay to do it when you feel ready after just a day or so?? or wrong to do it when your not with someone?? i personally think people ...
A. 3 January 2009: You are apparently of legal age to decide for yourself - and therefore your views are not at all wrong (for you). There is no right or wrong for everyone. You should probably consider that your views are not to be imposed upon others, although you ... (read in full...)
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